Comments on: Because You’re Doing It Wrong You Dunderhead!

By: cosmicdan

cosmicdan — Sat, 01 Jan 2011 21:15:45 +0000

Brian’s story shows a good reason for a married man to find fulfillment with a prostitute or mistress. If he’s tried everything to get his wife to have sex with him – and it sounds like he has – then he is entitled to look elsewhere.

By: Dr.Whiplash

Dr.Whiplash — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 17:00:27 +0000

Note to Brian:

My ex-wife had a whole set of conditions that had to be met before she would “allow” me to have sex with her. Usually, meeting them didn’t even really get me any closer to the goal. Come to find out she was lesbian. …just sayin’…

By: Brian

Brian — Fri, 29 Oct 2004 06:48:30 +0000

I found her article totally unhelpful to me. I was a full partner in raising our child (diapers, baby-sitting, all of it) I did – and do – take full part in household chores (I do dishes, I do laundry, I clean the bathroom, I do all the grocery shopping). I was unable to find anything in her article that related to me. My wife has said she’s simply not interested in sex, happier without it. She will still “allow” me to have sex with her, but without enthusiasm and absolutely no initiative. We’ve talked about it, and her response is basically she no longer has any interest, and doesn’t feel the need to do anything about it. She says she’s sad that it makes me unhappy, but not enough to make it any different.
I’m sure there are many men to whom her comments apply, but as for me, I found no help at all.

By: farvfhegnugen

farvfhegnugen — Thu, 22 Jan 2004 21:23:02 +0000

Thanks for putting your finger on what was wrong with the piece. Most of what she says is spot on, but there’s something about the underlying tone o fthe whole thing, and you nailed it. If it’s truly a partnership, whoever is put off by something has a responsibility to discuss it, or find subtle ways to change it.