If it’s an easily replaced item, like the butt plug she used on her previous boyfriend when they played dom/sub games, then I say even if she kept it, I think it’s time to replace it. Yeah, even it was always used wrapped in a condom first. Unless, of course, that turns you on…

However. If I have dungeon furniture, unless I’m as wealthy as Bill Gates, I say I’m not trashing my pillory, my spanking bench, my St. Andrew’s cross, or even my genuine police-issue handcuffs. Sorry.

And I don’t think I need to be asking questions like, “Did you wear that lace-up girdle with “HIM”…” or “How long have you had that Hitachi wand vibrator honey?”

I think every individual has to run their own “gut check”. If you’re both swingers, and you’re used to participating in orgies, then it’s probably a non-issue.

Different people may have different answers to this type of question. Some couples could probably discuss it beforehand.