Comments on: A Basic Rule For Gentlemen

By: Bacchus

Bacchus — Sun, 11 Jul 2010 03:01:42 +0000

“Sincerity is the important thing. Once you can fake that, you’ve got it made.”

I guess my point is, a gentleman should strive to make the lady comfortable whether or not the blood bothers him. That’s a matter for his own personal development, and not all of us are going to be equally enlightened. Neuroses and squick happens. But that’s personal baggage, not to be inflicted on your bed partner if you can possibly help it.

By: Molly Ren

Molly Ren — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 19:05:45 +0000

“Women, Zeus love ‘em, emit at various times from their juicier parts an entertaining variety of fluids, smells, and flavors. And they tend to be freaked as hell about it, which means they are always washing, swabbing, denaturalizing, sterilizing, and fumigating themselves with soaps and perfumes strong enough kill an entire flock of peregrine falcons passing three city blocks away. If you like the scent or taste of any of a woman’s natural juices, you’ll be smart and shut the hell up about any you don’t like. “Blood? What blood? I didn’t see any blood.” The last thing you ever want to do is encourage, acknowledge, or reinforce a woman’s self-consciousness. In sticky situations, it’s your solemn duty to make her laugh and then change the subject real quick.”

Old post, but I had to comment. I’d say that, even better than pretending you don’t care, is a guy who actually *doesn’t* care about body fluids. One of the things I loved the most about DC Boy is that he was almost impossible to embarrass about anything, whether it be menstrual blood or fetishes. Once during some post-sex cuddling I said, “You know, I know we both want to go to sleep right now, but if I don’t get up and put a pad on I will get blood all over your sheets”. His answer? “I’ll just wash them later”, and we snuggled up more and went to sleep like that. :D

Of course, for most of us, that kind of attitude takes work and conscious effort to achieve. Even though I’ve known many dudes who don’t care about the blood, I still find myself reflexively warning them that there will be, and wondering if they’re telling the truth when they say they don’t mind!

I’ve never had 1,000 thread count sheets, though I used to want them. The more I have sex, tho, the sillier they seem, and the more indicative of a lack of actual sexual experience. People who actually fuck–who have orgies, or swing, or help set up spaces for events where sexual activity is allowed–always get the cheapest sheets possible, because they *know* there’s going to be a mess!

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By: Avalon

Avalon — Sat, 27 Oct 2007 09:09:40 +0000

May I suggest placing an old quilt or a mattress protector on the bed under the sheet? I rent out rooms and always do this. Then, when a little “accident” happens I whip off the protector and throw it in the bin declaring that it is virtually disposable and please “don’t worry” as the mattress is the big ticket item.

By: Somnial

Somnial — Thu, 04 Oct 2007 00:31:42 +0000

After many years of blissful matrimony, my sweetheart’s medical condition causes occasional losses of control. In the spirit of a gentleman I assure her: “There’s guys who pay extra for that.” I would be less than a man to do otherwise.
If you are going to share your bodies, then you should be capable of anticipating and dealing with the consequences especially since this sort of phenomenon is not impossible to anticipate.

By: Nia

Nia — Mon, 24 Sep 2007 21:27:31 +0000

“I’m a woman, my body has functions and fluids. And I deserve a man who will venerate my body in all its biological glory.”

I concur, though that doesn’t stop me from sleeping with caution when bleeding vaginally. My lover has all white, pristine linens.. He is also a tad blood-phobic.. So I respect that and take extra care not to bleed on him or his possessions.. Lol.

While I rather enjoy sex on the rag (hahaha “rag”) he doesn’t.. :(

Respect and good communication are vital, I think in the maintenance of any healthy relationship, affair, tryst, etc.

And by the way, blessed be Bacchus! What a gentleman! I love fellows like you

By: Avalanche

Avalanche — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 13:20:38 +0000

Chris: “my (now ex-)husband … carefully washing himself and then coming back to wipe me – and _not_ as a prelude to more fun-and-games. …”

I, on the other hand, will bring a warm soapy washcloth and a hot wet washcloth to bed “after” and lovingly wash off my beloved husband so he doesn’t have to sleep with a sticky … er… stick.It’s part of showing my gratitude toward him,
and partly just common sense for me! (And if I use the washclothes to prevent myself from ‘sleeping sticky’ too, so much the better!