A wee bit of sexual sanity from Steff:

My lovers have carte blanche to roll over and begin playing with me anytime they want. They know thereís a chance I will say no or push ’em away, but a better chance Iíll say yes, and most importantly, they know Iíd never fault ’em for trying. And you shouldnít either. You should never leave your lover feeling trepidatious about sharing their desire with you. That should go without saying, but fuck, one could write a book about it.

Indeed one could. I’ve known men who dared not try to initiate sex with their wives, for fear that they would be (and this is a quote) “punished”.