Comments on: Paying For Stuff Is Sexy

By: Cubbuano

Cubbuano — Fri, 19 May 2006 06:07:00 +0000

Men offering to pay: it goes beyond dating. It’s just good ol’ generousity at work.

It works with men, too… if you’re out with the boys, buying a friend a beer or two will make him more amenable towards you.

With women, becoming amenable is the first step towards something romantic…!

By: ekdikos

ekdikos — Thu, 18 May 2006 12:26:00 +0000

Personally, I think that the more expensive dates should be saved until later in a relationship.

Take the issue of dinner or supper:
If you are worried about the whole ‘who pays’ question, just pick some ingredients up from the store and tell your date to bring some. Then prepare the meal together, and if you want to pack it up and take it out somewhere like the park.

It’s more intimate that way, anyway; and besides, I think you can glean a much better idea of the person you are with.

Actually, I find I enjoy that much more than going out for fine dining… not that my cooking isn’t fine dining, thank you very much.

By: Christian

Christian — Wed, 17 May 2006 05:36:00 +0000

Now this is interesting. I consider myself gentlemanly, and do pay by default. The silent understanding is that at some point in the future someone will get the next meal/round/whatever.

I have been out with women, and when it comes to getting the bill not a single one of them has attempted to get the bill (on the first or subsequent meals), or offered to pay for it.

The girl who does one day take the initiative will gain more respect from me than the others. I feel that it shows she is willing to continue the dining relationship (which may lead on to something else), as opposed to getting very nice free meals in good company.

This is of course based on dates. When in relationships it starts to become a bit more equal. Althoug I’ve found the man pays more anyway.

Perhaps its my english schoolboy upbringing.

By: Thad

Thad — Tue, 16 May 2006 09:03:00 +0000

When women feel totally loved and adored are much more likely to let go.

By: magnolia31

magnolia31 — Sat, 13 May 2006 14:03:00 +0000

Well, to chip in, I have to say that I have observed that the more gorgeous the woman/man the more men, and women too, are willing to pamper her/him. Oh, and this includes willingness to put up with various sorts of BS while engaged in said pampering. I think Aphrodite is right, in the sense that it does show how seriously the other person is attracted to her. I doubt it shows much about how nice they are or how much they care about her, unless it is later in the relationship. That said, I personally adore to have a man run the date. It’s nice to just have someone else take care of you, and it’s just so easy and relaxing. Plus there is the surprise–what does he have planned? All that is lost if you go dutch–he needs to make sure it isn’t too expensive, you have to talk about what you both want and like since you’re going equally. Tiresome. I love the surprise of a well-planned date, and love to do the same for my lover as well. It’s fun.

By: Sabrina

Sabrina — Thu, 11 May 2006 09:37:00 +0000

Personally I enjoy reversing chivalry – holding doors, moving out chairs, and paying for meals for guys I’m interested in. It feels good to be able to take care of them, simple as that, and there’s the side benefit of seeing whether or not they can take it with grace as well as dish it out – by which I mean remember to reciprocate.

By: Ava

Ava — Wed, 10 May 2006 16:53:00 +0000

Okay, I decided to look around via searches for your comments, Bacchus, because I know you made them, and here they are:

“Ladies, when it comes success with women, men are interested in what works. On that subject, outrage and indignation about successful strategies is just water off a duck’s back to us.”

So, Bacchus, please don’t state that I was quoting “words attributed to me that I did not say.” They are there in black and white. Any gross misrepresentation is in your denial in writing them.

I did make one mistake, however, your comments weren’t in the original post, they were in your response to Norma Rae above. So, I apologize for stating that you edited your post, when the reality is that the “dire calumny against men” was in your own comment to Norma Rae’s comment, rather than in the original post.