Point A: People marry their “one and only” and x years later the divorce is brutal, both sexes do vile things to the former “love of their life”.

Point B: It is well known that men troll craigslist W4W with ‘fake’ stolen photos of women in order to interact with women who (obviously) want nothing to do with men; as a result the ‘pic for pic’ request is usually a sure sign that a guy is trolling in the hope of getting more photos, preferably nudes from an unsuspecting stranger.

Point C: TheGirl is expressing the obvious and logical reality that a photo in someone else’s hands can and does end up places you might not appreciate, so only a fool allows photos to be taken unless they truly do not care where it will end up. Ever. (ref: Vanessa Williams, former Miss America 1984, stripped of her crown due to the publication in Penthouse of nude photos of her.)

Point D: What was fun and sexy in your youth is not necessarily something you will enjoy explaining to your children many years later. Not that one should refrain from said fun, but that the intersection between the photos and the children might occur at a difficult time and be not only embarrassing but not indicative of one’s moral values (either current or former).

My point is that it is far simpler to not indulge in photos than to try to regain ownership of them. Even your own computer can be compromised and photos stolen or seen inadvertently, so using your own camera is no safeguard.

The larger issue is that it is not possible to be ABSOLUTELY certain of another person. Love and trust are always a gamble, one willingly taken as the gains far outweigh the risks. As was clear from some posts here it is as possible that a woman will share or abuse photos as a man will. (Abuse meaning use against the subject in the photo.) Some might say men would care less about nude photos of them running around the net, but what if they appear on a gay porn site? So both men and women have something to lose.

It can be a tough question. Everyone’s choice should be respected. But … there are always asshats who will take clandestine “upskirt” photos, etc etc. What might sound like harmless fun for twenty-something guys to share becomes something different when they do it to ridicule older women or when older men do it to young girls (as happened in a student-teacher situation in my area in the past 6 months).

My bottom line is that I believe that anyone who allows someone to take photos (esp digital) of them is giving that person defacto license to use or abuse those photos in whatever way they choose. Granted they have not signed a release but that is irrelevant on the anonymous web.

All of that having been said, I for one am TRULY grateful that so many lovely and obviously willing women allow a wide, wide range of nude photos to be taken of them and shared freely. Web porn has truly changed MY life as woman, and even if I don’t want my own photos scattered about at random I am immensely happy that there are people who are so confident in their own self and sexuality that they do what I won’t. God bless them all!!

Taking pictures is a lot of fun, and its sad to think that women will miss out on the fun because of the behaviour of some arsehole. I’d suggest that they take the advice of one the girls commentors - only use your camera, the pictures are yours.

It does happen.

I don’t think if it does it honestly means you’re only attracted to guys who want to screw you over unless it starts happening say every single time.

Are some men dicks? Hell yes! I’ve known a lot of women whose pictures have shown up online during and after a relationship. However, in every case you could take one look at the dude and know he was capable of such asshatery.

Not every man is a cad. Some are and yes, when you let someone take nekkid pics of you, you should keep in mind who you’re exposing yourself to. And sometimes you’re wrong and the person you trusted is a prick. But not all the time.

Shrugh. I don’t buy that all men are such assholes.

What they’re not seeing is that they are actually attracted to this. Non-asshole traits simply don’t appear on the radar of these folks.