I shared my experience as being about my wife. There was nothing in my statement which can be construed as suggesting that my experience is universal or even common. Simply my experience of one data point.

I then questioned how many data points Smith could have. I was not saying I was right and he was wrong - how could I, as one anecdote does not contradict another. I WAS suggesting that the gramatical universalizing of his experience was wrong.

Without more context, I think my interpretation of Smith’s intent was correct. I can see a non-frivilous argument that I may have read too much into it when thinking it was meant as universal, or at least as a general rule. However, I cannot see a non-frivilous agrument for reading my intent as suggesting that my experience is universal or common, and I remain perplexed at your hostility to my attempt to make the exact same point that you then tried to make against me.

If you had responded to me by suggesting I was reading too much into Smith’s quote, that would have been much more appropriate than reading the same non-existant intent in my statement, with far less gramatical support, and then using your misreading of my statement to attack my logic skills. And then, after I explained I was making the same point you tried to use against me, you AGAIN accussed me of “play[ing] the “I’m right and you’re wrongâ€? game.

I *suspect* your hostility comes from the fact that you agree that Smith’s quote is, if not universal, the general rule (”a common and valuable human experience he’s sharing, one I’ve heard about from many sources”), and, applying common with-us-or-against-us reasoning, assumed that anyone questioning your beliefs must be asserting an opposing belief. But that is just a suspicion, I could be wrong. Perhaps you just hate people whose screen names begin with a D and end with an a. Or perhaps you just always argue with the 6th commenter as a debating exercise, I don’t come here often enough, so I don’t know. It IS clear that your hostility has nothing to do with trying make a reasonable interpretation of what I wrote.

You can’t refute something that never got claimed. And when you argue with stories by telling a different story, it’s arrogant to then say “I win unless you have more stories than I do.” Which is the implication I took from your comment.

As for my own view, I quoted the quote because it’s a common and valuable human experience he’s sharing, one I’ve heard about from many sources. Universal? Obviously not, nor did anybody ever say so. But is it an experience worth sharing, a potential state of affairs worth considering and commenting on? Of course it is. And so, too, is yours, if only you had refrained from trying to play the “I’m right and you’re wrong” game after sharing it.

I guess that is the reason I have sex with my wife more then the average husband. I help around the house.

It is all about taking care of eachother’s needs. She needs help with the house work and I need sex.

I often hear ‘anecdotal evidence’ about how women find a clean house sexy, because it means their man has put some effort and thought into a gesture for her. Most men don’t care too much about a messy house (no surprises), but most women do (for whatever reason). The fewer things on a someone’s to-do list, they more they can relax and enjoy themselves.

If you want your partner to be more relaxed, take a few things off that to-do list for her. Make the kid’s lunches, clean up, wash the dishes, do some laundry.

What’s more manly, sitting in front of the TV while your wife cleans up, or having wild sex with your wife because the housekeeping was done as a joint effort?

Sex may not be the most important thing in marriage but without it you don’t have a marriage at all, you have a roommate. I don’t need a roommate, I need a wife.

If you don’t take care of your man, then he will find someone who will. That is just a fact.