Comments on: Anal Sex: Reading The Signs http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/ Sex Blogging, Gratuitous Nudity, Kinky Sex, Sundry Sensuality Sun, 23 Nov 2008 11:42:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Daemon http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-9448 Daemon Sat, 23 Sep 2006 02:44:25 +0000 http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-9448 I have to wonder what the tattoo artist was thinking. Not a day to skip the shower. I have to wonder what the tattoo artist was thinking. Not a day to skip the shower.

]]> By: Bacchus http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-9367 Bacchus Thu, 21 Sep 2006 23:39:52 +0000 http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-9367 Thanks, Caprice. Somehow, Bon Gart, your comments escaped my notice, or I'd have responded ere now. Bottom line, Bonnie Boy, is that I'll waggle my finger at whomever I please. And I'm waggling it at <strong>you</strong>. Karl is a longstanding participant here. As such, he's earned a bit of forbearance. His persona as a creature of barely-controlled lust is, in my view, a deliberately humorous construct. As such, I did not -- and do not -- consider that he was undermining the <strong>rule</strong> adhered to by all civilized men -- that no means no. Your failure to recognize that he was not attacking that rule betrays some combination of humorlessness and unfamiliarity with the local characters. Your repeated pedantry on the subject puts me in mind of the <a href="http://www.erosblog.com/2003/08/12/soon-to-be-a-daddy/" rel="nofollow">knee-jerk safe sex people</a>, who can't help injecting safe-sex dogma into every conversation, no matter how inappropriate it may be to the topic. Thanks, Caprice.

Somehow, Bon Gart, your comments escaped my notice, or I’d have responded ere now.

Bottom line, Bonnie Boy, is that I’ll waggle my finger at whomever I please. And I’m waggling it at you.

Karl is a longstanding participant here. As such, he’s earned a bit of forbearance. His persona as a creature of barely-controlled lust is, in my view, a deliberately humorous construct. As such, I did not — and do not — consider that he was undermining the rule adhered to by all civilized men — that no means no.

Your failure to recognize that he was not attacking that rule betrays some combination of humorlessness and unfamiliarity with the local characters. Your repeated pedantry on the subject puts me in mind of the knee-jerk safe sex people, who can’t help injecting safe-sex dogma into every conversation, no matter how inappropriate it may be to the topic.

]]> By: caprice http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-9363 caprice Thu, 21 Sep 2006 22:58:28 +0000 http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-9363 "But don’t EVER friggin waggle your finger at someone who attempts to put the Kibosh on people reinforcing the idea that No means NO." i don't think he was waggling his finger at that. i got the impression he was waggling his finger at the commenter that said that the vagina was better, since without specifying that it is better "for me" he was implying that the vagina is better for everyone, thus also implying that his way is the only right/normal/healthy way and that anal sex not the norm. sorry, don't mean to speak for you bacchus, but if you regularly read this blog bon gart, you will understand that there has never been anything said that would imply that bacchus is "open minded to rape" as you said. if anything, the distinction has been made between actual rape and sex play that might include rape fantasies. i don't think he's ever embraced a culture that thinks raping is ok. “But don’t EVER friggin waggle your finger at someone who attempts to put the Kibosh on people reinforcing the idea that No means NO.”

i don’t think he was waggling his finger at that. i got the impression he was waggling his finger at the commenter that said that the vagina was better, since without specifying that it is better “for me” he was implying that the vagina is better for everyone, thus also implying that his way is the only right/normal/healthy way and that anal sex not the norm.

sorry, don’t mean to speak for you bacchus, but if you regularly read this blog bon gart, you will understand that there has never been anything said that would imply that bacchus is “open minded to rape” as you said. if anything, the distinction has been made between actual rape and sex play that might include rape fantasies. i don’t think he’s ever embraced a culture that thinks raping is ok.

]]> By: Bon Gart http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-9132 Bon Gart Tue, 19 Sep 2006 16:02:12 +0000 http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-9132 oh, and just as an added point, you can't really tell me to STOP posting comments like these, unless Stop in fact does mean Stop. You can't really tell me "No Posting of offensive or inflamitory remarks" unless No means No. You can assume that Karl Elvis was kidding. You have no proof of that however. But although humor can indeed be one way of dealing with serious subjects, there are indeed men out there who actually believe that No does not mean No, and that Stop does not mean stop. Don't believe me? Two words for you. Date Rape. The picture is funny. The picture does not mean that if you happen to actually SEE a hint of that tattoo peeking through a bikini, you should immediately run up, drop trou, and begin to push through the sign. We have no idea if this person LIKES anal sex and is poking fun at it, or does NOT like anal sex and decided to make a poingnant stand. All we can assume is that STOP means STOP. oh, and just as an added point, you can’t really tell me to STOP posting comments like these, unless Stop in fact does mean Stop. You can’t really tell me “No Posting of offensive or inflamitory remarks” unless No means No.

You can assume that Karl Elvis was kidding. You have no proof of that however.

But although humor can indeed be one way of dealing with serious subjects, there are indeed men out there who actually believe that No does not mean No, and that Stop does not mean stop. Don’t believe me? Two words for you. Date Rape.

The picture is funny. The picture does not mean that if you happen to actually SEE a hint of that tattoo peeking through a bikini, you should immediately run up, drop trou, and begin to push through the sign. We have no idea if this person LIKES anal sex and is poking fun at it, or does NOT like anal sex and decided to make a poingnant stand. All we can assume is that STOP means STOP.

]]> By: Bon Gart http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-9123 Bon Gart Tue, 19 Sep 2006 14:02:36 +0000 http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-9123 Bacchus, it's your blog, it's your rules. But don't EVER friggin waggle your finger at someone who attempts to put the Kibosh on people reinforcing the idea that No means NO. Ok... sure, there were jokes made. Jokes bordering on encouraging rape. Yeah, yeah, I know.. my saying that rape comment... it is bordering on my saying that MY way of NOT having rape sex is the only way to have sex, while you on the other hand are more open minded to rape. I understand all of that. But the joke was made, and someone actually responsible enough made sure that people understood the facts as truth, not the joke as truth. Don't decide that you want to be popular with those whom you consider to have a good sense of humor, in favor of those who are actually in the right. NO means No, and Stop means Stop. If you disagree, then let's arrange something where you will change your mind. I guarantee we could figure out something where you would say NO and STOP and really mean it, and you would WISH that I believed you. Bacchus, it’s your blog, it’s your rules.

But don’t EVER friggin waggle your finger at someone who attempts to put the Kibosh on people reinforcing the idea that No means NO. Ok… sure, there were jokes made. Jokes bordering on encouraging rape.

Yeah, yeah, I know.. my saying that rape comment… it is bordering on my saying that MY way of NOT having rape sex is the only way to have sex, while you on the other hand are more open minded to rape. I understand all of that. But the joke was made, and someone actually responsible enough made sure that people understood the facts as truth, not the joke as truth. Don’t decide that you want to be popular with those whom you consider to have a good sense of humor, in favor of those who are actually in the right.

NO means No, and Stop means Stop. If you disagree, then let’s arrange something where you will change your mind. I guarantee we could figure out something where you would say NO and STOP and really mean it, and you would WISH that I believed you.

]]> By: koshka http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-8929 koshka Sat, 16 Sep 2006 04:16:16 +0000 http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-8929 aahhh,anal sex discussion, the perfect antidote to a day of rampant capitalism. I've been lucky enough to have some very enjoyable experiences, and here's what I've learned: -sometimes we women are just insatiable, and that's the best time for introducing anal play -after he has come once, and even better if I have too, his erection is calmer and I am more relaxed. -add a vibe on my clit to distract from the initial discomfort, and straight to the moon -oh yeah, lotsa lube I really hated it the first two times I tried it, but the third time's a charm. aahhh,anal sex discussion, the perfect antidote to a day of rampant capitalism.
I’ve been lucky enough to have some very enjoyable experiences, and here’s what I’ve learned:
-sometimes we women are just insatiable, and that’s the best time for introducing anal play
-after he has come once, and even better if I have too, his erection is calmer and I am more relaxed.
-add a vibe on my clit to distract from the initial discomfort, and straight to the moon
-oh yeah, lotsa lube
I really hated it the first two times I tried it, but the third time’s a charm.

]]> By: Karl Elvis http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-8914 Karl Elvis Fri, 15 Sep 2006 23:35:40 +0000 http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-8914 Excellent point, Eric, though I think I'd prefer one was says "Yield". Oh, and Dracoda, of course no means no and stop means stop. But not with <i>you</i>. Excellent point, Eric, though I think I’d prefer one was says “Yield”.

Oh, and Dracoda, of course no means no and stop means stop. But not with you.

]]> By: Eric http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-8908 Eric Fri, 15 Sep 2006 21:57:57 +0000 http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-8908 It says "stop", not "no entry"... "A stop sign is a traffic sign, usually erected at road junctions, that instructs drivers to make a brief and temporary, but complete, stop upon reaching it, and then to proceed only if the way ahead is clear." (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stop_sign) :-D It says “stop”, not “no entry”…

“A stop sign is a traffic sign, usually erected at road junctions, that instructs drivers to make a brief and temporary, but complete, stop upon reaching it, and then to proceed only if the way ahead is clear.” (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stop_sign)

:-D

]]> By: aag http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-8905 aag Fri, 15 Sep 2006 20:49:14 +0000 http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-8905 Having only violated my ass myself, I cannot comment on partner issues. All I can say is that with a little relaxation and a lot of lube, it feels very very different than something in the puss. Different and good, in a forbidden and super-hot way. I feel certain that Karl Elvis knows that stop means stop, except when you've decided beforehand that stop means "ohmygodpleasepleasepleasekeepgoing." :D Having only violated my ass myself, I cannot comment on partner issues.

All I can say is that with a little relaxation and a lot of lube, it feels very very different than something in the puss. Different and good, in a forbidden and super-hot way.

I feel certain that Karl Elvis knows that stop means stop, except when you’ve decided beforehand that stop means “ohmygodpleasepleasepleasekeepgoing.”

:D

]]> By: Bacchus http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-8895 Bacchus Fri, 15 Sep 2006 17:55:18 +0000 http://www.erosblog.com/2006/09/14/anal-sex-reading-the-signs/#comment-8895 Silvia, your boyfriends were clueless. If it hurts, <b>stop</b>. You guys actually <i>were</i> doing it wrong, from the sound of it. Patience, relaxation, love, laughter, lots of lube -- it's not supposed to hurt. It's not for everyone; some guys are too big (not many); some women have trouble relaxing (more). There's an element of trust/chemistry to that, so what worked with one guy/girl combo might not work with another. Silvia, your boyfriends were clueless. If it hurts, stop.

You guys actually were doing it wrong, from the sound of it. Patience, relaxation, love, laughter, lots of lube — it’s not supposed to hurt.

It’s not for everyone; some guys are too big (not many); some women have trouble relaxing (more). There’s an element of trust/chemistry to that, so what worked with one guy/girl combo might not work with another.

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