Somehow, Bon Gart, your comments escaped my notice, or I’d have responded ere now.

Bottom line, Bonnie Boy, is that I’ll waggle my finger at whomever I please. And I’m waggling it at you.

Karl is a longstanding participant here. As such, he’s earned a bit of forbearance. His persona as a creature of barely-controlled lust is, in my view, a deliberately humorous construct. As such, I did not — and do not — consider that he was undermining the rule adhered to by all civilized men — that no means no.

Your failure to recognize that he was not attacking that rule betrays some combination of humorlessness and unfamiliarity with the local characters. Your repeated pedantry on the subject puts me in mind of the knee-jerk safe sex people, who can’t help injecting safe-sex dogma into every conversation, no matter how inappropriate it may be to the topic.

i don’t think he was waggling his finger at that. i got the impression he was waggling his finger at the commenter that said that the vagina was better, since without specifying that it is better “for me” he was implying that the vagina is better for everyone, thus also implying that his way is the only right/normal/healthy way and that anal sex not the norm.

sorry, don’t mean to speak for you bacchus, but if you regularly read this blog bon gart, you will understand that there has never been anything said that would imply that bacchus is “open minded to rape” as you said. if anything, the distinction has been made between actual rape and sex play that might include rape fantasies. i don’t think he’s ever embraced a culture that thinks raping is ok.

You can assume that Karl Elvis was kidding. You have no proof of that however.

But although humor can indeed be one way of dealing with serious subjects, there are indeed men out there who actually believe that No does not mean No, and that Stop does not mean stop. Don’t believe me? Two words for you. Date Rape.

The picture is funny. The picture does not mean that if you happen to actually SEE a hint of that tattoo peeking through a bikini, you should immediately run up, drop trou, and begin to push through the sign. We have no idea if this person LIKES anal sex and is poking fun at it, or does NOT like anal sex and decided to make a poingnant stand. All we can assume is that STOP means STOP.

But don’t EVER friggin waggle your finger at someone who attempts to put the Kibosh on people reinforcing the idea that No means NO. Ok… sure, there were jokes made. Jokes bordering on encouraging rape.

Yeah, yeah, I know.. my saying that rape comment… it is bordering on my saying that MY way of NOT having rape sex is the only way to have sex, while you on the other hand are more open minded to rape. I understand all of that. But the joke was made, and someone actually responsible enough made sure that people understood the facts as truth, not the joke as truth. Don’t decide that you want to be popular with those whom you consider to have a good sense of humor, in favor of those who are actually in the right.

NO means No, and Stop means Stop. If you disagree, then let’s arrange something where you will change your mind. I guarantee we could figure out something where you would say NO and STOP and really mean it, and you would WISH that I believed you.