Comments on: Flashing From A Window

By: absent

absent — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 04:51:05 +0000

I’m sorry if this comment is out of place, but francis’ comment made me laugh the longest and hardest I have all day, and I have been watching comedy re-runs all day.

By: hlagh

hlagh — Sat, 16 Dec 2006 05:40:01 +0000

Yep, Yankees parade. I remember the photo circulating then (and had kept a copy for a while!). The girl was arrested for public nudity, IIRC>

By: hoden

hoden — Mon, 27 Nov 2006 00:30:52 +0000

that photo comes from the yankees parade after they won the 1996 world series, doesn’t it?

By: Aero

Aero — Fri, 20 Oct 2006 21:25:11 +0000

Thank you, Bacchus. Well said. And this is a great, fun picture.

By: Car

Car — Fri, 20 Oct 2006 19:27:49 +0000

First of all, why is it a hypocritical double-standard for Bacchus to promote sexuality and respect at the same time? I wasn’t aware that it’s impossible to have both.

Second of all, why is anyone assuming to know what she’s thinking? She could be just trying to get attention, inclucing lewd comments, or she could be expressing her freedom, or she could be expressing the artistic beauty of femininity, or she could just be doing it for one person below without the knowledge that someone’s taking a picture. My point is no one knows what’s going on in her head except her. So to claim that she’s definetly asking for it is bullshit. And although this might be the internet where no one can actually get raped, I think encouraging that kind of mentality also encourages the same kind of mentality that does actually lead men to rape women who might be wearing revealing clothing, or acting a certain way. That’s the very debate that goes on during rape trials. So I’m totally with Bacchus here. But it is pretty subjective, and there are women who post pictures and videos on the internet seeking the lewd attention of men. Hovever, unless we know her intentions, how about we not assume we do? Just like how in real life a man should never assume a woman wants it unless she explicity says so.

By: Francis

Francis — Fri, 20 Oct 2006 07:57:10 +0000

Man, I’d sure like to meet *her* in a social context, see if we had any interests in common, then talk for a while if we did, perhaps exchange e-mail address and AIM handles, meet up for lunch or dinner sometime, then see what that led to, if you know what I mean.

By: Gloria

Gloria — Thu, 19 Oct 2006 22:18:41 +0000

I also differentiate between good and bad aggressive sex. And I understand your point. My broad generalization was my attempt to communicate to people that unwelcome sex, or rather sexual advances, can very much be viewed as aggression. Too many people I’ve talked to just don’t get it, and I’ve often reduced myself to extremes to try to pound it in.

I appreciate the reply.

By: Bacchus

Bacchus — Thu, 19 Oct 2006 21:58:39 +0000

Gloria, I completely disagree with you. There is agressive sex — good and bad — and then there’s all the rest of it. A world, a life, a set of experiences in which all sex is aggressive is very unappealing to me, hence my ugh. If nothing else, that sharply limits the panoply of potential sexual experience.

Your word “assertive” makes a bit more sense to me, and I wouldn’t have ughed if you’d said that.

Chelsea, you can say it if you can manage to find a way to say it that doesn’t make you sound like a crude transgressive lout who is uninterested in whether the girl in the window would welcome your attentions. Which you surely can manage.

Being a “chick” probably makes that easier for you — men have more difficulty because we are tarred by the misdeeds of our misbehaving brethren. Me liking you also helps, because I’m more inclined to read your words charitably. Being a regular commenter here helps a lot, because I already know you’re not a crude lout. (Plus, first time commenters begin in moderation, where it’s just as easy to nuke as to publish. Your comments appear immediately, and require extra effort to delete.)

Hell, using as few as three sentences, with a few polysyllabic words, to say it would probably make it OK with me — I tend to respect effort. It’s really the crude gruntings that I’ve been deleting, truth be told.

Being a friend of Karl Elvis is a strike against you, but you didn’t have to confess you were. ;-) We like Karl here, but he’ll strike a “transgressive lout” pose without even needing to be dared to do it. Fortunately, we know he’s actually a big ole teddy bear at heart.

This is all subjective, there are no firm rules.

By: chelsea girl

chelsea girl — Thu, 19 Oct 2006 20:47:37 +0000

So does that mean I can’t use this space to say how much I’d like to kneel in that window and go up on her? Or stand behind her and rub her nipples until they’re cherry red?

Or do I get to because I’m a chick? Or because I’m a friend of Karl Elvis’? Or because you, Bacchus, like me?

‘Cause I’d never say it if I weren’t allowed. I’m just polite that way.

kissykiss,
chelsea

By: Gloria

Gloria — Thu, 19 Oct 2006 20:32:39 +0000

Perhaps I employed the word with the wrong connotations? Aggression, as I used it here, is not necessarily hostile, violent, or destructive; it’s simply assertive, driven by the passion of feeling.