Comments on: The Porn We Don’t Show You

By: Dr.Whiplash

Dr.Whiplash — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 08:28:52 +0000

Commenter Brian has brought up a disturbing point about the segment of male society to which he has referred. That being, that it seems as though certain men can’t “respect” a woman who has sex.

One online dictionary simply defines “cunt” as a term applied to women who are a source of sex.

“Bitch”, it would appear, is a term reserved for sexually assertive women. In other words women who may flirt with a man, and then decide that he’s not worthy of her sexual attention, or rather of her sexual “favors”, a woman who doesn’t easily “come across with the goods”.

“Whore”, would seem to apply to women who choose to have sex with men of means (whether in exchange for actual cash, or because he can provide her with property such as access to an expensive automobile, or a big home in the suburbs, or a gold credit card).

“Slut”, seems to be a term applied to women who have such a healthy sex drive, that they actually want to repeat the sexual experience on some sort of a regular basis if possible, and (gasp) may not have settled on only forever having sex with that one first boy to take her virginity in the back seat of his car on prom night.

Personally, I have WAY more respect for a woman who may have “shopped around” a bit, than I do for the “frigid” or “goody-two-shoes” variety that some men want to place on some sort of pedestal.

The aspect that sexual women are undeserving of men’s respect is preposterous.

By: theMutant

theMutant — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 07:22:13 +0000

Unfortunately, I have to admit that I know some men who do enjoy that kind of porn attitude toward women. These are typically men who never matured past the age of 14. Quite frankly, I find almost all porn very boring as it cannot compare with being with my wife.

By: Brian

Brian — Sun, 03 Feb 2008 03:33:19 +0000

Or it could be a partitioning mechanism. If you assume that the bulk of the customers are mild-mannered middle class gents who are of the opinion that not only do they think highly of women, but that it’s important to think well of women, labeling the females in porn as “fallen women” of one stripe or another allows the customers to enjoy the porn but still treat their wives, girl friends, and female colleagues with respect, but still enjoy their “smut” with a minimum of cognitive dissonance.

By: rascally s~

rascally s~ — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 20:40:18 +0000

As a part-time porn affecianado I always wondered about this type of degredation that creeped into the mainstream porn arena. At one time you had to go looking for that stuff, know the right magazines to pick up and all. But now it’s to be found in just about any porn outlet.

My two cents is that it crept in through the phone sex advertising. Copyrighters quickly found that the more outrageous they got the more money they made through the advertisement. It was a way to stand out from the crowd. And since porn was a small arena, at least until the turn of the century, guys who put together the ads were also the ones writing the sex articles and putting together photo shoots, marketing the sex toys, etc. Before long they were deluded in that the shocking ads were what people wanted in all of their porn.

By: The Countess

The Countess — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 16:37:52 +0000

The “hot babe in a box” must harken back to “Boxing Helena”, which was a truly atrocious, woman-hating movie. I remember that the lead was offered to Kim Basinger, who wisely turned it down. Sherilyn Fenn took the part.

By: Dr.Whiplash

Dr.Whiplash — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 10:46:48 +0000

as said – Maybe it’s not so much that the “…the girl can’t say no…”, but that as a “dirty girl”, WON’T say no. I’ve read spam ads in my E-mail where they claim the girl featured is a “cum guzzler” who is “addicted to cum”. Whereas the “goddess” I described in comment #7, with a mind of her own, might very well reject their advances, the bitch-slut-whore is always sexually available.

By: as

as — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 03:11:26 +0000

I think that it has to do with the fantasy of control, and not in a BDSM way.
When we look at porn, we do so because it is a fantasy. Porn has (for the most part) very little basis in reality, and the point of that particular ilk of porn is that the girl is being controlled by the man. The point is that there is no fear of rejection.
The men that this porn is targeted to is the old-fashioned “guy in the porn store parking lot in a trench-coat” stereotype. That stereotype has yet to die, and probably has some basis in reality (how ever small). This consumer of porn is using porn as a replacement for real intimacy in their lives, not in a healthy way (i.e. enhancing their real sex lives). Because this man’s real fear is rejection, the women in this porn are put in a position where rejection is not an option. It’s not exactly rape, but the girl can’t say no, which is the fear.