Comments on: People Need To Hear About It

By: S

Sun, 16 Mar 2008 21:07:17 +0000

Seriously, which company is not going to fire a man for talking to a female co-worker about how much they love felching? Not to mention, people need to talk less about their personal lives, not more.

“the way they’ll tell a funny story about trying to make a salmon souffle for their in-laws”

I’ve heard that story. It was boring.

In small, intimate groups of friends, people do talk about sex. Anything else and they’re “creating a hostile environment” (men, anyway).

By: secret_worker

secret_worker — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 00:25:56 +0000

Interesting article. I wonder if it’s important to distinguish between conversations you have with co-workers in the workplace vs friends/family/acquaintances outside of the workplace?

Sexual harassment in the workplace is taken very seriously by human resources. The whole purpose was to protect people from unwanted harassment so they can earn a living and not have to quit because their boss/co-workers were intolerable.

However I do agree that we need to start having sexy conversations, perhaps we can start having those conversations outside of the workplace where people’s livelihood isn’t at stake (or the perception of). I’m not sure if I really want to have sexy conversations with my co-workers…that’s what the internet is for…

By: SydneyGal

SydneyGal — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 09:50:45 +0000

Ah, but I still don’t get why people like broccoli!

Kidding, I actually love broccoli. Brussels sprouts is another matter.

Totally agree with this post. Although I would probably say that I was accepting before I become a reader of ErosBlog, I am now educated about a wider variety of sexual practices, and pretty much accepting of them all (the obvious caveat being the consenting adult human thing). Whatever juices your goose, quite frankly. I’m not blase - if a friend told me they were into figging, for example, I wouldn’t just say “okay - nice weather we’re having”. I’d probably be gaggingly curious to talk to an actual practitioner. But I certainly wouldn’t be “ewww”. Unless it was my brother, in which case it’s just too much information.

My curiosity by the way is not just about sexual practices. I’ve been known to quite closely question people who are willing to talk to me about their religion, about their childhood traumas, about whatever. I’m just curious, is all.

Don’t know where I’m going with this, it’s late and I’ve got a head cold.

Summarise - yes, totally agree. Keep educating us Bacchus (and Aphrodite!), you’re doing your part to spread sexual acceptance.

By: Bacchus

Bacchus — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 01:04:25 +0000

Johnsonjb, I think the bukkake post is a good example of the distinction you were making. I thought of myself as tolerant then, but I wasn’t even remotely accepting. I was tolerant of the idea that somebody out there might do “that stuff” but still quite negative about it.

I guess I’d argue that repeated exposure to an idea, in a supportive cultural context, builds acceptance as well as tolerance, if perhaps more slowly.

By: johnsonjb

johnsonjb — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 23:03:47 +0000

I still think, though I agree with both of you, that there is a big difference between tolerance, and acceptance. Being inundated with culture, whether it be through music, language, or sexuality is too oft-times leads to tolerance and not true acceptance. We tolerate that music we cannot stand. We tolerate the foreigner that refuses to learn the local languange, we tolerate what “those” people do in the privacy of their own bedroom, but more times than not, we do not accept it. I am not saying “try your peas before you say you don’t like them” but accept people for who they are and what their tastes are whether it be anything, from music, to literature, to movies, to sexuality, to faith, to *anything*.

By: ACorruptMind

ACorruptMind — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 16:15:47 +0000

Well said, the both of you. I just don’t understand why sex is still so damn taboo in the here and the now. It just seems ridiculous to me. I understand religious beliefs and that, but leaving out religion there is still such a “OMG Its SEX!!!!” mentality the moment it is mentioned.

By: Sugar

Sugar — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 14:17:36 +0000

I wish sex and personal sexual anecdotes were as acceptable a conversation topic as the weather or the latest political scandal.

Creative people (such as myself) have tried to shift the conversation towards sexual preferences/practices in general and away from the “OMG what a pervert” discussions. In my world, it’s one way to begin personal sexual disclosure conversations with people.

The pitfalls are trying to have a conversation with someone who I don’t want to fuck, but am interested in their attitudes about sex in general and in specific practices.