Comments on: All Women Are Beautiful

by: Ryk

Wed, 09 Apr 2008 11:41:51 +0000

Thanks Spider and RoseRed775.
RoseRed775, it’s the same thing with my fella, but I give him compliments and try to make him feel loved and appreciated, and tell him I love him every day. He’s had a lot of hurt, but at the same time so have I :\
Oh, I can’t win :p

by: Dave

Sun, 06 Apr 2008 17:42:48 +0000

re: anonymous internet commentary bringing out the ugly, you may be interested in John Gabriel’s Greater Internet Fuckwad Theory via Penny Arcade.

by: satz

Tue, 01 Apr 2008 19:04:01 +0000

all women are beautiful! amen

by: RoseRed775

Tue, 01 Apr 2008 15:10:41 +0000

Thanks Bacchus for the great post.

My man doesn’t compliment me much either. We’ve been together nine years. I used to think it was because he didn’t love me or that he didn’t find me attractive; I now know it is because he does not love himself or think that he is worthy of adoration. Low self esteem knows boundaries. It is an equal opportunity oppressor. The trolls got to him way before we met. It has been an uphill battle convincing him of his beauty and worth.

I’m sending a hug out to Ryk! You are lovely.

by: Serenity

Sun, 30 Mar 2008 06:23:44 +0000

Having gotten out of high school only a few years back I know all too well how teenage girls look at themselves. Society sets the standards and they follow them. Personally, however, I actively rebelled against such things. I’ve never once shaved…well anything. I have hair on my legs, in my pits, my nether regions (yes I’m female by the way). I would go to school in shorts and tank tops. Now granted I don’t have high self-esteem, but it shows itself other places, not my looks.

by: Spider

Sun, 30 Mar 2008 00:24:58 +0000

I sympathize with you, Ryk! (I don’t have brothers, and haven’t dated enough males to understand why it is that some do that.)

I find myself between both worlds literally and figuratively. I want to like myself as I am, but also want to dress in ways that flatter/suit me, and I like to have lots of choices. But, I’m stuck sizewise, too– too big for Misses’ sizes, too small for Women’s. It’s all very well to tell us not to listen to marketing/media, and even have counterattack advertising, but ultimately, we will hear some of it, because (I think) we’re hardwired to pickup messages from our community and use them as a framework for our own life choices.

And maybe that’s why a male also picks up messages about what he thinks he should like, and works with that model until he learns otherwise. I don’t want to speak for the fellows out there, but it’s one of my guesses.

by: tech reader

Sat, 29 Mar 2008 23:32:10 +0000

All women are beautiful. Some are prettier than others, but the only “ugly” women are those who have “ugly” attitudes.

The plainest face can be transformed with a smile.

by: Ryk

Sat, 29 Mar 2008 15:34:22 +0000

It’s so true. I’m a larger lady, been with my fella for 3 and ahalf years now. I’ve always had self esteem issues, always. I’ve been trying to see myself as pretty, buying clothes that make my curves look good etc.
My only porblem is my fella. He says he likes my curves, and he gives me compliments now and then, but not often, and usually very specific things like he likes my bottom. I’ve asked him why he doesn’t give me normal compliments (like ‘You look nice’) and he says he’s not like that. He claims most men are like that. Is this true?
I just see so many people on the street on TV where the partner is lavishing praise and compliments on the woman, and I hate them.
Is it too much to ask for an ego boost every now and then?
I’ve repeatedly asked him to please just say ANYTHING more often, but he still doesn’t.

by: Lee

Sat, 29 Mar 2008 03:01:20 +0000

I thank fate everyday that I’m lucky enough to have friends that a)eat, and b) are confident enough in their own bodies that they made me comfortable in mine. Its just ridiculous that women want to achieve this lofty ideal (if its even ideal, which is under debate)so badly that they do crazy things. I really have no patience for who people who judge anyone based on body image and usually tell them to crawl back to the toxic-waste dump they came from (to put it nicely).

by: Bob

Sat, 29 Mar 2008 02:25:40 +0000

While some have said my standards have declined as I’ve gotten older (having passed 50), a few years ago, I came to the same conclusion that all women are beautiful and all women are physically sexy. It’s unfortunate that our society focuses so much on a specific body type that my lady of 26 years refuses to wear a bathing suit and gets embarrassed when I look at her because she “doesn’t have the body for it”. If I thought I could get her to go to a nude beach where she can see that bodies come in all shapes and sizes, I would, but she’s way to self conscious.