Comments on: All Women Are Beautiful

By: Pat Powers

Pat Powers — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 23:41:22 +0000

I always figure the guys who troll women based on their appearance are just being assholes. There’s a certain kind of guy who figures that if he can make others feel like crap, it makes him less crappy. They are so wrong. It just makes them more crappy. But of course they will never understand that, because they will just figure that if you are criticizing them it if for reasons they understand — that you are trying to make them feel crappy, so you will feel less crappy. They are, in short, idiots. I wish more women understood that.

By: Ryk

Ryk — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 11:41:51 +0000

Thanks Spider and RoseRed775.
RoseRed775, it’s the same thing with my fella, but I give him compliments and try to make him feel loved and appreciated, and tell him I love him every day. He’s had a lot of hurt, but at the same time so have I :\
Oh, I can’t win :p

By: Dave

Dave — Sun, 06 Apr 2008 17:42:48 +0000

re: anonymous internet commentary bringing out the ugly, you may be interested in John Gabriel's Greater Internet Fuckwad Theory via Penny Arcade.

By: satz

satz — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 19:04:01 +0000

all women are beautiful! amen

By: RoseRed775

RoseRed775 — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 15:10:41 +0000

Thanks Bacchus for the great post.

My man doesn’t compliment me much either. We’ve been together nine years. I used to think it was because he didn’t love me or that he didn’t find me attractive; I now know it is because he does not love himself or think that he is worthy of adoration. Low self esteem knows boundaries. It is an equal opportunity oppressor. The trolls got to him way before we met. It has been an uphill battle convincing him of his beauty and worth.

I’m sending a hug out to Ryk! You are lovely.

By: Serenity

Serenity — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 06:23:44 +0000

Having gotten out of high school only a few years back I know all too well how teenage girls look at themselves. Society sets the standards and they follow them. Personally, however, I actively rebelled against such things. I’ve never once shaved…well anything. I have hair on my legs, in my pits, my nether regions (yes I’m female by the way). I would go to school in shorts and tank tops. Now granted I don’t have high self-esteem, but it shows itself other places, not my looks.

By: Spider

Spider — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 00:24:58 +0000

I sympathize with you, Ryk! (I don’t have brothers, and haven’t dated enough males to understand why it is that some do that.)

I find myself between both worlds literally and figuratively. I want to like myself as I am, but also want to dress in ways that flatter/suit me, and I like to have lots of choices. But, I’m stuck sizewise, too– too big for Misses’ sizes, too small for Women’s. It’s all very well to tell us not to listen to marketing/media, and even have counterattack advertising, but ultimately, we will hear some of it, because (I think) we’re hardwired to pickup messages from our community and use them as a framework for our own life choices.

And maybe that’s why a male also picks up messages about what he thinks he should like, and works with that model until he learns otherwise. I don’t want to speak for the fellows out there, but it’s one of my guesses.