Comments on: The Uniqueness Of What Works http://www.erosblog.com/2008/09/23/the-uniqueness-of-what-works/ Sex Blogging, Gratuitous Nudity, Kinky Sex, Sundry Sensuality Sat, 11 Feb 2012 07:00:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Lisa http://www.erosblog.com/2008/09/23/the-uniqueness-of-what-works/#comment-95791 Lisa Thu, 25 Sep 2008 22:10:17 +0000 http://www.erosblog.com/?p=2443#comment-95791 Also recently saw VCB and loved it. Especially since I recently read a scholarly critique of Secretary and BDSM in mainstream media. A major criticism was that Secretary portrayed a D/s relationship as "fucked up" until the two lovers fell in "proper love," got married, and lived happily ever after. Not only does this force a D/s relationship into a heteronormative one, but it kind of takes the fun out of their kink. Vicky Cristina Barcelona comes as close to the truth as you can about love--sometimes what works is "fucked up," and maybe it's best that way, because if it weren't fucked up, then it wouldn't have been so beautiful to begin with. And there is no happily ever after. You sustain something as long as it fulfills you, or maybe you marry the safe guy, but you can't have it all. Really an important movie, I think, for taking a bizarre love polygon and just observing it--not glamorizing it, demonizing it, or forcing into some nice safe category. Also recently saw VCB and loved it. Especially since I recently read a scholarly critique of Secretary and BDSM in mainstream media. A major criticism was that Secretary portrayed a D/s relationship as “fucked up” until the two lovers fell in “proper love,” got married, and lived happily ever after. Not only does this force a D/s relationship into a heteronormative one, but it kind of takes the fun out of their kink.

Vicky Cristina Barcelona comes as close to the truth as you can about love–sometimes what works is “fucked up,” and maybe it’s best that way, because if it weren’t fucked up, then it wouldn’t have been so beautiful to begin with. And there is no happily ever after. You sustain something as long as it fulfills you, or maybe you marry the safe guy, but you can’t have it all.

Really an important movie, I think, for taking a bizarre love polygon and just observing it–not glamorizing it, demonizing it, or forcing into some nice safe category.

]]> By: Molly Ren http://www.erosblog.com/2008/09/23/the-uniqueness-of-what-works/#comment-95768 Molly Ren Thu, 25 Sep 2008 00:35:44 +0000 http://www.erosblog.com/?p=2443#comment-95768 Me too! This is very lovely indeed. Me too! This is very lovely indeed.

]]> By: Bacchus http://www.erosblog.com/2008/09/23/the-uniqueness-of-what-works/#comment-95759 Bacchus Wed, 24 Sep 2008 17:05:04 +0000 http://www.erosblog.com/?p=2443#comment-95759 You're welcome! I spend a lot of time looking for gems, so I'm glad somebody else liked this one. You’re welcome! I spend a lot of time looking for gems, so I’m glad somebody else liked this one.

]]> By: Heather http://www.erosblog.com/2008/09/23/the-uniqueness-of-what-works/#comment-95758 Heather Wed, 24 Sep 2008 15:35:30 +0000 http://www.erosblog.com/?p=2443#comment-95758 Jesus. This is stunning. I never would've discovered it on my own. Thanks for excerpting it here. Jesus. This is stunning. I never would’ve discovered it on my own. Thanks for excerpting it here.

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