I have no doubt that you are encountering more commonly the broader use of the term, in this present time (my guess is that this is partly due to prostate massage WITH an accompanying orgasm, being probably the more common of the two practices, and that would explain this phenomenon).

Conjecturing further (and assuming that the “orgasm denial” use of milking is more “fringe” behavior…), it seems likely that this term was co-opted by a larger population from a smaller one, as is often the case with new terms or new uses of old terms.

Also, my definition of the word is purely subjective, based on personal exposure to it in context, not from some dictionary or ultimate authority, and thereby colored by its use in wholly other subject matters, such as the milking of a poisonous snake, whereas often the goal is to render it harmless, or to extract every drop of its valuable venom, which pretty much means to milk it dry. Milking the prostate “dry” is (as I understand it), the preferable treatment for “orgasm denial” games, as it leads to a more easily subjugated submissive male.
In fact, I have read that there is an electronic cattleprod-like device (originally used in the practice of obtaining valuable semen from prize bulls and stallions), that is sometimes employed on human males which when properly inserted into his anus, will instantly empty the prostate without the benefit of orgasm.

Upon reflection, I suppose its equally correct to “milk” the prostate as one would a cow who had been separated from its calf, in order to relieve the painful condition of its full udder, which would be more similar to the use of the term by JR…

Again I’m not saying that JR or Bacchus shouldn’t use the term as they did, and surely Bacchus’s structuring of the sentence would have been a much better way to express my slant, so thanks Bacchus for the opportunity to perhaps not sound so much like a troll!

If I had been able to imagine you had written instead “Prostate milking is a term I have encountered being used more often to describe…” there would have been no issue. As it happens, in my internet ramblings I have stumbled across the usage (and the fetish practice) you and Krytella discuss; though, to be honest, I feel I’ve seen it used more often the way it was in this post.

Ultimately, like all language questions, there are no absolute meanings, just ever-changing useages.

At any rate, my driving motive was to share knowledge that I admittedly found personally hard to come by, not to sound erudite or bombastic…

I meant it as a purely subjective observation. Sometimes (especially for the sake of attempted brevity}, I’m not very articulate expressing myself over the web properly sans inflection of voice and facial expression…

I should have structured the statement better, and I apologize.

I merely wanted to point out that I’ve found that there’s the “milking” that includes a “happy ending” (usually with an accompanying reach-around or a blow-job, and seen as a great gift), and there’s a “milking” with perhaps a less happy ending, that’s often employed in order to control the male, or in some cases to supply a mutually felt “mental” pleasure more than a physical pleasure, as is often the case in certain BDSM practises. Very often in the latter (more obscure) uses, the goal is to “milk” him dry, and is often done on a regularly scheduled basis in order to achieve the ultimate goal of “orgasm denial”. Though JR is assumably a self-proclaimed BDSM practitioner, he appears to describe an orgasm in this case, whereas in the case of “orgasm denial” play, the goal is to drain the prostate without the benefit of the “Scud missile” ride…

Most surely you are right, that no one has the authority to reserve the use of a word especially in the case of sexual slang which is constantly changing, and I hope that in trying to retract my poorly chosen use of the word “reserved”, I haven’t come across as being additionally argumentative.

I also was a little surprised at the use of the term “milking,” because previously I’ve only heard it used to refer to causing ejaculation without stimulation of the penis and often without a normal orgasm.

Thanks

I disagree. Who made the reservation?

The post I quoted and comment #2 both suggest that in actual usage, the phrase has a broader meaning that you suggest.