A Fucking Manifesto
From Yes Means Yes:
I love to fuck, and I love to get fucked, with whom and how and when I and they want, and I’m not alone.
When we use fuck like it’s a bad thing we’re buying a connotation and a construction. It connotes unfairness and unpleasantness and aggression. We almost always mean that to do it is to defile the person or thing fucked; to harm it, devalue it; that the fucker is a ruiner and what is fucked is ruined. That the fucker is an agent doing an active thing, doing the fucking, subjecting the fucked thing to the fucking, and not itself fucked by the fucking. That the fuckee is getting fucked, is passive, is the object not just of the sentence but the act, is subjected to the fucking by the subject and is not itself (in the process of getting fucked) fucking the fucker.
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I need to decline to adopt that construction. I must. The only person I’m fucking lately is my spouse, my partner, my copilot in scary parenting adventures and my support no matter how crazy things get. I fuck her because she likes for me to fuck her, and I like to fuck her. I don’t want to harm or devalue her by fucking her and I damned sure don’t want her ruined.
Common sense… that’s oddly uncommon.
Shorter URL for sharing: http://www.erosblog.com/?p=6960
Not to mention a likely record for the number of permutations of the word “fuck” in a serious discussion of that size…
Etymology has always been a hobby for me. For many words you can almost always find the line where the word went “bad” so to speak. Interestingly enough for fuck this does not seem to be the case. You can check out the wiki page for fuck here. http://en.wikip.../Fuck
Hoo-fucking-ray. It’s about fucking time someone said that. I mean,it’s fucked how fucked up the average fucker is about fucking. Fuck that. I completely fucking agree with you.
You may be interested in Dr. David Schnarch’s book on intimacy. He gives a lot of time to “fucking.” He is a pychologist.