You May Not Be Tall Enough For This Ride
Courtney Trouble on sexual ignorance:
I’m going to speak from my own female point of view for a second and speak directly to the heterosexual guys out there reading this: Women do not want to have sex with people who don’t know how to have sex. Want to get laid? Want to get laid over and over and over again? Get yourself sex educated on female pleasure. Learn about the clitoris. Learn about sex toys. Learn about anatomy, fingerfucking, fisting, female ejaculation, cunnilingus, dirty talk, BDSM, kink, fantasy role play. Your ignorance is keeping you down. The guys who get laid all the time (and aren’t just lying about it) are the ones who know what they’re doing.
Pop Quiz: You’re fucking a babe. You orgasm. She doesn’t — WHAT DO YOU DO NOW? Your answer to this question is pivotal to your sex score. Thinking that female pleasure is “Gross” will get you nothing. No pussy for you. If you don’t know what to do with a pussy when your dick is soft — you don’t deserve any pussy.
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If the guy can’t get the girl to orgasm first he needs to quit. Two or three is better!
Amen, NCBill. A little self-denial goes a long, delightful way.
A little skill goes a LONG way.
It depends. What is her pleasure? This should be obvious.
My mate usually cums first, but there’s no rule. If she wants more after I finish, I do my utmost to see she gets it. Sometimes she just wants to be close or just wanted me to know she still loves me and wants nothing after I orgasm.
My orgasm is part her pleasure and vice versa.
What if you love the guy, he’s sexually inexperienced and/or sexually ignorant, and so are YOU, and you don’t orgasm?
It has been rather strongly proffered by leading feminists that the woman (as well as the man by the way), is responsible for her own orgasm. Personally, I harbor a belief that is more akin to “tenancy in common”, or “joint tenancy”, where a couple owns the orgasm in cotenancy, but for arguments sake, let’s say the feminists are correct, in which case the wise woman would educate herself on female pleasure. It would be HER responsibility to “Learn about the clitoris. Learn about sex toys. Learn about anatomy, finger-fucking, fisting, female ejaculation, cunnilingus, dirty talk, BDSM, kink, fantasy role play.”, and in turn, perhaps THEN to educate her partner as well.
Women should not “suffer in silence”.
Some guys own big cocks, and think that that’s ALL they need to bring to the table. (Some women own pussies, and THEY think that this is all THEY need to bring to the table, but that’s another story for another time…)
If you’re a woman and you’re too shy to educate the man you care about in the “art of love”, perhaps you need to travel to the library or your local bookstore and bring home and armload of good sex manuals. Insist that he reads them. If you doubt that he will take it seriously, read them TOGETHER (preferably in the nude, so that the demo models are readily accessible), so that either of you can ask questions.
There is a great game you can play that I call “Does it feel better like THIS, or like THIS?”, that I highly recommend.
There is another game that some women play called “You’re not getting any more pussy from me, until you learn where my “G”-spot is!”. This game is for advanced players only.
In fact, some women would likely go so far as to tell other women “If you don’t know how to get your orgasm out of your man, you don’t deserve an orgasm!”
By the way, I’m not trying to contradict Courtney Trouble here, my comments are more like an addendum. I’m for anything that leads to more sex, and to more orgasms. I think she gives damn good advice that every man should heed.
If you know it all, are sexually content (if you wife is sexually content) go no further.
Sex for us (wife and myself) has never been better and was never bad! (Age Fifty +) Read, read, read. Read information for women, mostly by women for women. Oh! What you will learn!
A few of many sites I found helpful: http://www.tiny...uples, http://www.the-...s.com, http://www.tiny.../lick , Nini Hartley various guides.
Smartest and most appreciated gifts ever bought my wife:
1-Lelo Iris Very QUIET & POWERFUL (Adjustable & rechargeable) http://en.lelo....=IRIS Have tried four other Lelos, quality excellent just not the power of Iris, then bought wife backup Iris, no problems with original just a few years and old lots of use (would NOT to be without). BTW Arrives so elegantly boxed. Lelo and Apple boxes – too nice to throw out.
2-Hitachi Not as Quiet, Industrial Strength. (No sexy packaging.) Lamp dimmer on extension cord makes much more adjustable than just Lo/Hi switch on Hitachi. A light touch may be preferable to being heavy handed, ask her! You may bring bliss to your partner and discover a wonderful fountain of water neither of you knew existed. Vibrator head sounds little different when soaked but still operates fine.
These products might seem like “her” toys, maybe sometimes, but be assured after years of experience very much “us” toys.
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The first and best rule I learned back in high school, on a website that was simple plain text, was Go Slow. As a teenage male, masturbation and orgasm was often about speed, to avoid discovery and get to the orgasm nice and fast. That god-given simple website told women were Different, wanted much more time and attention, and when they wanted it faster they would Tell me.
I’m going to brag here, first gf I went down on took some convincing that I was her first, when she’d stopped thrashing around the first time (seriously, her upper body would thrash from side to side during orgasm, amazing to watch and know I was giving her the pleasure that was doing that).
I’m now blessed with a partner who’s firmly of the opinion that when she wants something, she should ask for it (in bed at least).
Second rule I learned: Listen, and pay attention. She’ll tell you all kinds of things if you start paying attention to what she says, and act accordingly.
Third rule: The most important muscle in the body is the Heart, as it supplies blood to All the other muscles. A healthy heart leads to more frequent erections and a shorter refractory period.
I always just make up a really good excuse!
“Sorry babe … the way your glorious red hair spills across the sheet coruscating into a rainbow of coppery beauty just made me explode!”
Need more information?
What about a quickie, when the woman just wants to make a gift of her pussy, no payback expected or required.
In a long bondage session, it could be my turn to give. What I want is for her to be lost in pleasure, under my spell and completely in my power. I don’t want her thinking about me, my orgasm or what I want, I want her delirious.
There are guys (not me I’m educated) that can’t tell a clit from a frying pan and get laid plenty. Money can get you laid, charisma, passion, a monster cock, cougars might even enjoy an inept lover so she could be the one who breaks him in.
We need some sort of certification programme for men that do know what they’re doing. Some sort of merit badge they can wear so we can pick them out of a crowd when we want a sure thing.
I expect we’ll get right on that… right about the time women start wearing “Expert Blowjobs” badges.