From time to time, I receive complaints that the eros at ErosBlog is all a bit too yin/yang, too much lingam-in-yoni, if you get my drift. And it’s a fair beefcake; for all that I do my best not to be an asshole about it, I’m hopelessly straight, and you don’t write a sex blog for fifteen long years without sticking mostly to what you like. It’s true that you will find some gay porn if you tickle the ErosBlog search box with some gay search terms, especially if vintage porn is your thing; but you’ll come up especially short in the video department. Ten years ago I wrote a post about the unbearable linearity of video — and though my feelings about that have mellowed substantially since, they’ve not completely gone away.

So today’s challenge is to rectify that deficiency. We will reach straight into the warm cavity of the problem, grasp it by its throbbing little gland and squeeze out…aw, fuck, I’m already losing interest in this metaphor. Never mind, let’s get specific. Today’s plan is to visit one of the big tubes ( to investigate their offerings in the realm of gay porn videos. This is not something I’ve done before.

The first thing I noticed on the front page of Xtube is that they don’t automatically assume that your gender determines the gender you want to see in your porn. Instead, they offer you a handy selector widget:

xtube porn selector

Before you come through the screen to eat my face, let me concede that the widget locks users into the gender binary, although Xtube does have categories that are more gender-flexible. But still, the selector tool is wildly progressive by the standards of conventional porn “big business”. It was not so long ago that all surfers were assumed to be male looking for “men-doing-women” porn. If you were gay, you had to go to a different site, where you were assumed to be a man looking for “men-doing-men” porn. There was a thing called “lesbian” porn for sale but it was marketed to straight men looking for “women-doing-women” porn. That was it. Those were your choices. We’ve all come a long way, babies. I like the selector.

So, for purposes of today’s experiment, I checked the “I am male” box and that I liked male and I unchecked (sorry!) that I liked female. These simple choices delivered to me — no surprise — an endless-looking wall of extremely virile-looking gay video thumbnails, of which this is just the topmost little bit:

gay video thumbnails at xtube

I am ill-equipped to review the erotic qualities of the videos thus presented in any meaningful fashion, but a professional…tries. And one thing I quickly noticed was that there seems to be an active community of amateur clip-sharing. Genuine amateur porn is of course often simulated by professional studios and looks can be deceiving, but uploaders at Xtube have personal profiles and there are social media tools available, including comments, private messaging, and a gifting facility. All together this seems to have created a fairly vibrant community of amateur gay porn creation and sharing, which is particularly visible if you sort the gay videos by higher ratings, most views, or most discussions. Of course, as at any other popular tube site, there are also studio porn clips in evidence, at least as indicated by things like watermarks and those ever-so-telltale rented-hotel-suite shooting-studio backgrounds.

Whenever I write these days about free porn collections based on third-party clip uploads, I like to remind people: anyone you see at sites like this (except possibly the true amateur who uploads their own work out of sheer exhibitionist joy) still needs to make a living. So remember you are enjoying promotional content, and become a customer when you can. Find these models and studios where they do business, subscribe to their sites, buy their videos, support their Patreons, whatever it takes to be present commercially for the porn producers and performers whose work you enjoy.