Femdom Porn, It Does Flourish!
Much has been written about the numerical imbalance between men who want to be dominated by women, and the women who are inclined to do it. I am agnostic on the question; I’ve seen many conflicting explanations for why such an imbalance exists. But that there is such an imbalance seems to be a matter of consensus.
The resulting frustration this causes the men who have a serious femdom fetish works itself out in all kinds of interesting ways. Most famously, it supports an entire category of lucrative sex work. The women who do this kind of sex work have so much social and cultural mindshare that the term “dominatrix” is in danger of losing its functional meaning (a woman who is, perhaps aggressively, sexually dominant toward men) and increasingly is coming to refer strictly to this specialized type of sex workers.
The frustration of would-be submissive men also supports specialized dating sites. “Meet a dominatrix” type sites flourish. And anywhere that explicit personals have ever been found, this subset of men-seeking-women ads were always a noisily-thriving category.
Remember, too, Rule 34 of the internet: if a thing exists, there is porn of it. Dominatrix porn has always been a flourishing category — so much so that it’s created the “severe black leather and a sneer” stereotype. Real dominatrixes (only pedants with a classical education call them “dominatrices”) adopt a wide variety of costumes and demeanors, whether they are dominating for money or for their own love of that sort of games. I’m not saying that revealing black leather isn’t a popular choice, but it’s hardly exclusive! And as for sneering, well, it happens. But– dudes, you know? Some sneering’s gonna happen, it’s inevitable. Nevertheless I’m sure — if only because I’ve read a lot of dominatrix social media over the years — that there’s lots and lots of loving and unsneerful dominatrixing going on out there.
Be that as it may, it’s the dominatrix porn that’s my main interest in this area. I’m not wired to be particularly interested in female domination as an activity that involves me or my precious tender bits, but I have a downright catholic interest in porn. Erotic artists (more often men than women) have been astonishingly prolific in their pornographic depictions of dominatrixes. I have to suspect this is in part because many artists are originally seduced into making erotic art in order to better engage with the material of their own unrealized fantasies. So, circling back to the original premise of this post: there are a lot of guys with unrealized dominatrix fantasies out there. And, thus, a ton of erotic femdom art.
The dominatrix art in this post? It comes from a German erotic graphic novel called S And M Opera.
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I’m glad to have such a distinguished taxonomist finally identify me: “only pedants with a classical education call them “dominatrices””. This is me in a nutshell.
By the way, only a pedant with a classical education uses a phrase like “downright catholic interest”.
The 3rd illustration down is one of my favorite panels from that graphic novel, along with a number of the sodomy ones.
With regards to the question itself, it has been my experience over the past 30 years that femdom or flr porn is one of the largest categories of written or picture porn; a little less so for video but still significant. I think we think there is a dichotomy vis-a-vis the “real world” because the desire for someone else to take control is in many many people, but women in our culture have an easier time finding someone who will indulge that, and men who publicly embrace that tend to be looked down on by our bizarre culture; ergo it is relegated to the fringes — you’d think that women would enjoy having a man around who wants to dote on them and serve them and empower them. Unfortunately there are a LOT of men who think that having a domme around is like having someone who is there to constantly entertain you, and that just isn’t what it’s all about. Or as one of my favorite professional dominatrices once said, “what i want to for him to give me the money and then go clean my house from top to bottom while I read on the veranda; I’m happy to tell him to do it dressed in a cock cage and a babydoll, with make-up on. Unfortunately what most men think they want is boring to me and doesn’t serve me at all.”
I could go on all day with the psychologies of dominance and submission as it relates to sexual identification, but I won’t in your comment column.
“By the way, only a pedant with a classical education uses a phrase like ‘downright catholic interest’.”
OK, that’s a fair cop! And I agree with the bulk of your comment. I’ve read some long-vanished blogs by female dominants (professional as well as purely for fun) and they’ve had a lot to say about the distinction between the submissive behavior that makes them happy and the faux-submissive behavior by men who want the trappings but aren’t actually submissive at all in the sense of being interested in being genuinely pleasing. In that gap arises considerable commercial opportunity, I suspect.