So, Are You Dr. Fucker?
He moves so well. How did he learn, I wondered. Did he go to school for sex? If so, he’d have a post-graduate degree in fucking. Did he have a coach, someone who coolly looked over his shoulder, critiquing his performance until it was perfect?
From our dear Always Aroused Girl. Her words made me remember some past lovers. One guy that was geeky and clumsy, hitting my head with his elbow and stuff, but he still got me off and had me coming back for more. Another guy might have been Dr. Fucker, the most educated best trained lovemaker around. But for all his great technique, it felt like fucking a machine. There was no spark between us. (I cried afterward, sad and very disappointed.)
Is good technique better than enthusiasm and a less than topnotch technique? Does good chemistry make all the rest unimportant?
I think for me the answer to the second question is yes.
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I completely agree that chemistry makes all the rest unimportant. I’ve also found that if the chemistry is there, really there, the rest sort of follows after a while.
Eve
Gotta have the chemistry. If not chemistry, at least enthusiasm.
Chemistry is hugely, hugely important. However, the best chemistry in the world won’t make up for a guy who doesn’t know where your clit is! So, chemistry YES YES YES, but with a bit of knowledge. It’s not the source of the Nile guys, it’s my clit. Read a book, get down there and look around, find the thing. Easy, see?
I know you’re all saying “give him a bit of help then”, which is true, but some guys don’t give off that “will take advice” vibe, y’know?
That said, I would hope that I would only be attracted to a guy who is going to know where things are. Not being attracted to 15 year olds or even 30 year old virgins, I mean.
Thankfully, I have found knowledge+chemistry and it is so, so gooooooooood.
Go with good chemistry – technique is just learning, practice and feedback – which can be fun is the chemistry is there.
1. Chemistry
2. Enthusiasm
3. Technique
Why? Because technique can be LEARNED. Chemistry and enthusiasm are inherent… and if they’re not there, you’re… well… fucked… or, not. As the case may be. *grin*
Yes, chemistry trumps technique any day.
But when you have chemistry WITH a Dr. Fucker, WOW.
:)
That’s a tough one really. Chemistry seems the obvious answer if only because chemistry factors into so many other areas of life. Sex is such a small portion (who am I and what happened to kaya?!?) of things. But honestly, some men never learn and what happens if the sex is never fulfilling? The horror!
I guess I’d take the chemistry but then invest in a really spectacular vibrator. Or.. keep a little Mr. Technique on the side. ;-)
I sooo know what you mean… Its good sex but it gets too technical and the whole experience becomes mere step by step process… very thought out and planned and no more surprises
Perfection can be many things – exquisite, admirable, intimidating – but there’s one thing that it most definitely is not: sexy. All the power to the elbow hitters!
I don’t know what chemistry means
fit and touch
have always been the most important to me.
It those are there
especially with the tongue
and both of you like to fuck
it’ll be good
All of those are good attributes, but can I add one more – an almost esoteric – thing to have in order to have a good partner? Your partner should be an amatuer, in the sense that an amatuer does something for the pure thrill of doing it. They don’t do it for fame or riches. But because they enjoy it. Yes. Yes. I know, someone will claim that enthusiasm equates to amatuer in some aspects. But I claim that an enthusiastic partner who’s enthusiasm is misplaced (doing it to reach some other ends) will ruin the whole mood of the thing.
So give me an expreinced, enthusiastic amatuer with whom I’m into any day of the week.