November 14th, 2008 -- by Bacchus
Face Slapping, The Photo
Britni’s comment expressing enthusiasm for sexual face-slapping reminded me of a picture I remember seeing. After tugging at the corners of my brain, I eventually found it:
Turns out it went by on Spanking Blog, and comes originally from The Training Of O. That’s Adrianna Nicole leaning into the support of his other hand.
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I, too, happen to enjoy being slapped on the face during sex. One of my favorite ways to indulge this is to have a guy pull me off his cock, slap my face and tell me I am doing it wrong, and then shoving his cock back in my mouth. The endorphins released from the sting help increase the stimulation and the excitement of the sexual experience for me. I have a close girlfriend who is the same way. It can be hot with the right guy in the right circumstances.
I am sorry, slapping a woman is never OK. I have had all forms of heterosexual sex, cum every time, had my partner cum almost every time, and have never slapped or hit her. Call me old fashion, and maybe at 48 I am, but not going to do it.
Greg, who the hell appointed you the arbiter of what’s OK for other people?
Nobody’s asking you to slap anyone. So where the fuck do you get off telling (for example) Alexa in the comment above yours that it’s not OK for her lover to treat her the way she likes?
Sorry to sound this hostile and disgusted, but it’s the 21st century here! I’m weary of people who think they get to judge other people’s consensual sexual behavior.
Greg, to each their own. You don’t have to want to slap someone during sex and that is fine. Don’t do it. But that doesn’t make it not okay for other people to do it. We’re all different and what gets one person off doesn’t necessarily get everyone off. If it’s not your thing, so be it. But it might be someone else’s thing, and that is fine. So what if a girl (or guy) gets off with a little face slapping? Who is that hurting if both partners are consenting to it?
And I don’t see how coming every time you have sex is related to face slapping at all. I like having my face slapped but that doesn’t mean that I don’t cum just because it isn’t slapped. No one is saying that the two things aren’t mutually exclusive.
Just because something isn’t for you doesn’t mean that you have to judge the people that do like it. I’m sure you’re into things that I’m not but I would never impose my beliefs about it onto you.
[Deleted. Greg, if you’d like to respond, please find a way to do it without being insulting — Bacchus]
Where do you see me saying that “you should not do it” I said I dont and wont, I don’t say it’s not OK for you to like it, so get off the high horse. I have the utmost respect for women and don’t feel that slapping them, even if they want me to, is respectful. So slap away, but I will suggest to those ladies getting slapped to examine your self respect and feeling (non-sexual) of the need to be “punished”.
Where do we seeing you saying that? I quote you, Greg: “slapping a woman is never OK.”
You don’t say “Never OK for me”; you say “Never OK”. When you do that, you’re being offensively judgmental of other people’s kinks — something that will always get you challenged here at ErosBlog.
You keep doing it, too, in your most recent response, when you make a slam at people whose kink you disapprove of by speculating negatively about their level of self-respect.
As for getting off my “high horse”, that sounds pretty funny coming from somebody mired in a judgmental swamp.
I will suggest to those ladies getting slapped to examine your self respect and feeling (non-sexual) of the need to be “punished”.
I just checked my self-esteem, and it appears to be intact. Thanks for your concern, Greg. ;-)
Why is that some people believe that someone who gets off on something they can’t understand feels that that person must be damaged somehow?
I can certainly understand how you might feel the way you do for your own personal situation, but surely with all that we know about human sexuality today you cannot be so deluded as to assume that the variety of things that gets other people off is so incredibly narrow as you make it out to be? I guess you probably don’t understand people getting off from water sports or being caned, either, do you?
A lot of people are into pain during sex. The infliction of pain releases endorphins that course throughout the body when it is inflicted. If you can allow yourself to get over what society tells you you’re supposed to think about it (and clearly, you haven’t), then you can enjoy the added stimulation for its physical sensation and what it adds to the sexual experience. It has nothing to do with me feeling the need to be “punished” or anything like that (though I will admit the role play that comes along with being slapped occasionally falls into that arena! lol).
Greg, pick up a sexual psychology book and spend some time absorbing the information therein. It will be an eye-opener for you.
I guess we just have to agree to disagree, and while I don’t agree with the action I respect your choice to partake in it. Maybe I look at it from a non-sexual perspective as a man I feel it is wrong to hit a woman, and maybe for sexual gratification that is the wrong perspective in this forum.
Greg, I appreciate your calmer response, but I find myself baffled by the “respect the choice but disagree with the action” argument. The choice and the action are of a piece, here; I don’t see how you can respect one but condemn the other. (Your “disagree with” is weaker than my “condemn”, I know, but fair I think since you opened with universal “never OK” condemnation.)
It’s wrong to hit people (men or women, I see no reason to be sexist about it) who don’t want to be hit, I think we can all agree on that.
Your claim, though, is that it’s wrong to hit someone even with their active encouragement and desire for the act — not just wrong for you, but wrong for anybody (or at least any man). That’s judgmentalism of a sort that never goes unchallenged here in the ErosBlog comments.
I don’t think sexual gratification changes the analysis; men hit women all the time in small martial arts dojos, by consent and to the mutual enjoyment (non-sexual) and self-improvement of all parties. There’s nothing wrong with a man hitting a woman by consent. It’s perfectly fine for you to refuse to participate, but by saying “never OK” in a public place, you’re expressing condemnation of people who think differently than you. That’s what earned you the strong reaction here, and your persistence in arguing the position (albeit with less forceful words) is why I continue to oppose it.
Like I said, we just have to agree to disagree, I’m not going to keep back and forth trying to convince you of something you firmly don’t agree with. That’s all I have to say on the subject. Be well
Since this is my website, I have the advantage of the guaranteed last word. I’ll waste it in this case by rejecting your suggestion that we have “agreed” to disagree. Although we do disagree, your decision not to further defend your judgmental attitudes is purely unilateral. If you were to persist in defending them, I’d cheerfully persist in criticizing them. In six years of sex blogging, this is not an argument of which I have yet grown tired.
What got my goat was this statement: “I have the utmost respect for women and don’t feel that slapping them, even if they want me to, is respectful.”
Telling a consenting adult how they “ought” to want to be treated (or how they “ought” to behave) is not respect, it’s condescension.
Sunflower
all this slapping each other around makes me horny ;)
I realized about a year ago that I get sexually excited if a woman is crying, especially if she’s sitting on my lap. I’d love to say that I’ve never deliberately done anything to make a girlfriend cry but that’s not true. Especially when I was younger and a lot more clumsy I did foolish or reckless things that ended with my significant other in tears. Never got a rise out of me in those days. I hated the sound because even in my dense state I realized that at the core I was responsible for doing a bad thing. I’m generally better now (though hardly perfect) and middle aged women are by and large more emotionally stable than their twenty something counterparts, tears are a rare commodity in my circles these days. The tears I encounter seldom have anything to do with me unless there is some sort of unintentional misunderstanding. I suspect the response to tears on my part is a sort of ‘age play’, which isn’t a fetish I’ve ever had any interest in–except now it has cropped up naturally, and I’m totally fine with it. I don’t deliberately do anything to bring on tears in a partner (no articles about starving kitty cats in Africa or excerpts from reports on the national debt left about in obvious spots) but if and when it ever happens again I am so there.
The point, in this context, being that I never had an inroad to age play before but I also never thought practitioners were somehow around the bend without a paddle. I actually personally find even the idea of goo-play or mutually smearing honey about just ick beyond compare but a woman friend described in detail spending an afternoon engaged in that practice with a new lover and I was overjoyed for her and found her telling erotic(wasn’t imagining myself with her, just relating to her joy as friends do).
I gather the spirit of this place, in part, is to take joy in the pleasure of (cyber)friends and acquaintances. Erotic face slapping is a new one to me but I bet I know a bunch of people who like it and have done it but it just has never come up in polite conversation.
I really should politely converse more.
Jag
God this photo turns me on so much. I had a look at it last night and had to come back for a second peek this morning.
Oh and Jaguar, I’d cry on your lap anytime ;)
Bless you Jill. Consider yourself sitting safe and enveloped there in my bear like warmth whenever it pleases you. You sobbing and mewling a bit, your body heaving less and less as your spasms subside meekly. Your tears flow gently to bloom into spots on my shirt. Both my arms around you, one gently stroking your head, their combined effect a sort of corner away from everything as I lose a few kisses in your hair planted there occasionally as I reassure you with words that everything is alright now–but the words don’t mean much, its their sound and intention that are important. And those few stolen moments would brook censure from no one. As we fade into silence slowly rocking a bit and communicating as bodies sometimes need to do our thinking would subside and both our eyes would be closed in a hum of guiltless pleasure. Consider that if you like.
Of course, I’d still have an erection.
Jag
Interesting comments here I know I’m a late comer but I do love face slapping a partner during sex. I only do it with consent and we both love it. It raises my power over her and as described above increases the intensity of the sub experience for her. So for me lets SLAP SLAP SLAP away!!!
The masochist asks: “Slap me!” The sadist replies: “No.”
Both parties should be aware that face-slapping can be deadly however. According to sources no less than the BBC. You can rupture and artery that carries oxygen to the brain, or cause concussions that can be deadly or cause brain damage. The internet is full of videos of people slapping someone, and they go down to the ground unconscious. Automatic brain damage. Using a leather strap may be less likely to cause serious damage to the brain, but then you can explode an eyeball… I don’t want to be a naysaying Debby-downer here, but be careful people. Fingers can give a more pleasant sting than the heel of the hand anyway…