A Guide To Casual Sex
I’m not single. I’m not a girl. And I’ve never been socially smooth enough to arrange casual sex. So I am uniquely disqualified to opine on the advice in Adaya Adler’s Awesome Casual Sex For Single Girls. However, I’ve read the advice contained therein and I have to say, it sounds like good advice. Especially this bit, which matches my own prejudices and experiences (and isn’t that always the sort of advice we like best?)
No Cheaters — EVER!
All the websites listed above do, unfortunately, contain a large number of boyfriends and husbands who are looking to play around behind their significant others’ backs. These men are to be avoided at all costs. Cheating is highly disrespectful behavior, and if they’re willing to be that disrespectful of the person who is suppose to be the closest to them, they will not hesitate to disrespect you. (This can be any type of behavior to lying about their STD status to surreptitiously removing a condom during sex.)
Fellows, the guide wasn’t written for you, but it doesn’t take a genius to de-gender and re-gender that advice to suit your needs. A word to the wise is sufficient…
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When I saw the post immediately underneath that stated ‘Watching Porn Not Cheating’ then this guide to casual sex with the header, ‘No Cheaters-EVER! I found it ironic. Anyone else? Bueller..? Bueller..?
I don’t like arguing about this point because it seems like I’m pro cheating, and I’m not. What I think we are actually talking about is dishonesty–I don’t want to have sex with someone who is dishonest anymore than I would want to do business with someone who is dishonest. If a person of any gender goes into a poorly lit room with loud music, drinks lots of alcohol, doesn’t have much of a conversation and then goes home and engages in sex with someone who turns out not to have been what they were led to believe on the dance floor, well what is the world coming to?
I’m not going to link to Ms Adler’s article because I strongly suspect it’s not for me. I’m a 50+ man who hasn’t been sexually active in years. I’m married, so of course there would be no reason for me to be seeking sex outside of my marriage, is there?
In response to comment 1- yes, me too! :)
Well if you have not been sexually active for years, then yes, I believe there MIGHT be a reason for you to be seeking sex outside your marriage. But I’m pretty sure that’s not what you meant to say …