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Sunday, November 6th, 2022 -- by Bacchus
There’s a story on the Tamsin Flowers erotic stories site called Good Girlfriends Peg Their Man. The narrator of the story seems to be a very good girlfriend indeed:
I jumped up with glee, excited at getting to finally try out something I had begged past boyfriends to try.
“You’re serious? you’re really okay with it?”, he said, dumbfounded.
…
One Friday evening as the sunset and the mood kicked in, my boyfriend presented me with a gift box. Inside was a strap-on with a modest dildo beside it. My eyes were wide as I began exploring it, feeling its power and its possibilities. The harness was easily slipped around my waist and the dildo fell into place easily, I paraded around the room giggling and my boyfriend joined in, smiling at my silliness and enjoying my excitement.
A ridiculous amount of the pegging porn out there is bundled with assorted tropes of female supremacy, leather gear, sneering femdom disdain, and/or professional-dominatrix simulated power exchange. All of those things, together or separately, are perfectly fine fetish spaces, as valid as any others. But none of those ways are the only way. A slim dildo (or a thick one, you do you!) in a secure harness is just another sex toy at the end of the day; there’s no reason it has to be seen as a BDSM thing specifically, or any kind of power exchange thing at all.
Couples plus toys equals orgasms; every other layer of symbolism and and significance we want to layer on top of that is optional. Sure, the fantasy toppings are the whipped cream and the cherry for lots of people, but with different toppings (or no toppings at all) you still have a delicious dessert.
That’s why I enjoy the story quoted above. It’s the simplest possible plot in a sex story: “I had this fantasy, so did my partner, but we didn’t know! Once we found out, boy did we have a wild night of sex!” That’s good stuff. It’s always good stuff. It literally never gets old.
In twenty years of sex blogging I’ve seen a whole lot of different accounts (fiction, non-fiction, instructional, autobiographical, accounts of every kind) about why people enjoy the kinds of sex that they like. As always, the accounts of male sexual pleasure strike me as not very complex. Men like pegging, power dynamics aside, because the pleasure of prostate simulation is different in kind from other male sexual pleasures, and is more rarely experienced due to it often requiring a bit of a “long and mysterious procedure” for a lot of straight men. Women’s reasons for enjoying it are more diverse, per the accounts I’ve seen, with the various power exchange motives frequently predominant. Among these, one recurring theme is their enjoyment at wreaking utterly massive ejaculations out of men whose normal emission is less impressive. We see this motive on display, perhaps, in the final illustration:
Image credits, top to bottom: The romantic pegging at the top of the post is by Angeban93. The greyscale pegging with a thick strap-on is by Aru (或). The busty lady piledriving her strap-on straight down into her doubled partner is by Rtil. The pegged man ejaculating while one nipple gets twisted is by Gamingarzia. The happy fellow spurting a whole lot of thick cum is by Mosbles.
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Monday, May 24th, 2021 -- by Bacchus
Bite your lip and hang on, because it’s strap-on time!
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Friday, November 13th, 2020 -- by Bacchus
This is not the first time it has been observed: a man who wants to “try anal” needs to be kinda specific. Otherwise, this could happen. “What? You said you wanted to try anal!”
Art is by JomsViking.
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Tuesday, December 3rd, 2019 -- by Bacchus
Somebody on Reddit captured this automobile window sticker for the American Cribbage Congress. Apparently, they are into pegging:
It’s real; the phone number is also prominent on their website.
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Wednesday, January 18th, 2017 -- by Bacchus
This article from Playboy a few years back is about a sex worker who noticed a trend: among her clients who were military men, more than usual wanted to be pegged.
To my surprise, many of my sensual massage clients were military men passing through L.A. from San Diego, 29 Palms and Fort Bragg and North Carolina. And it wasn’t just their profession that they had in common, it was what they were requesting: They wanted me to “peg” them, i.e., fuck them with a strap-on.
My regular, Curtis was a Blonde Marine with a farmer’s tan, silver blue eyes and a distant stare. The first time I saw him, he booked a two-hour session and wanted me to fuck him in the butt.
The author speculates (somewhat pointlessly, as even she admits) about why that might be so. She thinks it’s about trauma, but she knows she doesn’t know. An interesting read!
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Monday, November 16th, 2015 -- by Bacchus
Why do I get the feeling that somebody (not pictured) was walking funny and sporting a big grin the next day?
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Saturday, October 24th, 2015 -- by Bacchus
This photo from the recent pegging tutorial at Kink University might appeal to knolling fans, too.
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Sunday, October 18th, 2015 -- by Bacchus
Her new boyfriend wants to be pegged. Anne Hastings writing at Postmodern Woman is game, but nervous:
I did my research, reading up on pegging and prostate stimulation and tried on the leather harness and ‘realistic’ dildo that my boyfriend had bought in the hopes of someday finding a girlfriend who would be up for it. That girlfriend was me.
So when he brought the idea up, that night, I said yes.
Immediately I felt scared. What if I didn’t do it right or couldn’t make him feel good? Could I control this silicone thing that wasn’t actually part of my body? I knew I didn’t need to feel embarrassed if our first attempt wasn’t exactly professional. I also knew that, just the fact I was prepared to try it, would make him happy. That didn’t stop me feeling scared all of a sudden, as if I’d never had sex before.
I suppose I had never had sex like this before. I felt vulnerable, exposed and worried I couldn’t satisfy my partner’. Normally, as a woman, that job is pretty easy.
‘Are you nervous?’ he asked me between kisses.
‘I am.’
‘Why?’
‘I’ve never done this before. I might be rubbish.’
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Sunday, January 4th, 2015 -- by Bacchus
Bondage Blog says “every marital bedroom needs” one of these decorative sex pillories:
You can safely ignore the following-on “good for any wife” nonsense. If you can’t figure out what good it might do to put a husband (not necessarily your own) in one of these, this DVD (or this one) may help.
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Wednesday, October 1st, 2014 -- by Bacchus
Somewhere out there there’s a lucky piggy:
Backup image link (for the deep future when Twitter has failed): here
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Thursday, August 21st, 2014 -- by Bacchus
There’s a Flash Gordon parody by Wally Wood in the third number of his Gangbang! sex comic, and it’s called Flesh Fucker Meets Women’s Lib. (This was apparently an early 1980s reprint of artwork that appeared in The National Screw in 1977.)
In the short comic (just 3 pages and 17 panels), Flesh Fucker rescues the female heroine Gale on two occasions, and on both occasions he finds her naked and vulnerable so of course (this being a sex comic) he fucks her, without bothering with little niceties like, say, getting her consent. But Gale is a liberated woman, and she isn’t too impressed. Eventually she hooks up with a gang of Amazons, who storm the camp where Flesh Fucker has been tied to a log by hungry cannibals. At first he’s quite happy to see her, but then she takes her revenge:
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Thursday, January 23rd, 2014 -- by Bacchus
As y’all know, I’m a big fan of seasonal sex toy sales, because it gives me an excuse to look for attractive items that couples can use to have fun together. Let’s get started, shall we?
First of all, what is the greatest romantic holiday of the year without roses? But real roses are expensive and (if you source them the traditional flower-shop way) something of an environmental nightmare. And then, a few days later, they’re trash (or at best, compost). Feather roses are more fun (tickle party time!) and last much longer:
Another great couples gift is a sexy craft project that you can make together and use together. The Clone-A-Willy kit for making a dildo in his precise likeness has gotten a lot of press for this reason; you can have fun making it together and then play with it together or separately. Is she the type to steal your old sports shirts to sleep in when you’re not there? Perhaps she’ll enjoy a more personal memento!
For many of us, though, this is a holiday about chocolate. Don’t worry, we’ve got that covered! Indeed, why not get the make-it-out-of-chocolate version of the Clone-A-Willy kit?
But this is 2014, and what used to be sauce exclusively for the gander is now also available as sauce for the goose. Get those replica willies out of your mind for a moment. Did you know there was a Clone-A-Pussy Molding kit now available? (Sadly, apparently not in chocolate.)
This could be fun to use, but you’ll need to take care that you don’t give off any sort of creepy trophy-hunter vibe when it’s time to persuade the proprietor of your favorite pussy to participate in your proposed craft project. I can’t say I’m sanguine that the sales copy totally avoids that pitfall:
This fun and easy do-it-yourself kit includes everything you’ll need to make an incredibly detailed, life-size rubber copy of the outer portion of any vagina from your own home. Use the mold over and over again and create your own treasured collection of life-like vaginas. Please note: Your new pussy replica is a shallow likeness, without a hole, and not designed for …ahem…. insertion. Think of it as a naughty homage, as opposed to a working masturbation device.
Moving rapidly onward, as perhaps we ought, there’s a very real chance that a person might much prefer to explore his or her favorite pussy in the most exquisite detail, rather than making a non-functional partial copy out of rubber. If you suspect your lover of feeling that way about your own pussy, perhaps you might surprise them with a handy inspection tool in festive holiday pink?
For the more timorous among you, it’s worth pointing out that sexual how-to books and DVDs are among the safest, most non-threatening sexy gifts you can give. Your partner can process the gift on his or her own time, a sex book or video can be the topic of later open-ended discussion, and in the end, it can be a great way to bring new sexual material into your relationship. There are several awesome titles in this year’s sale that you may want to consider:
Enjoy!
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Saturday, September 21st, 2013 -- by Bacchus
I have been hearing good things about Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide To Pegging, the 21st-century answer to the justly famous Bend Over Boyfriend movie. Bend Over Boyfriend was a best seller (and a favorite of ErosBlog readers) despite laboring under the significant handicap of having come out prior to when Dan Savage and his readership coined the “pegging” monicker for sex involving a strap-on dildos and male butts. The buzz about this new title is that it’s every bit as good and quite a bit more modern, in everything from its production values to its information on dildos and harnesses and such.
Sadly since I first posted this the DVD seems to have gone out of print, but you can still stream it right now from HotMovies.com.
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Tuesday, August 2nd, 2011 -- by Bacchus
Now, this is my favorite kind of sex writing to quote on ErosBlog: Why I Want To Fuck My Boyfriend Up The Ass, by Holly at The Pervocracy:
I want to do it because I love my boyfriend’s butt. I love my boyfriend, much more–but I love his butt in a completely separate way. Frankly, my relationship with my boyfriend and his butt is nearly polyamory. Rowdy has an exceptional butt, a truly world-class ass, round and strong and smooth, and it’s a joy just to touch. To outright fuck it, to have that amazing ass tightening beneath me and that smooth skin pressing against my groin, would satisfy a primal lust for a thing of beauty.
And that’s just one of six paragraphs. She’s just warming up!
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Monday, March 21st, 2011 -- by Bacchus
A recent post on Jezebel offers a useful summary of basic information about the practice of pegging. Just try not to be drawn into the pit of batshit craziness in the comment section.
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Friday, November 26th, 2010 -- by Bacchus
This YouTube clip from the TV show Weeds can’t be embedded, which is no skin off my nose as I am not a big fan of embedding things that won’t be here a few months later anyway. But it’s worth linking nonetheless, just for watching the rapid deterioration of the smug look on his face as she pulls out her strap-on and starts strapping it on…
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Saturday, April 18th, 2009 -- by Bacchus
It’s almost always the facial expressions that make good porn interesting. This photo (from Men in Pain via Kinky Delight) is delightfully ambiguous with regard to what exactly Audrey Leigh is doing that made him levitate off the bed while stretched tightly to its four corners; but it’s clear there’s concentration and enjoyment involved on her part, and there’s no doubt his attention is focused somewhere in a direction that his eyeballs cannot help him with:
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Tuesday, January 13th, 2009 -- by Bacchus
Judging by the number of “how can I get my wife to…” emails I’ve gotten over the years (answer: “Der… ask her maybe? Beg?”), there are a lot of households out there where this scenario could easily play out, more or less as written:
Bend over and grab your ankles.
What in the fuck is that?
Don’t play dumb. I’ve seen the bookmarks on your computer; you know exactly what this is. Now bend over and grab your ankles.
Those bookmarks don’t mean anything. It’s just crazy guy stuff. Just fantasy stuff. Not real.
Is that why you’re forking out all those credit card payments for memberships? I’m not an idiot, so don’t screw with me. Do it!
I don’t want to. I don’t want to do it for real.
Well, I really don’t give a shit if you want to do it for real. Quit your lying, quit your whining and bend over and grab your goddamn, fucking ankles!
I’m getting dressed and leaving. This is crazy. You’re crazy.
Is that what you want? You really want to leave? You really are going to pass this up?
What are you doing? Stop it?
Why? What’s wrong with me rubbing my girl cock up against your boy cock? Doesn’t that feel nice? Think how good it would feel to take it up the ass.
Stop it.
You don’t want me to stop it. Look: your boy cock is trying to grow nice and big like my big black leather one. I think it likes it.
It’s because your rubbing it with that stupid … that stupid thing. It’s friction. Of course, it’s going to react. I am a guy, after all. What do you expect?
I expect you to bend over and grab your ankles. You know you want to, so just do it.
I, um, I ….
Come on, just do it. I’ll just rub it up the crack. Come on, bend over.
Okay, I’ll let you play this stupid game. But don’t you dare try to put it in.
That’s good. Now lean shoulders into the ottoman so you don’t lose your balance, and grab your ankles. That’s it, like that. Just like that.
Which reminds me — Mistress Matisse had some trenchant advice recently for a man who wishes he was the star of that scenario above:
If you’re putting as much effort into making this idea attractive to your wife as you did in writing this email, I can see why she’s not going for the idea. I suggest you spend some time considering what’s in it for her to fulfill your fantasy. Is she going to get lots of orgasms? Or a long foot massage and dinner cooked for her? Or a new pair of Salvatore Ferragamo shoes? I think she should get all three, but that’s just me. Figure out what she wants, and give it to her. Then see about getting what you want.
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Thursday, September 25th, 2008 -- by Bacchus
I am not sure what this girl is saying as she smiles back over her shoulder, but out of sympathy for Mr. Asterisk, I am hoping it’s something like “Would you please pass the butter?”
Found this bit of pegging art on Usenet.
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Monday, September 8th, 2008 -- by Bacchus
This happy bit of lovingly-drawn prostate stimulation is in honor of Violet Blue’s pegging post and column from last week:
From Usenet.
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