Kinky Scene Negotiation (Non-Tedious Version)
Whenever you read those “all about how to have kinky sex” sites, they always emphasize the need to “negotiate your scene in advance”. Most such essays on how to conduct this eminently necessary negotiation makes the process sound stilted, complicated, wearisome, and awkward. Of course, that’s entirely at odds with my observations of the actual kinkiness that I’ve brushed into in my life — so I’ve wondered if this wasn’t some sort of “do as I say, not as I do” advice for newbies.
In partial answer to that question, I present Bret and Hiromi’s he-said-she-said dialog entitled “The Logistics Of Pee Sex.” It’s emphatically a scene negotiation, but not self-consciously so. In fact, I’d say it’s a blueprint for a frank light-hearted scene negotiation that also happens to sound like a fun conversation. Scales fall from the eyes.
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You get Hiromi’s name and ‘pee sex’ in the same sentence, right there you have my full attention. B^)
Karl, I thought maybe you’d appreciate this:
I woke up in the middle of the night to pee, and thought I’d check and see if there was a new Erosblog posting, or if my last comment had made it through moderation.
I hadn’t put on my spectacles yet when I noticed this as a “Random Old Post” in the left-side margin, and clicking on it, tried to make out your very fuzzy comment.
Not being at all familiar with the name “Hiromi”, the best I could do was imagine that it must be the name of Harry Potter’s Hogwarts friend, “Hermione”, which I also was not familiar with the spelling of.
To make a longer story short, after seeing ‘pee sex’ and what I thought was the sexy young witch’s name “in the same sentence”, right there you had MY full attention. In fact, I nearly had apoplexy dashing for my lenses. B^)~