Charlie Glickman’s essay “Playing The Long Game” is all about remembering that all your interactions, flirtations, and seductions don’t happen in an isolated bubble of time. You move through a community and everyone’s availability ebbs and flows with the unpredictable changes that happen to all of us:

When it comes to creating a sexual connection with someone, one of the most useful things you can do is play the long game.

That means that rather than only focusing on what can happen tonight or right now, you lay the foundation for the future. Of course, there’s still plenty of possibility for a hook-up or a one-night thing or having sex on the first date, if that’s what you both want. But even in those situations, playing the long game means creating opportunity for a future connection with that person…