Sexual Chemistry
The Girl With A One Track Mind says that good sex is all in the chemistry:
You see, of the men I have slept with — that made my fire burn from the chemistry — not all, even many, of them were that skilled in the sack. But they still made my pants soaked and enabled me to climax — repeatedly — when I was with them.
Given the choice between the most skilled lover in the world and one that is clumsy with his hands, but who — when he whispers in my ear “god you’ve got me so turned on” — makes me drip in anticipation of his touch, I know who I would pick, and it wouldn’t be Mr Loverlover. I’m of the opinion that every man can be taught (if necessary) how to please a woman well; but if there’s no chemistry there to begin with? Forget it.
This might sound harsh — “ladies, get rid of him if he doesn’t make your pants wet before he touches you” — but, fuck it, it’s true. Every good lover I have had was someone I had chemistry with; the ones I didn’t (and yes, there’ve been many of those too) — even with all the best technique in the world — didn’t make me come (as hard, as much, or even, at all).
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It’s totally true. If I’m with a guy (or girl, for that matter), and there’s no chemistry between the two of us, forget it – I’m not going to end up in bed with them. On the other hand, if they’re able to look at me from across the table and make me so wet I slide across the seat, then I’m gonna find a way to get them into bed, dammit. That’s just the way it is. I don’t know whether it’s smell, or an action, or a look, or the attitude, but whatever it is, it’s something serious – and some people got it, and others don’t. ~M
I totally agree, for I may be one of those clumsy guys – but I wait for the chemistry!
Oh god yes. It’s something chemical. If I don’t respond physically to someone’s scent, I know it’s not going to be the real deal.
The most intense sexual connection I’ve ever had with someone started with a moment where I realized I’d never in my life met anyone who smelled as good.
Agreed, totally true. The nonsense advice of “It’s the personality what counts” is pure BS. Yes, it’s important, if you can’t stand 5 minutes with the person it won’t have much future even if both want to jump each other’s bones at the drop of a hat, but if you don’t feel even a tingle when you’re with that person it’s just the same. I discovered that the hard way, hurting somebody who didn’t deserve it in the process, been A LOT more careful of being sure there’s chemistry since then.
And it’s quite a lot more fun this way anyway ;)