In all the discussion Aphrodite stirred up about sex during menstruation, I was suprised that nobody pointed out the fetish angle. Yes, boys and girls, there are men (and perhaps women too, although it seems much rarer in general to find anecdotes about women with strongly-held unusual fetishes) who fetishize menstrual blood. Just ask Mistress Matisse.

Meanwhile, back at the ranch, my feelings on the subject are ambivalent. The women I’ve been with have been quick to bat my hand etc. away at that time of the month, and I’ve never really been the “overwhelm her feeble protests” type (although that’s a fun game to play). However, I’ve had some good sex in the dark that turned out to be bloody. No big deal. And I’m on record for the proposition that a gentlemen shouldn’t freak out about sex messes. Which, gentlemen, means “No big deal” is your story and you had bloody well better (pardon the expression) stick to it. Make her feel good about whatever happens, no matter what your inner girlyman is shrieking.

Goodness. I didn’t realize that my post of yesterday would prompt such a response. Several comments deserve a more prominent response than just a follow-up comment … So, strap yourselves in, and have barf bags at the ready if you get squicked by talk of fluids and fucking. (Or, don’t peek behind the “more” link.)The first commenter posted:

All you say makes sense, but I don’t know that you’d want me to put my bleeding cock in you.. would you?

No, but that comparison confuses the issues. Menstruation is a normal, natural part of a woman’s body functioning — a bleeding penis isn’t. And yes, CID, there can be a difference in the “feel” of sex, menstrual fluid being thicker, if one plunges in without allowing time for natural lubrication to occur (or even if you do allow for that, just ’cause that other stuff is present too). I was somewhat tongue-in-cheek pointing out an advantage of having sex during menses.

Another individual commented, in part:

HOWEVER, I do have a problem with a lady, who after I go down on her refuses to kiss me… :boo hiss:

Boo hiss indeed! I’ve had a similar experience from the other side, so to speak. That is to say, a gentleman reacted with shock and displeasure when, after I’d admitted him to my “sacred sanctum” and he withdrew prior to orgasm, I went down on him. To me, the taste of commingled male and female fluids is scrumptious … but he apparently didn’t agree.

I’m not out to belittle anyone who has tried some of these things and not liked them. What I was challenging is the idea (which seemed to be implicit in Wanton Male’s blog entry, and I apologize to him if I read more into it than was intended) that there’s something inherently wrong/bad/harmful/unpleasant in menstrual sex — or, for that matter, enjoying other normal bodily fluids that happen as part of the sexual process.

If you’ve tried it, and not liked it, well, good on ya for trying. We all gotta follow our bliss, and thank the goddesses, there are lots of ways to do that. But if you’re among those who absolutely reject something relatively benign like this …. well, consider yourselves challenged by me to reconsider. “Try it — you just might like it!” :)

Wanton Maleness. What a great name for a blog! And it’s a pretty yummy one, too. However, in a recent post on awesome sex, our correspondent writes:

Unfortunately she was having her “visitor” so that limited options.

What’s the problem with having sex while a woman’s menstruating? Sure, it can be messy, but there are ways to avoid that, or clean up afterwards (hydrogen peroxide is very effective, especially on fresh blood stains). Having to duck out for a couple of minutes prior to the festivities commencing in earnest is a hassle, but a minor one that, to me, is always worth it. (It’s just like donning Mr. Raincoat so that no lives get accidentally created.)

Besides, the question of adequate lubrication is moot, and for most women (but not all — this is not a failproof contraceptive technique!), making happy during menses without Mr. Raincoat carries a lower risk of pregnancy. For me, on the few occasions I’ve had bad menstrual cramps, a nice romp has worked better than any pharmaceutical nostrum.

So, am I a weirdo sex-fiend sex goddess? Maybe … but I will admit to being squicked by the idea of cunnilingus during my period. So I’m not completely uninhibited either. :crazy:

Quiver goes to the gym:

The other day I was at the gym, imagine that, and watching two young men in there. They are lovely and oh so young. I was on the machines and let my eyes wander over them as I worked out. Something about them set off my gaydar. One is in the navy and the other I’m not sure about, they are obviously good friends though and I see them at least 3 times a week together. They are perfect in the way of handsome young men in their prime at 20 or so. They are so close; one is white with that perfect face that is arresting in its lines and panes. The other is very light black with a sensual face and the most kissable lips I’ve ever seen. They meet every day and stretch before working out, this is eyecandy theater and I’m not the only one who notices. A few of us women grin when they show up but they only have eyes for each other and don’t seem to notice.

They ran side by side on the treadmills today, I was on another machine behind them shamelessly watching. They ran with that light-footed grace I remember having once. They were like a pair of thoroughbred horses, matched in height and build going stride for stride for a many miles. When they stopped and stood talking quietly together one pulled up his shirt and wiped his face. The lovely abs displayed made my eyes linger….

Here’s one of those silly stories that makes you marvel at human diversity:

Man burns porn magazines in midair

A Brit became so offended by the pornography magazines he had purchased that he tried to burn them to ashes on board a Braathens flight from Bergen to London.

David Mason told the court Tuesday that he lit several pages from his porn magazines on fire because he was offended by them.

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According to Prosecutor Roger Booth, Mason first asked one of the stewardesses on board if he could burn some papers in the oven in the plane�s kitchen, a request that was turned down.

Shortly there after, two passengers reported that they smelt smoke in the cabin. Staff managed to locate the fire and extinguished it with water.

According to Booth, Mason became so offended by some of the pictures in one of the porn magazines he had with him on the plane that he had an immediate need to destroy them at that very moment.

Unfortunately, the journalist did not see fit to share with us the nature of the offending imagery.

Thanks to NSFW News for the link. (Have I mentioned lately how much I despise the “NSFW” meme?)

Well, I wouldn’t know, although The Nymph regularly accuses me of this. Apparently she’s not alone: Smitten recently posted a list of the weirdest parts of moving in and living with someone. She includes:

Boys are cute! They fill apartments with yummy boy-cologne! Boxers! Big shoes! Coast soap! Hands that pop out of nowhere to grab your ass!

For those of you who like it big and rock hard, I present:

The top looks nice, but OUCH! — those corners have gotta hurt!

From a Danish magazine …