His Favorite Fuck-Hole
So I saw this line on a raunchy porn Tumblr somewhere:
My favourite fuck-holes, in order of preference: MOUTH, ASSHOLE, then PUSSY.
And it made me feel…old.
You know why?
Because I am old, would be the flip answer; though in fact I’m only just sorta middle-aged. But what I mean is, I’m old enough to remember when being “all about the pussy” was a defining character of manliness. Hookers were still using “Greek” as a euphemism for anal sex between a man and a woman, and it was expressly because of the reputation the classical Greeks had for man-on-boy anal. Men could get blowjobs but you didn’t admit to licking pussy (sissy!) or wanting to fuck your woman up the butt. If you wanted to put it up her ass, the thinking was, it was because you were a closet homo without even the courage to try it with a man.
So I saw that quote on that Tumblr and it was a “wow, the world really has changed” moment for me. Which of course it has. The discourse about sex of all kinds the internet has enabled has radically changed our sexual world.
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Just to be clear after a night’s sleep: the pace of change (and the scope of it) may have left me feeling old, but what it does not make me is nostalgic, not one little bit. There’s good and bad in all change, but in the sexual arena the overwhelming trend of my lifetime has been toward more and better information plus the destigmatization and general acceptance of the whole broad spectrum of sexual practice experience.
I’m not convinced that it’s all for the better. I’m 46, I can remember exploring my tastes and boundaries with a succession of girlfriends and several one-night stands. I got webbed up in ’97 and alt.pictures.binaries.erotica.bondage filled in a few gaps and the next five years were a wonderland.
Today, and here this one-time sex-drugs-rock&roll libertine becomes perhaps an aging fuddy-duddy, today it is all thrown out there and fifteen year old boys get to figuring that anal sex is where it’s at without the first idea of how to do it properly. The recent post about the teenage girl learning to do it properly is an exception, I’ve read of college girls reporting a high level of anal fissures to medical services. Drunken teens wander around the innercity at dawn without a clue.
Whether in some form of art, or behaviour, or lifestyle, I can’t help thinking that the avant garde was best left to those who had to make an effort to seek it out. Throwing it all out there for everyone to grub about in has lowered all standards.
I don’t regret a moment of my past. But I sought it, wanted it. There is a difference. I look forward to your comments.
My order of preference would be different, but I’m sure all six possible ranking combinations would be found in a fairly limited number of persons. Probably fewer than read this blog every day.
On balance I am as optimistic as you. Perhaps information about the downside of various risky practices will be disseminated widely enough to mitigate the negatives.
I would recommend the MAKELOVENOTPORN website. I may have first seen it linked from here, but I don’t recall. That should really be the first “porn” site a young person sees.
I was going to comment on the level of pleasure provided to the female in this equation, however the mouth Does provide a lot of movement options that other orifices don’t, so perhaps I judge too quickly.
Justin, the person rating the fuckholes didn’t specify a gender-in-possession for any of them.
except that we’ll assume “PUSSY” probably refers to a female…
Two words: Buck Angel.