Two Ways Of Submission
One never knows what someone else means by a thing (well, not without asking them, anyway) but my take on this lyrical utterance is that it’s describing two very different styles of submission to dominant femmes:
You want her to step on you.
I want her to lie back on soft satin sheets, relax her weary muscles, and let herself melt while I slowly, delicately pleasure her until she forgets that the world exists.
We are not the same.
I suppose I imagine (based on no data beyond my intuition) that getting stepped on is most often a commercial thrill delivered by a dominatrix-style sex worker. But: even the most stereotypical porn-inflected dominatrix also has a private sex life. If she finds herself a pleasure sub who can and will deliver tender acts of exquisite sexual service, why shouldn’t she grab that by the hair with both hands?
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If they have you by the hair and are encouraging you to keep going, you know you’re doing a good job :D Control and finesse are a skill to be learned, gotta harness those raging hormones and avoid diving in too deep.
Justin, if they have you by the hair it’s not just YOU who are doing a good job.
It means you have a woman who is participating in her own attempt to achieve sexual satisfaction.
Oddly, in 2023, there are still females who during sex,opt to lay in bed like a corpse, and expect their partner to “give” them an orgasm.
Inevitably, if not predictably, males will come along who can’t guess just how a particular woman needs to stimulated, in her own preferred manner
Psychologists will tell you that there are two main groups of women who don’t participate in achieving their own orgasms. One, is the woman who thinks it’s unladylike to enjoy sex (or sometimes to admit it to their partner), and others who have issues with males, and somewhat sadistically (consciously or semiconsciously), strive to withhold from the man a major part of his pleasure and satisfaction, which he might derive from being the instrument who provided her with a climax.
For every woman who fakes an orgasm, there is often a woman who hides one.
One of the LAST things such a woman wants, is to act in any way that might encourage him to discover her own secret, unique, “combination” to unlocking her uninhibited satisfaction.
Grabbing him by the hair and steering his head, or pushing on the back of his head to guide his tongue will not be a part of her “arsenal”, no matter how skilled he is sexually or how well he can delay or control his own orgasm.
The same man whose prowess is met with feigned apathy by one woman, will be greatly appreciated and cherished by another woman, who is “healthier”…
100% agree, it’s a positive feedback loop. I think many women don’t realise how much most guys Want to be good in bed, and would respond well to “it would be really nice if you’d try this” or “my best friend said her guy does this and she Loves it.” And if a guy doesn’t like learning new ways to give her pleasure, perhaps he’s not a guy to be with.