People Can Fetishize Anything
In all the discussion Aphrodite stirred up about sex during menstruation, I was suprised that nobody pointed out the fetish angle. Yes, boys and girls, there are men (and perhaps women too, although it seems much rarer in general to find anecdotes about women with strongly-held unusual fetishes) who fetishize menstrual blood. Just ask Mistress Matisse.
Meanwhile, back at the ranch, my feelings on the subject are ambivalent. The women I’ve been with have been quick to bat my hand etc. away at that time of the month, and I’ve never really been the “overwhelm her feeble protests” type (although that’s a fun game to play). However, I’ve had some good sex in the dark that turned out to be bloody. No big deal. And I’m on record for the proposition that a gentlemen shouldn’t freak out about sex messes. Which, gentlemen, means “No big deal” is your story and you had bloody well better (pardon the expression) stick to it. Make her feel good about whatever happens, no matter what your inner girlyman is shrieking.
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I love that line, Bacchus….”Make her feel good about whatever happens, no matter what your inner girlyman is shrieking.” You are da MAN!
I’ve heard tell that orgasms can help reduce period cramping, and moderate hormone peaks, not to mention the standard benefits like helping people sleep better afterwards.
I know, from my experience at least, orgasm eases the pain of cramps (Gets the muscles involved in cramping to move in a different way). And I can always tell when my PMS is starting because my desire spikes.
I’m not living in the head of someone who doesn’t want sex during her period, so I don’t know… maybe my bodily functions rest on a different part of the bell curve. But it could also be that (some) women don’t want sex during that time, ’cause they’ve bought the idea that menstrual blood is “dirty”
Was skimming through Glamour magazine and saw a statistic from one of their polls that 55% of women don’t want to have sex during their period. I was stunned. At least 90% of the women I know don’t let a little fuss & muss get in the way. Maybe we just put pleasure (for both us & our partners!) as a higher priority than the “don’t touch me during That Time” girls. I couldn’t imagine being voluntarily celibate for 5+ consecutive days a month!!!