Fluids and Frolicking and Fun, Oh My!
Goodness. I didn’t realize that my post of yesterday would prompt such a response. Several comments deserve a more prominent response than just a follow-up comment … So, strap yourselves in, and have barf bags at the ready if you get squicked by talk of fluids and fucking. (Or, don’t peek behind the “more” link.)The first commenter posted:
All you say makes sense, but I don’t know that you’d want me to put my bleeding cock in you.. would you?
No, but that comparison confuses the issues. Menstruation is a normal, natural part of a woman’s body functioning — a bleeding penis isn’t. And yes, CID, there can be a difference in the “feel” of sex, menstrual fluid being thicker, if one plunges in without allowing time for natural lubrication to occur (or even if you do allow for that, just ’cause that other stuff is present too). I was somewhat tongue-in-cheek pointing out an advantage of having sex during menses.
Another individual commented, in part:
HOWEVER, I do have a problem with a lady, who after I go down on her refuses to kiss me… :boo hiss:
Boo hiss indeed! I’ve had a similar experience from the other side, so to speak. That is to say, a gentleman reacted with shock and displeasure when, after I’d admitted him to my “sacred sanctum” and he withdrew prior to orgasm, I went down on him. To me, the taste of commingled male and female fluids is scrumptious … but he apparently didn’t agree.
I’m not out to belittle anyone who has tried some of these things and not liked them. What I was challenging is the idea (which seemed to be implicit in Wanton Male’s blog entry, and I apologize to him if I read more into it than was intended) that there’s something inherently wrong/bad/harmful/unpleasant in menstrual sex — or, for that matter, enjoying other normal bodily fluids that happen as part of the sexual process.
If you’ve tried it, and not liked it, well, good on ya for trying. We all gotta follow our bliss, and thank the goddesses, there are lots of ways to do that. But if you’re among those who absolutely reject something relatively benign like this …. well, consider yourselves challenged by me to reconsider. “Try it — you just might like it!” :)
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Wow, thanks for the mention. :)
I do not quite understand biologically, how it can be possible to become pregnant during this time? I am not being a pedant, nor a smart arse, I am truly perplexed.
1) Take a shower right before (generally for some reason, you get in the shower/bath, and your period just stops flowing for awhile– I don’t know why).
2) Use Instead Softcups (look them up– they’re amazing).
3) No wussiness!
I have found very few women who have a prob with period sex and lots and lots of men who do. I don’t know why really, but it seems to make them all squirmy like little girls with worms. Shrug, personnally, I wish more men enjoyed this activity. It is a great way to relieve those icky feelings girls get with their periods.
Depends on the women, as in love goes. I never had a problem making love to a woman while on her period. It shows a woman how much you can really love her by ignoring the fact she is on her period.
in my experience with my gf, its one of those things that always makes her feel better afterwards (re: cramps) but she never wants to do it cause she feels gross.
the presence of blood’s never really been an issue for either of us though. just don’t do it one white sheets.
cool blog, sweetness
Hell, I have white sheets and still see nothing wrong with it. There are ways to get it out and towels are certainly washable.
It doesn’t bother me either way and have never had a partner that cared. In fact, some of them enjoyed making a point of it not bothering them and pursued me even more aggressively.
No complaints here. ;-)
The only time it has ever bothered me was when I didn’t know before we started. We were young, the lights were off, and when I got up to use the men’s room later I discovered I was covered in blood. First thought through my head was, “Oh my God, I broke her!” Nothing like the power of a teenage ego. :-)
All you say makes sense, but I don’t know that you’d want me to put my bleeding cock in you.. would you?
Lubrication-wise, it feels really different and not as good. I’ve tried it and wasn’t grossed out but it didn’t feel as good either.
Margharita, a woman can conceive by sex during menstruation because sperm can live for up to five (or is it seven?) days inside her. Thus, if she ovulates during that time frame and any wigglers are still alive, she could become a Mama. :O
Sperm have a life span of 72 hours and it woudl be a very rare woman who ovulates immediately after a period woudlnt it? Not saying its impossible but incredibly unlucky.
OHHHH many apologies, yes, i did think it was 72 hours, but have since read up and find it is up to 6 days. Thanks. Dont know why i thought it was 3, but its always good to learn something.
As a male, I have NO PROBLEM with menstrual sex at all, and I have earned my “Red Wings” :D…
HOWEVER, I do have a problem with a lady, who after I go down on her refuses to kiss me… :boo hiss:
Thanks for being so nice! My reply was meant to narrow rather than confuse the issue by eliminating any idea of what’s “natural”. Is a man’s blood any different from a woman’s, except that it can’t be associated with women’s bodies and thus with their social issues? Our blood isn’t tied to our genitals, so we don’t claim it’s “natural”, but we also didn’t have to overcome an ideology of impurity.. but if we can agree that women don’t have to fight that anymore, either, we’re both free to just “hold the blood” (regardless of who brought it) as *blood*, if we’d rather.. I guess I’ve been fortunate to date & marry women who could shrug this issue off, willing to accept that even if there’s no stigma to menstruation, it’s still not weird to have an aversion to dipping your genitals in blood and having a lot of it around.. at least to the point of preferring other kinds of sex that week, as WM said just above. It’s how we see it, anyway.
I wholeheartedly agree. Don’t be afraid to try it out. You might find something you like. I’ve found out that most things aren’t unpleasant if you have an open mind.
What I was challenging is the idea (which seemed to be implicit in Wanton Male’s blog entry, and I apologize to him if I read more into it than was intended) that there’s something inherently wrong/bad/harmful/unpleasant in menstrual sex
Yeah, I think you read way too much into it. We know we can have menstrual sex and have but in the grand scheme of things going another route is eaier and more enjoyable for us. Neither of us believes there is anything wrong with it.
Still a good post though. :)
my guy has no inhibitions even though i do (especially when it comes to oral during aunt’s visit) but it’s funny how those things work. after a night of dirty and forbidden i sit here at work, in my shitty, little cubicle, and there’s a litte puddle forming underneath me whenever i try not to recall what awful / dirty / yucky thing we did last night.
‘Period’ sex has never bothered me – I don’t understand all the fuss. I think it is another aspect of trust and intimacy. Yes, it feels different – ‘thicker’, as Aphrodite says.
I once had a gf who would always clean me up afterwards which was wonderful.
I had another gf who hated the mess. She would somehow manage to push a tampon deep inside and then let me partially enter her, using her hand to stop me getting too far in. It was quite different but good. I was always worried that the tampon would get stuck but she said it was easy to get out.
Glad you are now a contibutor Aphrodite – you have interesting things to say.
I like it fine. It washes off easily. However, it has bothered a couple of women I’ve known. AND despite great efforts on my part to convince them otherwise, I could not change their minds. FYI, one had painful periods, either cramps and/or headaches, and the other did not like her own smell.
It’s hard to believe this is such a big deal for people. Granted, I often look like Hannibal Lecter after going down on my wife on a heavy day, but it certainly doesn’t detract from my fun.
A literary note: In one of Erica Jong’s sequels to Fear of Flying, her lover pulls her tampon out with his teeth [which I’ve done], then proceeds to chew it so the blood runs down his chin [which I haven’t, but if I thought it would turn my wife on…]
It’s a very personal thing. Some women don’t feel very sexy during their period. Others have cramps and it just hurts, no matter what you say about how “natural” it is.
You have to respect that as a man. And not take it personally or read too much into it. Or jump on her every time she’s bleeding just to prove something (mostly to yourself). Respect her feelings, above all else.
Hi Graham, and thanks for the feedback and welcome.
And BJK, I hear ya … and would only add, “Respect each other’s feelings.”
yeah, we like it, and she’s usually hornier at the time anyway…there is also something primal about pulling out and seeing blood on me…, and it feels nice and squishy in there too lol…
It would be remiss not to mention that it is safer for BOTH parties during menstrual periods to use a condom. Once employed, there is virtually no difference in risk, unless the condom breaks, etc.
However, without a condom, there is indeed a slightly elevated risk during menstruation of transferring any sexually transmissible diseases due to the “raw”, or more permeable, nature of the female’s tissues, and the last time I checked, there was no real cure for H.I.V./A.I.D.S., genital herpes, or even for human papillomavirus, according to some experts.
Besides being incurable, another good reason to avoid HPV and herpes simplex virus, is that HIV tends to piggyback on them.
Needless to say, oral sex is also a greater risk to both parties during the woman’s period, if her partner has gum disease.
It should be noted that gum disease is considered to be the second most common disease on the planet, and that probably every other person in the United States has it, at least to some degree, though they may not know it!