New Year’s Sexolution
Not really hott or fun, but I promised somebody I’d put it someplace public…..I’m just back from a nice, extralong holiday with my sister and her family. We had all the usual holiday fun, the kids are as cute as ever, but the best part was talking with my sister about R and related things. She kind of knew him, but since she’s older than me, she wasn’t around for alot of my crush on him. I didn’t spill the whole story, just enough for her to know that there were sexual and other “intimacy problems” between us. Something Tony Comstock said in a comment here made me think about my situation…..maybe I’ve been too fussy about sex partners lately. I don’t need a fancy ceremony or even a diamond ring to go horizontal, but caring about my partner or partners has always made the sex better. I thought I cared about R, but really I didn’t know him, I was stuck on my highschool dream and didn’t take the time to get to know who he is now. My sister says that I probably wasn’t fussy enough with R and now I’m being too fussy…..sort of an overcompensation.
Anyway, our talks really helped me put all that behind me. I don’t really want somebody to marry and settle down with, but I do want real affection and caring that goes through all our relationship, not just inside or outside of the bedroom. I think I kind of envy people who can get their kicks and then say, “See ya!” – it seems like they probably get more action and more fun from it too. But that’s never worked for me, and I don’t think it ever will.
My sister is all into karma and “giving voices to dreams and goals,” and she made me promise to make a New Year’s resolution, and give it a voice. She says that will help it get energy, to become real. (She’s alot more hippie-girl than I am. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.) So here I am.
My New Year’s Resolution is to find a caring guy that will be fun in bed, too. I don’t care so much about whether he’s willing to do certain things or not, although somebody adventurous would be a bonus. No checklist, no rules, no desperation. No Mr. Perfect. Just somebody sweet, and nice, and comfortable with sexuality and sensuality.
Men like that are out there, aren’t they?
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Oh they exist, I am one, i am involved in that very type of relationship with my girlfriend right now, we have fun, and are very affectionate to each other, but we dont feel the need for any social binding or serious commitment.We are both perfectly fine with getting together once and awhile and fooling around :P
so dont give up… there are plenty guys like that out there im sure
just keep on truckin :)
That’s funny, I think that’s pretty much what most guys are looking for. Someone sweet, fun, caring and lots of fun in bed.
Sounds like your on the right track…The best people I’ve met always seem to appear when I stopped defining what I wanted and needed from them and rather just let them be who they were. I hope it works for you too!!
anna:)
ps. your sis sounds extremley cool…I personally have a bit of a thing for “hippie-girls”
Aphrodite, it’s not a matter of being picky or not picky or anything like that. Project what you want. Anna has the right clues on it. Don’t go looking. And if you’re comfortable with yourself and aware of how YOU are and WHO you are, then others see it too. Especially those who are just the nice guys. And yes… They do exist.
They exist but they are rare.
This is what worked for us:
1. Meet by chance, have really phenomenally great sticky sex all hours of the day and night. Invite people to watch.
2. Be seperated for several months with no chance for physical contact – a short prison term or lengthy overseas deployment will work best.
3. Write (with paper and pen) every freaking day for 180 days straight. Rely heavily on your local postal service not to deliver all your correspondence to Ulaan Baatur (unless the object of your desire is a Mongolian shepherd)
4. Rejoin, have incredibly wild sex secure in the knowledge that you actually know something about this person who wrote you a stack of letters for six months other than their nipple pain threshold.
5. Eat your vegetable and drink six glasses of water a day.
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Thanx Anna & Darkneuro, I wrote this too late at night and totally messed up on what I was trying to say. I’ve been too uptight and thinking about true love and happily ever after. I don’t know where that came from, maybe from living in a Mayberry town too long. I want to find a guy, but I won’t be shopping, just being me and enjoying whatever happens. Does that make more sense?
we’re out here, and just being you is the best way to get one of us. Good Luck
they are out there, there are plenty of them too. mostly they are behind the nice guy but I’m not attracted to him kind. my husband is not the kind of guy i would lust after or have even imagined myself being with but he loves me (i love him!) and he will do/try anything to make me happy.
Sigh, I feel the same.
Just that I can’t seem to find a girl who sorta fits that description either.
People tell me, “wait till your older, girls your age are very much still clueless (about a lot of things).”
Felt like disclosing my age, but I felt it might diminish this comment. ;P
Good luck. =)