The Mathematics Of Seduction
I think this cartoon by Hugh MacLeod at Gaping Void is one of those funny-because-true kinda things. It puts me firmly in mind of the awkward approaches to seduction that certain smart-but-foolish young men attempt, having as yet no clue about better approaches, nor yet the skills to put better approaches into action:
On a more serious note, Hugh gets hatemail, like most bloggers sometimes do. The latest one called him “too obscure for general consumption”, to which he responded:
I think worrying about what interests you, what stirs your passion, is a far more effective recipe for success than worrying about “general consumption”.
I have to agree. Blogging is unsustainable if you approach every post worrying about what people will think, or if you spend too much time fussing over your writing or your background research or your whatever. Do you think I’m proud of writing a line like “I think this cartoon…is one of those funny-but-true kinda things”? Hell no, how inarticulate is that? But it was fast, it introduced the cartoon and got me to the next sentence where I explained my reaction to the cartoon, and more to the point, it enabled my blogging passion, which is hooking y’all up with other people’s interesting contributions to the cultural conversation about sex.
Hugh’s right, then. By worrying about what interests me, and be damned to the critics, I’m still here after four good long years. In that time I’ve linked to, and later sadly delinked for reasons of moribundity, dozens of sex blogs that were “better” than mine — better written by my own lights, more carefully crafted, better focused, and above all, slicker; which is to say, produced with an eye toward “general consumption”. Produced, that is, for a few weeks or months, and then dropped, establishing with each demise a prima facie case for lack of passion.
Here’s to passion!
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Reminds of one of these Girls Gone Wild tapes I
saw a few years ago where two naked women are
riding in a car, and some guy on a bike is
pedaling furiously to keep up, yelling, “You’re
so beautiful! I’m hung like a horse! I could
make you so happy!” Sad. Just sad. I wanted
someone to shoot the guy just to put him out of
his misery.
and everything it entails!!
To passion, indeed! TO passion, imagination, kinkiness, and all those other things that make life worth it!
I agree with what you say, but would like to add the old saw about “it’s better to be loved by a few, than just liked by many” (or something like that) If you try to please “general consumption” then you’ll end up being incredibly bland. Like wedding reception music.
I’ve seen plenty of porn which leaves me stone cold, not because it’s naff, but because it’s really not my thing, bondage for example. Fair enough, I just leave it for those that enjoy that sort of thing and look around for what I like. If we only had sites that pleased everyone, then there’d be nothing left.
Amen to passion and not so much with the general consumption. I write for me first and foremost and share the bits I want to put out there, so far, it seems to have attracted readers. If I didn’t write for me about things that interested me or turned me on, or challenged me then I suspect I would have fallen by the blogging way side many months ago, like so many others.
Mollyxxx