For my whole-ass adult life I’ve heard women complain about bad-in-bed men who couldn’t find their clits. Nor do I have any reason do disbelieve that that the state of sexual education in the USA is deplorable, and that men in general suck at asking for directions. Therefore I’ve taken it aboard as a truth about the universe: there must be a lot of men out there who can’t find a clitoris. But… seriously? My sample size is not enormous, but the clit has always been right there for me, a featured promontory on the map of a woman’s body whenever I reached for it, hard to miss whether I looked with my fingers or my eyes and lips. My unconsidered conclusion has always been that men who didn’t find it are dumbfucks, so paralyzed by sexual shame or blinded by such a complete lack of regard for female pleasure that they just didn’t really try very hard at all.

Along comes Victoria Ventress with an offering of further perspective. I’ve seen a lot of different vulva diversity illustrations and even some pretty specific clitoral hood variation photo arrays, but it never really sank in for me that on some women’s bodies, the clit might just be considerably more unobtrusive than the ones I’ve met. Victoria says:
As a bisexual female, I’m really starting to understand what you guys are talking about. There’s a couple of things here I really want to address, but the first one is I’m so sick and tired of people getting upset, being like “He couldn’t find it. He couldn’t find it! He couldn’t find it, he doesn’t deserve it, he couldn’t find it!
The last five women that I have been with… we have a clit crisis, okay? Clit crisis, baby. Your mama didn’t give you one.
I know where it’s at now. I got lucky, and mine’s big. And I ain’t even gonna lie about it. Mine is big!
Yours don’t exist. I had to actually ask. The last girl I was with, I was like, you know what? We ain’t even doing this anatomy lesson right now. Spread it open. Show me where it’s at.
She showed me where it should be. There is no man in the boat.
The boat is there. The man is missing.
So y’all quit giving these men a hard time, okay?
Because I have the same anatomy, and some of y’all, I’m struggling with, okay?
Spread it open. Show me the bean. Because I don’t see it!
Image credit: The entirely fanciful clitoral variation illustrations in this post are excerpted from a hentai/doujinshi fan art homage to the buff women of the Street Fighter videogame franchise. The artwork is called Street Fucker Pussypedia, by the artist Cosine.
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