For the record, I don’t think males and females are necessarily and inevitably enemies, but sometimes the differences between the sexes can make it feel that way. But for some, even the same sex can feel very foreign to deal with.

The recent visit of my sister and nieces highlighted yet again for me how different I seem to be from the normal female. They all are very feminine — careful in choosing their clothes and accessories, skilled at the art of hairstyling and makeup application, and apparently quite good at flirting with men and getting attention without being obviously manipulative. (My other older sister is like this, too.)

I’m lucky if I remember to drag a comb through my hair before noon. I wore makeup in high school, but have gradually lost interest in it. The last time I tried to apply mascara I poked myself in both eyes and looked like a stoner for days. I couldn’t flirt my way out of a paper bag.

Now don’t get me wrong — I get (or got, before I moved out to the sticks) plenty of guy attention. But it’s a very different kind of attention than what I see the other ladies in my family getting. They’re coddled, while I’m asked to help with the heavy lifting. It’s okay for them not to know what a strong safety is, but I’m expected to know the different rules for NCAA and pro football, and recite them whenever they’re relevant in a game.

In short, I’m a tomboy. And in a lot of my interactions with men, it makes a huge difference. It can be very pleasant, when we cut through all the Mars-Venus bullshit and just talk, but it leads to unhappy surprises, too …. like when a guy asks me to dinner, and he freaks because I appear in a dress instead of my usual jeans and t-shirt. I feel like a mutant female.

So, I sometimes sneak behind the lines to see if I fit in better with the guys, which it usually seems I do. Typically, though, like this AskMen website, there’s not much that seems to apply to gals like me. Sigh…..

Oh well. At least I found this gorgeous picture while on my recon mission, which I bet lots of ladies will like as much as I do.

I imagine this is all over the pornblogosphere already, but we’d be remiss if we didn’t wish Belle de Jour a fond farewell, give her ass a firm caress, and wish her all the best. Her final entry closes with words of wisdom for us all:

… don’t ever turn down pleasure because you were afraid of what other people might say.

Wired Magazine, techie-geekie-cool web site that I adore, is adding a new sex column! It’s called “Sex Drive with Gina Lynn”, and here’s a quote from her debut column:

For you newbies, think Sex and the City, only smarter. This is sex and the internet, sex and science, sex and the digital world. It’s the sex of technology and the technology of sex, two of the most powerful forces at work in our modern lives. It’s the foundation of a social revolution. And you’re a part of it, like it or not.

If you’d like to read it all, here ya go. She includes her email address toward the bottom, and invites questions and comments.

Coolness! And now I gotta run — my older sister and her two daughters are visiting today, so I need to make the place look respectable. :confused:

Speaking of human-looking facial expressions, Comstock Films (the folks who made Marie & Jack) are casting for another production:

Comstock Films seeks real people in real relationships for sexually explicit documentary style films.

Comstock Films is launching a new project to produce a full-length film. We are looking for real-life lovers of all sexual persuasions who want to share their unique erotic nature with the world. This feature will be pansexual in nature, and we are especially interested in people and erotic practices not usually seen in mainstream porn. People of all ages, genders and transgenders, races, body-types and sexual interests are encouraged to apply!

In all the discussion Aphrodite stirred up about sex during menstruation, I was suprised that nobody pointed out the fetish angle. Yes, boys and girls, there are men (and perhaps women too, although it seems much rarer in general to find anecdotes about women with strongly-held unusual fetishes) who fetishize menstrual blood. Just ask Mistress Matisse.

Meanwhile, back at the ranch, my feelings on the subject are ambivalent. The women I’ve been with have been quick to bat my hand etc. away at that time of the month, and I’ve never really been the “overwhelm her feeble protests” type (although that’s a fun game to play). However, I’ve had some good sex in the dark that turned out to be bloody. No big deal. And I’m on record for the proposition that a gentlemen shouldn’t freak out about sex messes. Which, gentlemen, means “No big deal” is your story and you had bloody well better (pardon the expression) stick to it. Make her feel good about whatever happens, no matter what your inner girlyman is shrieking.

Goodness. I didn’t realize that my post of yesterday would prompt such a response. Several comments deserve a more prominent response than just a follow-up comment … So, strap yourselves in, and have barf bags at the ready if you get squicked by talk of fluids and fucking. (Or, don’t peek behind the “more” link.)The first commenter posted:

All you say makes sense, but I don’t know that you’d want me to put my bleeding cock in you.. would you?

No, but that comparison confuses the issues. Menstruation is a normal, natural part of a woman’s body functioning — a bleeding penis isn’t. And yes, CID, there can be a difference in the “feel” of sex, menstrual fluid being thicker, if one plunges in without allowing time for natural lubrication to occur (or even if you do allow for that, just ’cause that other stuff is present too). I was somewhat tongue-in-cheek pointing out an advantage of having sex during menses.

Another individual commented, in part:

HOWEVER, I do have a problem with a lady, who after I go down on her refuses to kiss me… :boo hiss:

Boo hiss indeed! I’ve had a similar experience from the other side, so to speak. That is to say, a gentleman reacted with shock and displeasure when, after I’d admitted him to my “sacred sanctum” and he withdrew prior to orgasm, I went down on him. To me, the taste of commingled male and female fluids is scrumptious … but he apparently didn’t agree.

I’m not out to belittle anyone who has tried some of these things and not liked them. What I was challenging is the idea (which seemed to be implicit in Wanton Male’s blog entry, and I apologize to him if I read more into it than was intended) that there’s something inherently wrong/bad/harmful/unpleasant in menstrual sex — or, for that matter, enjoying other normal bodily fluids that happen as part of the sexual process.

If you’ve tried it, and not liked it, well, good on ya for trying. We all gotta follow our bliss, and thank the goddesses, there are lots of ways to do that. But if you’re among those who absolutely reject something relatively benign like this …. well, consider yourselves challenged by me to reconsider. “Try it — you just might like it!” :)

Wanton Maleness. What a great name for a blog! And it’s a pretty yummy one, too. However, in a recent post on awesome sex, our correspondent writes:

Unfortunately she was having her “visitor” so that limited options.

What’s the problem with having sex while a woman’s menstruating? Sure, it can be messy, but there are ways to avoid that, or clean up afterwards (hydrogen peroxide is very effective, especially on fresh blood stains). Having to duck out for a couple of minutes prior to the festivities commencing in earnest is a hassle, but a minor one that, to me, is always worth it. (It’s just like donning Mr. Raincoat so that no lives get accidentally created.)

Besides, the question of adequate lubrication is moot, and for most women (but not all — this is not a failproof contraceptive technique!), making happy during menses without Mr. Raincoat carries a lower risk of pregnancy. For me, on the few occasions I’ve had bad menstrual cramps, a nice romp has worked better than any pharmaceutical nostrum.

So, am I a weirdo sex-fiend sex goddess? Maybe … but I will admit to being squicked by the idea of cunnilingus during my period. So I’m not completely uninhibited either. :crazy: