Hating On Sluts And Whores: Sour Grapes

Y’all know I don’t believe in sluts. But even if I did, it’s always been a mystery to me why your average man might object to them.

Self-described fetish model and BDSM porn starlet Rain DeGrey says it’s a simple case of sour grapes (if you don’t remember your Aesop, click here):

When someone is hating on SLUTS & WHORES, what it really means is they are upset the sluts aren’t paying any attention to THEM.

Thanks to Bondage Blog for spotting this.

The Self-Deconstructing Slut

I still don’t believe in sluts. I’m gonna stay stubborn about that.

That said, Holly at The Pervocracy has some interesting things to say on the subject of sluts, such as “Most sluts are not as slutty as you think.” Which, given my skepticism on the subject, I’m predisposed to believe anyway.

Three Cheers For Bad, Dirty Sluts

Mistress Matisse has written an excellent short essay on why prostitution is not inherently wrong. It’s hard to argue with her points on women’s ownership of their own bodies, and it’s puzzling to me that self-described feminists, who are all about body self-ownership when it comes to the reproductive side of sex, can’t understand the same point when it’s applied to sex for money-and-pleasure.

My favorite paragraph:

That, to me, is the part of being a sex worker that’s most apt to be damaging: the pressure, the name-calling, the marginalization and isolation she may encounter. If she internalizes those beliefs – and for many women it’s hard not to – she will start to hate herself, and with self-hatred comes a host of other self-destructive behaviors. But I think it’s not the sex with men that’s damaging these women, it’s being told they’re bad, dirty sluts. And I think it’s unfortunate when the people calling them that think of themselves as feminists. That’s not any brand of feminism I want to be a part of.

And just for the record, I would pay good money to be there watching in person while someone tells Mistress Matisse to her face that she’s a bad, dirty slut.