Aggressively Woody
There’s a risk this will reinforce some of the negative memes that were in that yucky Atlantic article, but I’m going to post it anyway, because it strikes me as honest and unfiltered, and because it illuminates something about men that many women don’t act as if they are aware of. A lot of us men have sexual narratives like this running in our heads a lot of the time, not necessarily narratives as aggressive or as self-possessed as this, but running nonetheless:
99% of most days I wake up with an insanely raging hard on, something my new girlfriend rarely understands or helps relieve. She always has to run to work, and I watch her most mornings get dressed in heels and a dark skirt, toying with me.
I often fantasize about jumping her as she’s leaving, pulling her back by her hair and dragging her to the couch, ripping off her clothes and fucking her, bent over the table, forcefully, never letting go of her hair. After a little while, I’d pull out, force her to her knees and then cum all over her face and blouse.
She’d obviously have to take another shower.
But I mean, she’d only be a little late, right?
From Don’t Move.
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Huh. We rarely have sex first thing in the morning. We’re on different time schedules. And I’m long gone before he even thinks about getting up.
This really made me miss morning sex.
Oh, yes! I wish my husband would do that to me. If I thought that he might, I would tease him each morning, getting dressed in the panties, bra and clothes that turn him on the most, until one morning he would finally make me pay and make me very late for work. What a delicious idea… maybe I can start dropping him some hints!
If I dnt give it to my friends that way they would not!!! Get wet for me. I must admit I love it that way as well ladie gaga said,” if its nt ruff it isn’t fun”
Like I tell my spouse, that’s what sick days are for. Now go get her…
As a woman, I have to say, this was pretty hot to read! I think Dan Savage put it best when he said that male sexuality has a tendency towards aggression – and that’s not necessarily a bad thing.
And there’s obviously a huge difference between fantasy and reality.
If she was on the way to having hot, steamy sex with a co-worker in the supply room at the office, she may not appreciate the detention, but if she’s been wearing one of those “Make me late for work” T-shirts lately around the house (and little or nothing else…), then I’d say you’re already behind schedule on this thing, and you’d better get caught up!
Ha, my husband actually did something similar to this just a few days ago except I was getting ready to go to the gym rather than straight to work so I didn’t have the advantage of the sexy skirt/heels etc. I didn’t think he was awake, he’s usually still sleeping when I get up and go to the gym and then work since we work different schedules.
It was a very nice start to my day.
Aggressive and self possessed? I wish there were more men like that; more and more they seem to be keeping it in their heads and out of action.
I don’t think I meant the same thing by “self-possessed” as you do.
I was using it as a synonym for “self-absorbed”, “selfish”, possibly even “privileged”.
Inasmuch as:
1) He whines that she doesn’t understand or help relieve his morning hardons. Yeah, that would be awesome if she did, but the way he puts it hints at an annoying sense of entitlement.
2) After saying she doesn’t understand about morning wood, he then complains she’s toying with him when she dresses. Which is it? And dude, is it really all about you?
3) He says she “has to run to work” suggesting economic need, but then dismisses the idea that she’d only be a little late, when in fact that could get her fired, which in this economy could be devastating. Is he so rich that doesn’t occur to him? Or too big of a jerk to care?
Now, it’s a fantasy, which is why I didn’t make more of this than one carefully-selected rather neutral word. I’m not trying to suggest he’s the world’s biggest jerk, or anything horrible like that. I don’t believe in condemning people for their harmless fantasies, or in deconstructing them critically when they share them openly with us.
But I do think it would be possible to construct a less self-possessed but just as hot sexual narrative around that morning scenario.
I’m a woman. Maybe I’m unusual, but I have narratives like that running through my head all the time, too. Is that really such a male thing? Women don’t do this?
Well, maybe not exactly like that… *blush*… but sexual narratives nonetheless…
In this post, the strongest claim I make about women is that “many women don’t act as if they are aware of” these narratives constantly running in male heads. And that’s really a claim about me — it’s about my attempt at a mental model of what’s going on in the minds of the women around me, based on the only evidence I’ve got, which is their speech and behavior.
I certainly didn’t attempt to claim that these narratives are exclusively a male thing; I was talking about men because I am one, and can speak with a bit of authority, so I limited myself to that.
However, I do have a lot of experience of women encountering evidence of the male narratives and reacting with (feigned?) horror, repulsion, dismay, or disgust — acting in every way as if they were revolted by the very concept that the men in their lives were constantly thinking about sex. Possibly that’s a socialized hypocritical covering behavior, but if you accept it at any kind of face value, it suggests that the frequency and intensity of these internal narratives does differ between men and women.
Morning sex is fantastic. Late is fine, but just go ahead and come inside. My work clothes are dry clean only.
I think it’s interesting that you say: “Possibly that’s a socialized hypocritical covering behavior, but if you accept it at any kind of face value, it suggests that the frequency and intensity of these internal narratives does differ between men and women.”
In my (very limited) experience, women who are comfortable with their sexuality have these kinds of narratives going all the time too. I know I do. But yea, I definitely think over a broad sample it’s probably more common among men.
I also wanted to add, even though I agree that his recount of it sounds very self-involved, I think that might just be the nature of these kinds of fantasies, not necessarily a representation of his actual personality. Isn’t that the point of fantasies?
re: “self possessed”/”self-involved” et al…
I’d probably construct MY fantasy to be even MORE self-possessed.
My scenario would have me blocking the bathroom door afterwards, and sending her off to work either wearing or “containing” the baby batter, or at least having to deal with the evidence as best as she can on the way…
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