Foreplay: Not Just For Women You Know
Here’s Lidia-Anain on Giving Him The Foreplay He Needs:
During that session of lovemaking, I realized how much he needed, wanted and loved foreplay! *It* wasn’t that great always between us when we got into bed but *it* was great on this day. A few minutes of foreplay had gotten him very excited and so in control that he was able to hold back just until he knew that I was coming and he let go!
After we both had amazing orgasms, I had an epiphany — the sex that followed me giving him foreplay had ALWAYS been better than when he didn’t get it.
Instead of assuming that my hypothesis was true I asked him. I asked him if he enjoyed sex more after me providing him with foreplay. His answer was a resounding yes. He said that foreplay helped him relax, get into it, attain more control of his orgasm and that it built him up for some very powerful orgasms. He told me that he loved the extra attention because it made him feel wanted but that as a man he didn’t always want to seem needy. He didn’t always need foreplay but when it was given he felt like we were more connected sensually.
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Scrotum caressed, nipples sucked, Butterfly kisses, give men the same sexual feelings and connection as woman. We have been stereotype as animals so long, we almost believe it…
Yup. It only took 2-3 incidences of my then-gf licking my nipples to turn them into erogenous zones. Now pretty much my entire body feels good when stroked, licked, kissed, etc.
Just like men are often incorrectly taught to go for lips, nipples and pussy, women are often incorrectly taught to just go for the cock. It’s nice, but an appetiser before the main meal often makes you enjoy the whole dinner a lot more.
hear hear!
I’ve never been able to wrap my mind around this attitude that women are more in need of foreplay then men, that men are somehow immediately “revved up” and anything else is at best needless theatrics and at worst teasing/stalling for time.
There’s only one thing I love more than to really enjoy a man’s body and response to my varied caresses, and that’s knowing how much HE loves it, too!
Masturbating males learn in early puberty that if interrupted, a boner (once achieved), can take quite a few minutes to subside before any actual orgasm has taken place.
Therefore, (theoretically anyway), males are in a hurry to climax, before their privacy is compromised. If masturbating females hear someone approaching, they can usually more easily quickly hide the fact that they have been engaged in the act.
Once learned, this male state of being “revved up” when it comes to sex, is hard to unlearn. This learned behavior can lead to premature ejaculation.
Foreplay gives the male more assurance that his partner is committed to facilitating or assisting his orgasm.
Females who adopt the “corpse” role during the sex act, tend to make the male fear that perhaps she’s an unwilling partner, and may at any moment decide to withdraw her consent, and thereby ruin his orgasm. This kind of thinking only creates “minutemen”, who ultimately leave the woman unsatisfied.
The smart woman who enjoys orgasms will do anything to prolong the male’s pleasure. It has been said that this is why the French invented the word “lingerie”. Clothing designed specifically to promote or enhance the sex act by delaying it or lengthening it, made the pleasure “linger”…
I rather liked The Gabe’s framing. He argued that he has no interest in foreplay, because that term implies a false distinction between “real” PIV sex, and that other stuff that happens before that, which somehow isn’t sex.