“I Don’t Think It’s For Me”
One of the polite phrases my dearly departed mother tried to teach her barbarian children was “No thank you, I don’t think it’s for me.” This was part of good table manners, if an overly-insistent hostess was offering a second helping of something that we had already accepted and tasted previously.
On the internet, however, the best habit is to remain silent. If you see something you don’t like, just scroll on by!
I was reminded of this during a recent social media conversation with Girl On The Net. We both publish content that’s predominately about men who fuck women, with, if there’s a power dynamic, a bit of maledom/femsub flavor to it. That’s on average. But the decades are long, right? And we’ve both had the experience of, you know, branching out for variety. Recently we were groaning at one another about how any LGBTQ+ porn is likely to trigger a complaint from a reader who is only here for the straight-man-on-top-of-a-straight-woman fucking. It turns out that GotN wrote a whole-ass post about that back in 2015!
Porn: Not All Of It Is For You!
It is a gloriously rant-inflected essay about the surprisingly-numerous people who:
…pop up in the comments sections on porn sites, sex blogs, and other sexual media with the taste of one bitter word on their lips:
“Eww.”
Nothing more than that because, make no mistake, these people aren’t usually offering constructive criticism: an idea for a future scenario, a shot that could be slightly better framed to highlight someone’s arse. No – they’re simply telling you that it disgusts them. That one or other of the performers does not meet their exacting taste, or that the scenario in question is not one they wish to wank to.
Enjoy.
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That is one rule of the Internet that I have learned over the last thirty years. If you post something someone doesn’t like, instead of going on about their business, some people will try to trash it. Doesn’t matter how innocuous it is.
While we were growing up, I often used to tell my younger sister “Everybody has their quirks.”
It’s a useful and healthy expectation to have in life: Expect everyone to be different. Expect each person to be unique.
It’s natural to have a knee-jerk reaction to something and just say something without thinking. But if you do think about it for a second, there aren’t many options for the person you’re saying “eww” to, now is there?
1. Should they suddenly stop liking something? (People don’t choose their preferences, they discover them)
2. Should they stop making it just because one random person on planet Earth told them to? And magically predict all the other things you might not like? Maybe they should also please the other 8 billion people while they’re at it.
It’s not useful, and there is no action they could take that would please you. So what are you expecting? What are you even asking for?
Why punish people for making something when they cannot possibly know what you like. Even if they were a perfect angel who bent over backwards to accommodate you, they couldn’t possibly please you because they know nothing about you.