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March 25th, 2013 -- by Bacchus
Here’s a very personal and persuasive essay from a man who found that doing escort work (and, later, making porn) was more personally and ethically satisfying than working as a personal injury lawyer:
I found myself shackled with $100,000 in student loans, and no law firms specialized in what I loved and hoped to pursue, Constitutional Law. Instead, I felt forced to settle on a job as a trial lawyer for injury cases. I reasoned, If I couldn’t serve the greater public good by using my legal education, then at least I could succor the injured in their quest for justice against those who harmed them.
But studying law and practicing it proved to be a different story. It quickly became apparent that my colleagues were exploiting the suffering of injured clients as a means to satisfy their own avarice. It was standard practice to use any methods necessary to wrest, cajole or hack a settlement from anyone they sued. After all, if they won a case, my colleagues received a hefty one-third of the settlement. For them the law was a self-serving instrument to be wielded for “victory.” The principles of law I so deeply valued were routinely violated. I quickly grew disillusioned.
After a year, I had seen enough. I fell into a moral crisis.
On the other hand, after he started advertising his services on Rentboy.com:
Because I was non-judgmental and respectful, clients felt safe to share their true desires. None of their requests seemed strange to me. Whether they wanted to be beaten or bound, made loved to or pissed on, their desires were pure and honest. It satisfied me to gratify them.
But what thrilled me most was the idea that spending time with me actually positively affected my clients’ lives. It wasn’t just about sex. It was about connection, authenticity, healing. Through our conversations and play, clients learned to understand and honor what deeply aroused them. Many rediscovered parts of themselves that had long been repressed or buried; some even gained insight as to why. One client, whose partner of 30 years had died, told me that his time with me stopped him from committing suicide. Another chose me to bring sex back into his life for the first time since his true love was killed in 1971. The skills that I had learned in caring for Steve translated into my work as an escort. At times, I considered myself as much of a healer as any therapist.
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March 24th, 2013 -- by Bacchus
You know the legends of the vast and secret porn vault maintained beneath the impacted bowels of the Vatican? Well, for us North Americans, it turns out we’ve got a better-documented version of our own. But in ours, the porn is etched on whale ivory.
This is no shit. This is real. The Vancouver Maritime Museum triggered a local controversy (in the form of one nutcase offended local mother) when it included some pieces of scrimshaw featuring nudity and mild erotic themes in a recent exhibition:
For me the interesting part is the basement collection of hardcore scrimshaw porn they won’t show to the public:
Lust was a common theme in 19th-century scrimshaw, which is what this obscure art form – etchings on hard surfaces culled from sea creatures – is called. Scrimshaw was typically made by lonely whalers, trapped for months aboard ships that scoured the South Pacific for their prey, usually sperm whales, magnificent, 50-foot long creatures prized for their oil.
The whalers had idle hands and feverish minds. Scrimshawing was their means of expression, their release valve. Using ship-made hand tools and tobacco juice for ink, they set upon whale leftovers. Some of their work is finely detailed. Some is undeniably erotic.
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The museum has “more graphic” examples of scrimshaw, [Museum curator Patricia Owen] says, but these remain hidden downstairs in the museum’s basement. They include depictions of creative candlestick use and what Ms. Owen cautiously describes as “the act.” They will likely never see the light of day.
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March 22nd, 2013 -- by Bacchus
Yup — it’s in the sex news! Violet Blue very kindly wrote about my new porn research and attribution service in yesterday’s Sex News post at Tiny Nibbles:
This is real, and he’s… amazing. OG sex blogger (and longtime friend, and longtime co-commiserator about unattributed porn) Bacchus is offering a new service for fun, saying “I Will Track Down The Source Of Your Favorite Adult Photo Or Art And Research It For $5.” People have already paid for his services and had good results. Who knew?
Thanks, Violet!
You want to hear one fun thing that I’ve already realized about my (so far as I know) unique service? Simply, this: From now on, whenever somebody is challenged about their poor porn attribution practices and they start in on the usualsong and dance about how hard it is and how they didn’t know where that picture came from, the entire internet will be able to see precisely how little they cared. We can now put an upper-bound dollar value on it. They cared less than five bucks worth, and now we can prove it!
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March 22nd, 2013 -- by Bacchus
Here’s that rara avis, a Tumblr with what appears to be original content. And what’s more, it’s about Dudes In Distress. Damsels in distress on the internet, dime-a-dozen. Dudes? Not (quite) so much.
For the most part, the distress is pretty notional; does this man look distressed to you?
One commenter even suggested the tumblr should be called “Submissive Dudes in Fulfilling Sexual Relationships”. But it’s not all happy cocks tied up with pretty colored string. Nope, there was the time when
she waterboarded (one of) my boyfriend(s). She said, “I’m going to do this real nice.” Yeah, even the nice way sucks, though.
That, I can believe. I get panicky and short of breath just looking at this:
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March 21st, 2013 -- by Bacchus
I have watched with interest the reports of Violet Blue and many others from the SXSW cultural festival in Austin every year. I’ll never go, I don’t think, not when even the Super 8 charges $800 a night (which is the rumor I heard this year on Twitter); but there’s much that happens there that’s relevant to my interests, including this set of closing remarks by Bruce Sterling:
I won’t play Debbie Downer in this space by sharing his trenchant remarks on the state of blogging, but felt I had to transcribe his broad-strokes view of the effect digital disruption is having on our prosperity:
Now, most of you in here are not novelists. I’m not complaining that novelists are disrupted and are very badly off, although we are. What I’m telling you is that you’re more disrupted. You are worse off. Whatever happens to musicians happens to everybody, including you.
People like to say that musicians reacted badly to the digital revolution, that they put a foot wrong. What really happened is that the digital revolution reduces everybody to the state of musicians. Everybody! Not just us Bohomian creatives, but the military, political parties, the anchor stores and retail malls, academics subjected to massive open online courses. It’s the same thing over and over! Basically the only ones making money are the ones who have big legal stone castles surrounded with all kinds of regulatory thorns, meaning: the sickness industry, the bank gangsters, and the military contractors. Gothic high tech.
If more computation and more networking was going to make the world prosperous, we’d be living in a prosperous world. And we’re not! Obviously, we’re living in a depression.
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March 20th, 2013 -- by Bacchus
You know the old saw about how it’s impossible to tickle yourself? It’s true for me, but I’m not sure it’s true for this harem dancer:
Artist is Konstantin Razumov.
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March 20th, 2013 -- by Bacchus
We don’t see too much of our innocence-ravishing beast, here, but that’s a short furry tail he’s got there and the “hands” are all wrong, so he’s emphatically not (quite) human:
The artist is Jean Morisot, who published his art in portfolios under the name “Jean de Sauteval”. He’s good with sweetly-horrified damsels, isn’t he?
Found via Erectus.
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