What can I say? J and I talked a lot, he gets the orgasm thing (thanks for your help there) but the sexblogger thing has squicked him. It’s been alot of back and forth, he’s definitely interested in some kinds of exploring but he’s a smalltown boy and this is a small town we live in…..and there are issues from his ex-wife that he’s trying to deal with. Including some sex stuff. So I think it’s all just too much for him. He says he “sees somebody different now” when he looks at me, and doesn’t know who that is.

Before anybody gets all down on him like happened here and here, J’s attitude is just fine in alot of ways, he says he couldn’t tell that I came at all that day, he’s a real sweet guy that’s just got too much to handle right now. We may end up together some time down the road…..but I’m not counting on that. I’m thinking I need to get out of Lutheranville. So I guess it’s back to Sssh.com for awhile.

So, next question is, when should the sexblogger subject come up in a relationship? It’s a trust thing for me, I don’t talk about this dirty little habit with most people because it just isn’t their business. And telling a guy too early will probably give him a whole barrelfull of wrong ideas.

This is fun:

Dominant women smoking cigarettes (and doing mean, mean things with them) are a frequent theme in “femdom” porn, especially from places like Japan where smoking seems to remain a bit more “cool” than it has become in the United States. Here’s a fragment from a manga comic panel featuring a vulnerably posed naked man and a domina poised to extinguish her smoke:

You can see the whole panel here, but don’t click unless you’re prepared to wince and shudder.

Found in the alt. binaries. pictures. erotica. cartoons newsgroup on Usenet.

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Here are two micro-fragments of dating advice from Smitten that strike me as particularly worthy:

Beware of any man who calls an ex-girlfriend or wife “that bitch.” … A man like this is guaranteed to be calling you by the same name, or something more innovative, later on to his next girlfriend who will stroke his arm and say, “I’m so sowwy she was so mean to you.”

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Beware of men who think that every woman they work with is either stupid, a slut or la piece de resistance, a stupid slut, as there is not a chance deep down inside that they don’t think the same of you.

Every now and then, those clean-cut young men (you know the ones) screw up and knock on the wrong door.

Well, actually only two lesbian nuns. I do tend to write hyperbolic headlines:

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Thanks to everybody that helped after J’s and my first fight. I told him some of the things that were written there, and after we made up I showed him where I got it from. He was shocked, but not mad, and said he needs to think about things. That was two days ago. I’m trying to be patient.

Here’s something alot more pleasant for you to enjoy….it’s the season of sexy tan lines, and this black and white photo is just delish!

One of several nude photos in SkyShaper’s Flickr gallery.