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The Sex Blog Of Record
Friday, May 2nd, 2014 -- by Bacchus
Daze of Daze Reader is one of the few sex bloggers on my blogroll who has been at this longer than me. But he’s still got it, turning out some excellent posts, like this one:
A Who’s Who Of Whores In Game Of Thrones
It’s an encyclopedic reference to all the appearances of all the whores in the television show, complete with screen shots. As one who thinks that the show is made better by regularly showing us people getting on with their lives the way folks do by fucking, talking, and scheming simultaneously, I find the compilation quite enjoyable.
On nomenclature: I have never been one to throw the word “whore” around casually, on the blog or off it. But Daze chose to use it for (what I take to be) literary reasons that seem to him good, and I’m mirroring his usage because it’s his blog post I’m referencing. Here’s Daze on his reasons:
A note on language: some other sites have made reference to “sex workers” of Game of Thrones. A more respectful term than “whores”, certainly, but it rings false for the fictional world portrayed in the show. As Ellaria Sand says when Olyver addresses her as “my lady”:
Oh, I’m not a lady.
A term of courtesy in this establishment.
A lie, anywhere. Why not use the right words? I’m a bastard. She is a whore. And you’re a, what, a procurer.
Bluntness has value. With all due respect to sex workers fictional and real, we’ll stick with “whores” here.
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Thursday, March 14th, 2013 -- by Bacchus
The next time you hear someone (or even yourself) talking the same old smack about hookers, consider this:
The existence of courtesans is a glaring refutation of neofeminist dogma about objectification, the eternal victimhood of whores, etc; the fact that the most celebrated, successful and highly-paid harlots of all time were often those who were educated and could match or surpass men in intellectual pursuits throws a huge spanner into the catechism that prostitution is a manifestation of male dominance over women, that our clients hate us, and so on.
From Maggie McNeill’s blog post about Tullia d’Aragona.
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Saturday, September 8th, 2012 -- by Bacchus
This story makes me shake my head:
At one point the subject turned to sex and the difference between making love and fucking, and gentle and rough sex.
Mr. Suit was quite opinionated and said he thought that only whores liked rough sex.
After noticing that I had been kind of quiet for a bit he turned to me, put his hand on my leg, and asked me what was wrong.
As I gently but firmly removed his hand, I told him “ummmm, nothing’s really wrong, I just think that you spent a lot of money tonight taking a whore out to dinner, and she’s not gonna fuck you.”
The obvious part is, dude shot himself down by being fetish-negative and judgmental about rough sex before he took the elementary precaution of finding out how his dinner companion felt about it. Stupid!
Hardly the first time, though, that a man’s arrogant assumptions cost him in lost nookie opportunities.
But in my book, he committed double-extra-stupidity by using “whore” pejoratively. It’s one of those words — like “cunt” when it’s used as an insult — the utterance of which implies a huge package of the speaker’s bad attitudes toward women in general. Definitely not a word to trot out when you’re wining-and-dining!
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Wednesday, February 1st, 2012 -- by Bacchus
Y’all know I don’t believe in sluts. But even if I did, it’s always been a mystery to me why your average man might object to them.
Self-described fetish model and BDSM porn starlet Rain DeGrey says it’s a simple case of sour grapes (if you don’t remember your Aesop, click here):
When someone is hating on SLUTS & WHORES, what it really means is they are upset the sluts aren’t paying any attention to THEM.
Thanks to Bondage Blog for spotting this.
Friday, November 19th, 2010 -- by Bacchus
Don’t pay any mind to the dude in the background. Look at our lovers. He’s caressing her face, they’re gazing deep into each other’s eyes, she’s a little breathless, her mouth open anticipating a kiss…
It could be straight off the cover of your average semi-pornographic bodice-ripper romance. A proposal of marriage within twenty pages, a duel by the end of the chapter, eventually a wedding after necessary complications, happily ever after in due course.
Except, I cheated. I cropped creatively, and rotated the frame a little bit. Because what’s actually going on here is, she’s strapped down to a bondage table with her legs apart and he (it would seem) is taking ruthless advantage of her helpless situation:
Not that she minds. Indeed, I’d say they’re pretty into each other.
Her girlfriend / partner in crime is getting the same treatment in the background (on the floor!) from his buddy. The story is, the girls are druggies who got caught by a pair of rogue cops. Supposedly it’s all very exploitative and the ladies are being kidnapped and turned into “whores” for the bad evil corrupt cops, but everybody seems to having too much fun to remember the nominal humiliation/degradation agenda.
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Thursday, August 19th, 2010 -- by Bacchus
In a longer piece, Julie Meadows writes:
A woman has natural power in this world. She is a potent source of sexuality and life. It is a gift, but as with all gifts, it is also a curse because men and women will always hate her for knowing her own power.
That is why she is called a whore. She knows it, she uses it, and it scares people who want it or wish they had it, even if her choices have nothing to do with those people. Sex work can be safe and healthy, or it can be illegal and dangerous. We should be protecting all members of our society, including the beautiful and powerful women. A sex worker – properly trained for sex work – can be an educator and source of liberation for others. A friend of mine told me that as a young man, he picked the female with the most sexual experience and had her teach him everything. He had successful relationships after that because he acquired skill through mindfulness that many men never learn because they don’t pay attention. But more than that, a compassionate sex worker can provide emotional and mental soothing for clients, or teach couples things they can do together through instruction. I spent many hours as an escort just talking to clients, listening to their problems and assuring them that the stresses of their daily life are common and that they shouldn’t be too hard on themselves. With an education in therapy and counseling, coupled with the confidence that comes with providing a legal service, I could have thrived as someone capable of physical and mental and emotional therapy. They are all important.
What’s wrong with being a whore? The people who strip her humanity away from her and tape her mouth closed. Other than that, nothing.
Emphasis, on those first three sentences, added by me.
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Friday, September 11th, 2009 -- by Dr. Faustus
In yesterday’s mail came David Henry Sterry and R.J. Martin, Jr., eds. Hos, Hookers, Call Girls, and Rent Boys: Professionals Writing on Love, Life, Money, and Sex. And while I’ve barely had time to crack it open, the first thing I see is a very short article by the magnificent Annie Sprinkle (Ph.D., even!), entitled “40 Reasons Why Whores Are My Heroes.”
There’s a lot here, that run from the prosaic
21. Whores relieve millions of people from unwanted stress and tension.
to the humorous
36. Whores have the guts to wear very big wigs.
to the explicitly political culmination.
40. Whores are rebelling against the absurd, patriarchal, sex-negative laws against their profession and are fighting for the right to receive financial compensation for their valuable work.
But I guess I must just be some sort of economist manqué, because what really stuck with me was
6. Whores have careers based on giving pleasure.
Any artist, indeed any worker of any kind, should be proud to say the same thing about herself. You can read the whole thing at Annie Sprinkle’s site here.
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