That Dude Who Hates Audrey
Since the earliest days of this blog, I have been reticent with the word “whore”. It has its uses, it is not always a slur, but my general sentiment has been that decent men don’t use it much: never in anger or derision, and only at all when the word itself is part of what the conversation is about, as when a sex worker uses it deliberately or provocatively in public discussion.
My experience is that if you hear “whore” uttered easily from a male mouth, that dude will turn out to be a misogynist, or at least somebody who is deeply troubled about the power of women’s sexuality.
Meet this perfectly pleasant nude beach exhibitionist. She’s been circulating on the internet since at least 2013. Some sources call her Andrea, and say she’s in the Seychelles. I can’t confirm that. But she’s a pretty lady on a nice beach, clearly having a good time.
Somewhere on the internet, there’s a dude who saw her and thought “I want to mark her as a whore.” And then, he just went and did it, through the power of Photoshop:
Folks, I can’t prove it. But I would happily place large bets on what I am about to say. That dude? He’s one of the guys who fear women and hate the very idea of their sexual power. Avoid!
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And they’ve bad at photoshop. I’d guess either a teenager who doesn’t know any better, or someone who still thinks like a teenager.
Justin, I understand the sentiment; I too spent many years assuming that the worst of online misogyny and anti-woman propaganda was from literal boys, the proverbial callow youths. But over time I’ve been confronted with too many counter-examples; males (I have a hard time thinking of them as proper men) my own age or older who say the most horrible things when some conversational mischance makes them think the men in earshot are sympathetic to their gendered bigotry. Thus I am not so quick these days to ascribe it all to badly-raised boys.
I have weighed in on the topic of whores and sluts in the past on this blog, and I’m proud of my comments and would recommend reading the last two “Similar Sex Blogging” entries, so I that I don’t bother anyone with repetition in this comment. I believe admitted whores should be proud of their vocation, and those who are in loveless relationships for the power, prestige, or financial advantage yet are in denial about owning the label, are deserving of a far less noble term. As for sluts, if I were female, I would hope to have earned the term as a label. I feel sorry for any woman who has NOT acquired this title with at least one partner. There is nothing wrong with enjoying sex and striving to be good at it. Being an entrepreneurial whore is quite an achievement, and is deserving of accolades in this day and age. Nearly everyone throwing the terms out as a means of derision, is much more deserving of derision than their intended target. I have on occasion been called a slut in a good-natured manner, and it never fails to make me grin.
I’m in agreement with Bacchus…
I think those boys have to learn it from somewhere. I (like him), often assume that these are very young voices, because I like to think ignorance is eventually replaced by wisdom through the aging process, but I’m afraid that (like in other areas of life), a vocal minority of immature “elders” often “shouts” over the top of the voices of a sort of more “silent majority”. (Not to be mistakenly confused with THE misappropriated ‘Silent Majority’ of Nixonian times, or of even more recent past administrations…).
The more specious the opinion, the louder it is proffered…
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