Add Sex Toys For More Squirting
Your finger, your tongue, your dick if that’s how you dangle — I’m sure they are all very fine. You deploy them with cleverness and skill. You have, proverbially, not had any complaints.
But you should be honest with yourself. Female sexual pleasure can be a tricky business. Orgasms can be elusive for anybody. And they are not all created equal. There’s a spectrum from quick convulsion to wracking full-body exaltation. In extreme cases, she squirts so much she requires urgent rehydration. And that’s where the honesty comes in: how many of the most extreme orgasms you’ve witnessed had a sex toy involved somewhere in the process of production? I think, when you tally your sums, you’ll acknowledge that the right sex toy is your orgasmic ally and not, as a few of the most foolish men believe, some sort of plastic competitor.
I’m a big believer in the idea that men should buy, have, and deploy sex toys, for the maximization of their own and their partners’ pleasure. It’s not exactly an ordeal; online shopping is a thing these days, and you’ve got a huge choice of sex toy offerings at sites like Mega Pleasure. I mean, why would you not?
In the many years I’ve been sex blogging, squirting orgasms (female ejaculation, if you’re stuffy) has been mentioned, discussed, and analyzed from a number of different perspectives. From various anecdotes, it has become clear that the question “how much stimulation is too much?” is usually answered from a gendered perspective. Men — we lazy beasts — have often spoken up with the opinion that powerful vibrating toys are like comedian Tim Allen’s legendary power tools — no matter how good they are, they’d be better with a little more power. Women are more likely to view this attitude as sadistic — which to be fair it sometimes literally is.
“If a little bit’s good, a whole lot’s better” is all fun and games until it’s your tender membranes getting wildly vibrated. At that point, like all good sex, it becomes highly situational. Variations in anatomy, mood, preference, and for all I know, barometric pressure? All these variables make it impossible to generalize. But at the end of the day, I am a man. I’ve possessed and enjoyed the use of many sex toys that seemed underpowered to me, and no small few powerful ones too. Given the choice, I’m convinced more genuinely is better.
Image credits from top to bottom: The face-down ass-up rabbit-vibe squirting orgasm is from the adult game Jikage Rising by Smiling Dog. The lesbian squirt session featuring fingers and a strap-on dildo is by Mavoly. The post-orgasmic bullet vibe user lying exhaustedly in a pool of her own squirt is by Diamond_Arrow. The notably-flexible blonde who is eagerly watching herself squirt is by Daz-Da-Way. The woman screaming through a vibrator-forced orgasm is by Kaiota. And the woman pleasuring herself with a powerful vibrator is by Momono Mushroom.
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Okay, I’ve weighed in on this twice before (see the “similar sex blogging” section), but in the interest of trying to be helpful, anecdotally speaking (and F.Y.I.), I additionally think that employing the use of one’s hand, seems much more likely to elicit squirt responses.
In my experiences, a bit of alcohol (but not TOO much), may be helpful as well.
Also, a confident, assertive, unabashed attitude seems helpful. Now you may say “but what if I’m shy in nature”? To that I would say, to try to ACT like you are not. I realize that it’s extremely difficult to be confident if you dont feel that way, but “fortune favors the bold” they say. There’s also a saying that has gained some popularity in areas outside of sexual ones, and that is: “Fake it until you make it!”
I’d say that if you are going to act timid about it, you may be pretty much ruining your chances of success. Decide that you are NOT going to be ashamed of squirting, of you should succeed.
Confidence is, I suppose, easier said than done so to speak, but I believe this approach is perhaps quite key. Set your mind to be determined to be proud of squirting, if it should so happen.
I realize this is not science, just my own experience, which could very well be unique. If you are a squirting woman who disagrees, feel free to express yourself in a “contradictory” manner. I won’t mind. More light being shed on the subject, can only help those who have yet to have the experience.
Women just don’t seem to talk much about this, which is a shame. Lay out a generous supply of towels on top of the bed, if this makes you more comfortable. If you want to get on top of your partner, by all means get on top. If you want your partner to be on top of you, try to work that out. If you are with a partner whom you think may not be “on board” with whatever result you have, then it’s probably a whole lot less likely to happen. Talk with them about it beforehand, if you think it will result in your being more comfortable. If you’re with a partner whom you think will be less than happy and accepting of “squirt”, then you may want to wait for a more adventurous lover.
Dr W the books that I’ve read about such things, written by women, or featuring interviews with women who squirt, often talk about the pre-squirt sensation being like the urge to pee, so many women think the wrong thing is happening (wrong meaning they’re not into urine-play at that time). So yeah, as you say, it’s very likely about confidence, and not being too worried about what’s going to happen.
more notes: a) practice by yourself. b) lay out enough towels or whatever that you are comfortable and relaxed; you need to feel in the back of your head that it doesn’t matter how much liquid there is that it is not an issue of any kind. c) the new rechargeable hitachi wand vibrators are goddess’s gift to everyone; they are relentlessly powerful and comfortable and just wow. d) if you want a different kind of vibration from “c)” then an eroscillator 2 with the soft little mushroom head is out of this world lovely.
lastly, don’t be hung up on results. have fun, go wild. if it’s going to happen, let it. go with what your body is wanting to do. it’s normal to feel like you’re about to pee, btw. without getting into *that* discussion, let’s just acknowledge that the output and the location pretty much ensure you are going to feel like you have to pee. whatever else you do, have a good time!