There’s a story on the Tamsin Flowers erotic stories site called Good Girlfriends Peg Their Man. The narrator of the story seems to be a very good girlfriend indeed:
I jumped up with glee, excited at getting to finally try out something I had begged past boyfriends to try.
“You’re serious? you’re really okay with it?”, he said, dumbfounded.
…
One Friday evening as the sunset and the mood kicked in, my boyfriend presented me with a gift box. Inside was a strap-on with a modest dildo beside it. My eyes were wide as I began exploring it, feeling its power and its possibilities. The harness was easily slipped around my waist and the dildo fell into place easily, I paraded around the room giggling and my boyfriend joined in, smiling at my silliness and enjoying my excitement.
A ridiculous amount of the pegging porn out there is bundled with assorted tropes of female supremacy, leather gear, sneering femdom disdain, and/or professional-dominatrix simulated power exchange. All of those things, together or separately, are perfectly fine fetish spaces, as valid as any others. But none of those ways are the only way. A slim dildo (or a thick one, you do you!) in a secure harness is just another sex toy at the end of the day; there’s no reason it has to be seen as a BDSM thing specifically, or any kind of power exchange thing at all.
Couples plus toys equals orgasms; every other layer of symbolism and and significance we want to layer on top of that is optional. Sure, the fantasy toppings are the whipped cream and the cherry for lots of people, but with different toppings (or no toppings at all) you still have a delicious dessert.
That’s why I enjoy the story quoted above. It’s the simplest possible plot in a sex story: “I had this fantasy, so did my partner, but we didn’t know! Once we found out, boy did we have a wild night of sex!” That’s good stuff. It’s always good stuff. It literally never gets old.
In twenty years of sex blogging I’ve seen a whole lot of different accounts (fiction, non-fiction, instructional, autobiographical, accounts of every kind) about why people enjoy the kinds of sex that they like. As always, the accounts of male sexual pleasure strike me as not very complex. Men like pegging, power dynamics aside, because the pleasure of prostate simulation is different in kind from other male sexual pleasures, and is more rarely experienced due to it often requiring a bit of a “long and mysterious procedure” for a lot of straight men. Women’s reasons for enjoying it are more diverse, per the accounts I’ve seen, with the various power exchange motives frequently predominant. Among these, one recurring theme is their enjoyment at wreaking utterly massive ejaculations out of men whose normal emission is less impressive. We see this motive on display, perhaps, in the final illustration:
Image credits, top to bottom: The romantic pegging at the top of the post is by Angeban93. The greyscale pegging with a thick strap-on is by Aru (或). The busty lady piledriving her strap-on straight down into her doubled partner is by Rtil. The pegged man ejaculating while one nipple gets twisted is by Gamingarzia. The happy fellow spurting a whole lot of thick cum is by Mosbles.
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