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July 23rd, 2020 -- by Bacchus

Mad Mike

I don’t know precisely what stimulated Mike’s anger at his naked companion here. But the fact that Mike wears a belt with his name picked out in studs for just this sort of occasion? That suggests to me that he might be having ongoing infidelity issues with his unfortunate prone boyfriend:

gay male belt spanking

This bit of gay spanking artwork is by artist Larry Townsend.

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July 3rd, 2020 -- by Bacchus

Beach Booty

Spanking Blog imagines this photo of a bent-over swimsuit beauty as the immediate precursor to an inevitable beach spanking. Perhaps, but also perhaps not. There are plenty of other shenanigans one might instigate when presented with a tempting ass like this, on a secluded stretch of shoreline with no witnesses:

bent over beach booty

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June 16th, 2020 -- by Bacchus

Sixteen Years Of Pornocalypse At Adam & Eve

I am somewhat notorious for doom-and-glooming that the pornocalypse comes for us all. The aphorism is shorthand for my observation that companies and social media platforms evolve through a life cycle in which porn, adult sites, and persons interested in these are initially welcome while a platform or internet business builds out its internet presence, and then — slowly or rapidly — these outfits purge all the porn from their platforms in response to various pressures. Often, there’s a hypocritical element, especially when the company or platform retains a business model that’s porn-adjacent. In such cases, the porn purge looks like greasily disingenuous posturing: “What we do here is a matter of healthy pleasure. We’re not pornographic, oh no! And to prove it, we’ll exclude all those stinky pornographers — yes, the very ones that we courted for their traffic and money when we were younger, newer, and more desperate for traffic.”

The #pornocalypse comes for us all. I’ve detailed dozens of examples since 2013 and — without the catchphrase — going all the way back to 2004 when LiveJournal started cracking down on the sex bloggers who helped make it great. I’ve been on this beat a long time.

You want to know who has been on their beat even longer than I’ve been on mine? The legendary sex toy sellers Adam & Eve, who these days style themselves the “#1 Adult Toy Superstore.” They’ve been at it for fifty fucking years — an entire half-century. They got their start selling condoms and lube in brick-and-mortar stores, then branched out by starting a highly-successful condoms-by-mail business at a time when this was still technically illegal because of the Comstock Act. At some point they added sex toys and began franchising their brand to more than sixty sex shops nationwide. Prior to 1996, they put up a website they called “a collection of the finest erotic catalogs on the Internet.” Yeah, they’ve been at this game for a minute or two.

Now, let me tell you the story of how Adam & Eve the sex toy selling mega-chain first came to overlap with my little operation here at ErosBlog. Cast your mind back sixteen years, to 2004. There I was, blogging happily along, when I got a lovely email from Libby. “Libby from Adam & Eve” was a genuinely nice person who later became a sex blogger in her own right. In 2004, she greeted me with kind words complimenting ErosBlog for being “chock full of wickedness” and being “one of the most popular sex blogs in the world.” (That last was the best kind of flattery, since it was, at the time, essentially true.) Here’s Libby’s entire email. (Yes, I still have it.) You’ll need to click to make it big enough to read:

adam & eve affiliate pitch 2004

The essence of Libby’s pitch: Adam & Eve wanted to “start a brand new e-lationship” with ErosBlog. (Aren’t you glad that neologism didn’t catch on?) Our new “e-lationship”, boiled down, was intended to be a sort of primitive affiliate deal:

20 percent affiliate share for DVD offer

Wasn’t that nice?

In truth, it wasn’t. In those halcyon days, most affiliate schemes offered more than a 20% revshare. And although sex toy affiliate programs have always been notorious for not offering useful stats that an affiliate can use to track sales, Adam & Eve basically had no stats at all; it was my impression that their program was a “trust us” deal where they periodically paid out revenue without any visibility at all into the number of sales, the referring links, or anything else that affiliates need to verify that we are getting fairly paid.

So I wrote back, and, long story short, pitched them to buy a banner ad instead. Which they did, maintaining it on and off for the next year or two. My stinky-porn sex blog traffic was worth paying for, and pay they did:

adam & eve 2005 banner ad on erosblog

Note the content the Adam & Eve banner ad is running next to in this screenshot: it’s a brutal spanking photo from this post, featuring an interview with a spanking model about the experience of modeling for one of the most severe/BDSM spanking porn producers of her day. In 2004 and 2005, Adam & Eve was happy to advertise against this raunchy porn content.

But, you know: the pornocalypse comes for us all.

Fast forward to 2020. I am, for various reasons, currently in the market for a good sex toy affiliate program. I went to Adam & Eve to see what their offering might be these days. And it instantly became clear that they have succumbed to the pornocalypse. Their affiliate program these days has two layers of content screening for potential affiliates. A potential affiliate has to satisfy not only Adam & Eve, but also their third-party affiliate program operator, a company called Ascend.

Adam & Eve, who used to be totally fine running their banner against painful spanking content, now say they won’t allow their affiliate links to appear on any website that publishes bondage, pain, or urination content:

no bondage, pain, or pissing

Well, fuck. ErosBlog sometimes offers pissing stuff. bondage, BDSM, and pain content, too. After all these years, I still have zero fucking clue how a photo of a bondage scene is supposed to “depict” the “consent of the participants” — is the model supposed to hold an “I consent” cardboard sign, or what? Indeed, I’ve blogged at length about the actual ways to confirm consent in the BDSM porn we enjoy. Ironically, one of the first posts in which I did so was the brutal-spanking post that appears next to Adam & Eve’s banner in the 2005 screenshot above.

But that’s not all. Adam & Eve have some sort of working agreement with an affiliate program operator called Ascend. To become an Adam & Eve affiliate in 2020, you’ve also got to satisfy the content requirements that Ascend imposes:

porn verboten

That’s right, folks. To sell sex toys for Adam & Eve, you’ve got to do it from a website that doesn’t have any “pornographic, obscene, sexually explicit, or related content.” I dunno how you’d do that, but them’s the rules. I didn’t make ’em.

I call terms of service like this “porn-hostile TOS”. It’s my policy not to do business with anybody that has porn-hostile TOS. But, sometimes, the porn-hostile TOS are just for show. Sometimes, they are intended to cover butts and look good, but they aren’t enforced. By the time I got this deep into reading the rules, I had become curious whether Adam & Eve (and Ascend) could actually be 100% serious about all this porn-hostile nonsense. From a sex toy retailer! So I went ahead and filled out an affiliate application, just for the pleasure of seeing my inevitable rejection letter.

I was not disappointed. Here it is:

affiliate rejection letter

That makes it all nice and offical! My website does not meet their quality standards. It contains “inappropriate content”. Sixteen years ago, they pitched me to join their affiliate program, and when I said no, they bought advertising. Now? The pornocalypse comes for us all. Nowadays, you can’t sell sex toys for Adam & Eve if your website has “pornographic” or “sexually explicit” content. How the fuck does that even work? Sex toys are sexually explicit by fucking definition. Putting the Adam & Eve link on your website makes your website sexually explicit! What the actual fuck? It doesn’t make any sense.

The pornocalypse comes for us all. It fucking ate Adam & Eve.

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April 11th, 2020 -- by Bacchus

27 Tart Cards From The 90s

I came accross this big collection of 1990s tart cards from the phone boxes of London in an ephemera auction listing. “Tart cards” were lurid cheaply-printed leaflets that sex workers used to get phone calls from would-be customers. I didn’t buy them (the seller wanted more than twenty bucks apiece) but I thought the listing photos were worth preserving:

maid to dress correctly -- come and play in my west-end playpen

naughty sammy nipples -- new young exciting scandanavian sex workers

spanking new brunette -- london phone booth sex worker advertisements

men wanted for kinky late nigh sessions -- wicked tongue massage

Be sure to click through for some much bigger versions with less cropping.

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February 15th, 2020 -- by Bacchus

His Lovely Assistant

Spanking Blog writes “the hardest job in the world is being the lovely assistant in the precision whip demonstration.” Because of course your boss is going to miss a lot. That’s the whole show!

whip demonstration assistant with sore breasts

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January 27th, 2020 -- by Bacchus

The “B” Stands For “Princess”

The following comes from a thread by Dr. Bob Nicholson (aka “The Digital Victorian”) on Twitter, excerpting a series of 1892 newspaper reader responses on the question of how to “manage a husband”. This letter sounds to my modern ear more like a dominatrix’s online marketing copy than a true and real account of three marriages:

how to manage submissive husbands

I found myself curious about the greater context of Mary Louse B.’s concluding quatrain, so of course I had to look it up. It’s half of a poem:

A Useful Hint
By Aaron Hill (1685—1750)

TENDER-HANDED stroke a nettle,
And it stings you for your pains;
Grasp it like a man of mettle,
And it soft as silk remains.

‘Tis the same with common natures,
Use them kindly they rebel;
But be rough as nutmeg graters,
And the rogues obey you well.

Or, as Spanking Blog once described this poem: “Bad horticultural data from Aesop, recycled as unpleasant management advice.”

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December 8th, 2019 -- by Bacchus

2019: The Year Of Twitter #Pornocalypse

Folks, it’s official: Twitter is no longer an adult-friendly or porn-friendly platform. The pornocalypse comes for us all, and in 2019 it came for Twitter. A series of incremental rule shifts mean that Twitter now proposes to ban any predominantly-adult accounts. What’s more, they have formalized shadowbanning as policy without becoming any more open about the process or what triggers it. And finally, rule changes around “graphic violence” and “violent sexual conduct” appear to completely prohibit a great deal of kinky pornography, especially if it involves BDSM, urine, or semen.

Let me not overstate the case: we aren’t hearing — yet — about widespread banning of porn accounts from Twitter. But the rules are in place, in some cases since June. And it’s a fool’s hope to think “Perhaps they won’t enforce against me…” The usual pornocalypse pattern is to change the rules, wait a respectable period, and then start the porn bannings. At which point the rhetorical justification is “Why are you complaining? What you’re doing has been against the rules since forever, we were actually being nice for letting you slide so long…”

Once upon a time, the Twitter status quo was that porn was pretty much OK so long as you marked your account “sensitive” and kept your nose (aka your avatar and header graphics) clean. That changed in a policy dated March 2019, but the new policy didn’t actually appear on Twitter’s website until some time between May 25th and June 7th:

twitter pornocalypse: accounts posting sensitive media subject to banning

Yup, since June it’s been the case that “your account may be permanently suspended if the majority of your activity on Twitter is sharing sensitive media.” “Sensitive media” is graphic violence, adult content, violent sexual conduct, gratuitous gore, and hateful imagery. Adult content is “any consensually produced and distributed media that is pornographic or intended to cause sexual arousal.” Just in case you were feeling hopeful, erotic art isn’t exempt: “This also applies to cartoons, hentai, or anime involving humans or depictions of animals with human-like features. What’s more, the definition of “graphic violence” mysteriously includes “depictions of bodily fluids”, so no snowballing, ejaculation, facial cumshots, squirting, or watersports. The definition of “violent sexual conduct” is written in a way that prohibits vast swathes of BDSM porn, too:

twitter bans BDSM porn

“Simulated lack of consent” describes most modern bondage porn. And BDSM porn that includes whipping or spanking? That’s “sexualized violence”, because it’s almost never “immediately obvious if those involved have consented to take part.” Of course in commercial porn they have consented, but our proofs are in the context: the interviews at the beginning of the porn shoot, the happy smiles at the end, the researchable reputation of the porn producer, the willingness of the performers to return for additional shoots. Still images and short clips can’t usually encompass enough of this evidence of consent to make it “immediately obvious.”

After the March-dated set of rules that Twitter published in June, there was another update to the Sensitive Media Policy dated November, differing from the June (March-dated) set only by a few words. But there are also changes elsewhere in the Twitter Terms of Service (TOS). As XBIZ reports, Twitter is finally updating its TOS to permit the shadowbanning behavior for which it is already notorious:

In a nutshell: Twitter has explicitly reserved the right to shadowban, under the legalese of “limit distribution or visibility of any Content on the service.”

This is the paragraph from the March 2018 terms of service, which apply until December 31, 2019:

“Our Services evolve constantly. As such, the Services may change from time to time, at our discretion. We may stop (permanently or temporarily) providing the Services or any features within the Services to you or to users generally. We also retain the right to create limits on use and storage at our sole discretion at any time. We may also remove or refuse to distribute any Content on the Services, suspend or terminate users, and reclaim usernames without liability to you.”

And this is the revised passage, effective January 1, 2020 (italics added by XBIZ):

“Our Services evolve constantly. As such, the Services may change from time to time, at our discretion. We may stop (permanently or temporarily) providing the Services or any features within the Services to you or to users generally. We also retain the right to create limits on use and storage at our sole discretion at any time. We may also remove or refuse to distribute any Content on the Services, limit distribution or visibility of any Content on the service, suspend or terminate users, and reclaim usernames without liability to you.”

I tweeted about all this back in June, when Twitter started the #pornocalypse ball rolling, but I didn’t make a blog post then:

I did, however, predict new #pornocalypse rules in April, before they started rolling out:

There are several recent web articles offering more analysis of the Twitter #pornocalypse, but read them with care. All of them, to one extent or another, seem to conflate the changes in June with the recently-announced TOS changes that haven’t happened yet. That said, they offer more analysis of the implications than I’ve attempted here:

It’s long been my view that Twitter wouldn’t remain friendly to adult content forever. The pornocalypse comes for us all — there’s no social media platform that’s immune. But Twitter, famously, was the last major platform standing. It’s going to be a much bigger blow when they start banning all the image-posting accounts, the erotic-art accounts, and most especially, all the accounts of porn performers and other adult-industry people whose accounts exist for the sole purpose of sharing and promoting their work. I don’t care if people start defensively including 51% political tweets, or puppy tweets, in an effort to avoid the deathly “dedicated to posting sensitive media” label. If sharing of adult imagery is any major fraction of your reason for being on Twitter, you’re at risk of having some faceless support person, probably backed up by some algorithm that scores your account with an internal “sensitive media rating”, decide to terminate your account. Look for porn performers, artists, and, yes, sex bloggers, to start disappearing from the platform.

Don’t think you can argue “but my sensitive media wasn’t the majority of my activity! My account wasn’t ‘dedicated’ to it!” You can’t lawyer-lips the #pornocalypse. Once a platform declares itself adult-hostile, which Twitter now has, the actual enforcement is always arbitrary, capricious, and without much hope of meaningful appeal. Even if there’s “sensitive imagery” in less than 10% of your posts, say, a hostile eye looking at your account is likely to parse the image-sharing (especially if it supports your livelihood) as the thing your account is “dedicated to”, discounting the rest of your activity as ancillary chaff. You want get some anonymous underpaid outsourced support staffer to look at your statistics “proving” that porn is in less than 50% of your posts? First, you’ll never be given a chance to make that argument, and second, even if you somehow manage it, they won’t care. Good luck with that.

In the Daily Dot article I linked above, the report reached a Twitter spokesperson, who tried hard to suggest that nothing was really changing in all this. Then the reporter specifically asked about the banning of accounts “dedicated to” adult material that’s otherwise permitted by the Sensitive Media Policy:

When asked whether Twitter will ban users who primarily share consensual porn or fictional illustrations of consensual nonconsent, Twitter did not clarify.

That refusal to clarify speaks volumes, and what it says is nothing good.

I believe, too, that it’s significant that Twitter no longer denies shadowbanning. We can expect it to see it deployed a lot more readily against adult-focused accounts. There were limits to how far Twitter could go when their official claim was that shadowbanning did not happen. But on all social media platforms these days, sneaky ways to minimize the visibility of adult material are popular. An outright ban can be argued, if only in the court of public opinion. But search invisibility is a penalty that’s extremely difficult to prove, much less complain about — especially when it’s applied by secretive algorithms to content that fully complies with the applicable content policies and terms of service.

I’d like to wrap this up with some helpful suggestions about where to continue the adult conversation once Twitter finishes suppressing it, but I don’t have any. There are a bunch of minor social media platforms that have started up to implement free speech goals, but none that I’ve seen have the kind of adoption and broad social graphs (at least, not yet) that make the major platforms worth bothering with. At least for now, we’re facing life in a world where all social media is a hostile place for adult expression.

I know I’m faintly famous for my Bacchus’s First Rule coinage, which suggests we all retreat and retrench to web spaces that we control. I still urge people to do this; it’s the best way to save something from the pornocalypse. But it’s not even the start of a solution to the problem. We like social media for its connectivity. When all the platforms are united in putting porn firmly beyond the pale of acceptability, it may be possible to preserve our unwelcome adult-community identities by sharing our content from platforms where we can’t be deleted, but that does nothing to connect us again. When all the search and connectivity is controlled by massive porn-hostile corporate platforms, how do we find each other and our audiences?

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