Young people who aren’t ready to settle down into committed relationships yet — and none of them are, although often they make the mistake of thinking otherwise — sometimes approach sex or sexual exploration by way of light-hearted sexy games.

In small groups of friends they’ll play spin the bottle, truth or dare, strip poker, or drinking games with risqué forfeits. Usually these stop well short of orgy territory, but everybody remembers there was that one night where everybody drank a little too much and nobody can quite remember what-all exactly happened…

These games of light-hearted ice-breaking sexual exploration most often happen among mixed groups of friends, friends with benefits, casual couples, tonight-only hookups, and a few shy orbiting singles who just need a nudge to get properly hooked up. Throw enough alcohol into the mix and a good time for all is practically guaranteed, with the safety-in-numbers factor keeping things from getting too far out of hand. But if you and Susie get dared to go into the coat closet together, who really can say what else might happen in there?

Dares and bets can lead to another fun opportunity for turning a “games with friends” situation into a “friends with benefits” situationship: if you take the bet, and you lose the bet, and your honor compels you to do the thing, then you don’t have to ever admit that you’ve been secretly wanting to do the thing since forever. “I lost a bet, I simply had to bend over for my best friend and her enormous strap-on. What choice did I have?”

Another really convenient use for games: when it’s a booty call or a hookup situation but not a romantic scene, that first step toward getting naked and fucking can be super awkward, especially if both personalities are strong. That’s when a deck of cards is your savior. “Strip poker?” and a challenging raised eyebrow can totally rescue your evening, because there’s no way to lose, no matter who winds up naked first. Just don’t let male pride get in your way if she’s better at cards than you! Accept defeat magnanimously. Your evening can only get better.

You can use any game for this, and take it as far as you like. Victorian party games often had specified forfeits (the tamest ones were chaste kisses) that losers had to perform for winners. You don’t need this spelled out for you, do you? Do you need a visual aid? I can give you a visual aid:

Image credits: The eight friends from the Naruto manga franchise drinking together and playing a strip hookup card game are by Scy–25. The four beautiful women from League Of Legends in the process of losing a friendly game of strip poker are by Nanoaoi. The woman who just forfeited her own untried ass to her lesbian friend’s monster strap-on in a card game is by Polybius. The scene of Siefer from the Final Fantasy videogames gritting his teeth as he loses some sort of strip card game to Quistis — don’t be a sore loser, man, she’ll be gentle with you! — is by Pudelmudel. The two characters from Genshin Impact sharing the traditional exchange of oral pleasure and respect after a challenging game of Go are by the yuri artist Lux Lin.

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According to a 1966 issue of Barred magazine, this promotional still from the 1965 nudie cutie feature The Wonderful World Of Girls features George, who is “sittin’ and ponderin'” the problem of what to do with all these beauties:

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Photo is from Femjoy. One unreliable source locates it in Crimea, in a more peaceful era than today.

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Abby captioned this video (backup link) “he brings home the best stuff” but watch his finger motions when he tests the vintage electric massager! It’s not recognizing and bringing home the classic antique sex toy that makes this man a keeper, it’s understanding its full potential that gives him all the brownie points:

It’s a very short video, but you really should watch it, if only to see Abby’s utterly-captivated facial expression at the end.

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Sex worker Isabelle Fox talks in this video (backup link) about the year she went without sex and how the truly remarkable thing for her wasn’t missing the sex as such but rather the realization that she simply missed physical touch:

I went 12 months without sex, which was a record for me because I’d been a professional for six years. But I went through something really heavy in my personal life and it made interactions with men feel almost impossible.

But what it did do was for the first time I truly understood why so many of my clients used to come and see me. While I did eventually miss the sex, that is not what hit me first around month nine. What I really missed was physical intimacy, like just the feeling of another person’s skin, completely non-sexual.

I was a hermit alone in my apartment for basically that entire time. And the most physical contact I got was in the infrequent sessions I have with the personal trainer where they measure my body.

Now babies who don’t get touch die from lack of it. That’s how essential it is. Then around month 10, I started missing the smell of men. And this was sexual. I was in a gym in New York and this guy was near me and I just thought, oh, that smells good. And from that moment, I started noticing men again. And over the next two months, that feeling just kept growing until it became undeniable and I finally acted on it with a man.

It was enjoyable and honestly incredibly cathartic. Up until then, my compassion for my clients had been mostly intellectual. Like I got intellectually what they were dealing with because they told me about it, but I’ve never really been through it to understand. I had always been in relationships even throughout my entire time as a sex worker. I’d never experienced a total lack of emotional or physical intimacy. And wow, it was hard. We really are made for intimacy.

Meanwhile I’m having a parallel reaction to her “discovery”, as I suspect many other men will too. What’s a revelation to her, is just the normal experience of life for a great many men, as she acknowledges when she talks about hearing about it from her clients. Indeed, the trick might be finding a man who hasn’t had the experience while he’s actually living with a woman he’s committed to.

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For as long as there have been stand-up comedians, they have been getting cancelled for over-the-top jokes. It’s a lot harder to get them to stay cancelled, however.

According to Rich Shydner in A History Of Standup Comedy, in 1957 Lenny Bruce was doing standup in a series of strip clubs in LA when he very briefly got a gig at the more respectable Slate Brothers nightclub out in West Hollywood. On his very first night he told a joke too foul to be tolerated:

A kid looks up at his father and he says “Dad, what’s a pervert?”

His father says “Shut up and keep sucking!”

As the story goes, Lenny Bruce immediately got fired and the Slate Brothers club went out and hired Don Rickles to replace him. Despite a 1960s obscenity conviction that ended his career and a drug overdose that took his life before his legal complications were resolved, Lenny Bruce is ranked #3 on Rolling Stone’s 2017 list of the 50 best comedians of all time.

The photo is of Lenny Bruce appearing with stripper Windee Gayle at the Orchid Room in Waikiki, Hawaii, sometime in the 1950s.

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I don’t recognize the talented lady wearing the feather plumage, but one of you might.

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