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The Sex Blog Of Record
July 5th, 2025 -- by Bacchus
One thing that happens when you spend a couple of decades writing a sex-positive publication with a firm commitment not to kink-shame anybody, is that while you might bite your tongue from time to time and you might choose not to write about this or that sexual practice because you don’t have a good handle on your own squickery, for the most part you become a lot more blasé than the general population about what your most vanilla auntie would consider “freaky” stuff. If you aren’t careful, you’re at constant risk of frightening the horses and/or freaking the mundanes, because what’s normal conversation to you is highly upsetting to them. (Please don’t ask me about the time I got roped into playing Cards Against Humanity with my elder relatives using somebody else’s raunchy expanded deck.)
Apparently there’s a similar phenomenon that applies when you’re an indy musician like Jessilyn and you’re playing your antifascist song Piss Boy Government at a punk bar. Here’s a video (backup link) where she talks about it, but I grabbed the transcript for all y’all who like me have short attention spans. Executive summary: it never occurred to her that people in her audience at a punk bar wouldn’t know what a piss boy was.
I had the opportunity to play some of my antifascist music out at a punk bar on Wednesday and I was really excited I got to play my song Piss Boy Government.
I preface that song with being like “Just for the record I’ve got nothing against piss boys. We love a good piss boy, they just need to learn their place.”
The basis of the song is that like the United States government is full of piss boys who don’t know their place and they don’t seem to realise that the American people are their mistress. I didn’t realize this while I was performing but I had someone else record a video for me, and when I was watching this video back just a couple minutes ago I realized that there were these two men talking during my set.
They’re just like “what’s a piss boy” and the other one’s like “I don’t know, let’s Urban Dictionary it” so they go on to Urban Dictionary and they type in “piss boy” and they come back and they’re just like “okay, so it says it’s a submissive male who for lack of a better term engages in ‘water sports’ if you know what I’m saying” and they’re like “oh what?”
So in addition to getting to play my antifascist music I also got to educate two grown men on what a piss boy is and I just… I didn’t realize that there were people who didn’t know what a piss boy was. I truly didn’t know that! I thought everybody in that crowd would be like, “yeah, piss boys! I know what that is. I know what you’re talking about. Donald Trump is for sure a piss boy, he loves the golden showers. Elon Musk for sure a piss boy. He’s a diaper boy, diaper baby.” You know? I thought everybody would be… I thought this was like a common thing everybody knew, but apparently not!
Image credit: Pissboy artwork is by legendary Japanese fetish artist Namio Harukawa.
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July 4th, 2025 -- by Bacchus
When this one-page spread first appeared in a 1957 issue of Hollywood Confidential magazine, I don’t think the art of titling was as advanced as it has become in the viral internet era. This one reads: “Intimate! Provocative! Bathing Beauty Demonstration: Bathing is a daily necessity as well as an art. Bathing styles do vary with the national groups. Herewith Model Donna Daily demonstrating bathing techniques, the art of living itself.”
Click the image or here for a much larger scan.
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July 2nd, 2025 -- by Bacchus
It’s really common in feminist spaces, or honestly anywhere that women are speaking, to hear statements like “the patriarchy hurts men, too” or more specifically “toxic masculinity is harmful to men.” But men, in my experience, either don’t hear these things because we aren’t participating in those conversations, or we aren’t receptive to the messages. An awful lot of men, especially blue-collar men, hear a phrase like “toxic masculinity” and parse it as “men are bad”. So they feel attacked, and withdraw from that conversation. It’s not productive for them.
Here’s a video that I think makes the same point in an unmistakable visual language. It was circulating on virality social media with the caption “a man will do anything if you call him a pussy” which, sadly, is too-often true. For too many men, no amount of physical pain is worse than the idea that his buddies will think him unmasculine. This man, although he clearly knows he’s going to experience sharp and immediate regret, allows himself to be goaded into touching his tongue to an electric bug zapper paddle, while other unseen men say things like “stop being a pussy” in the background:
Weaponized misogyny is a drug, gentlemen, and you might be its next victim!
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June 30th, 2025 -- by Bacchus
I can’t find much biographical information online about Honey Baer, the sweetly and salaciously stage-named dancer and pinup model who appears in a number of photosets in the old mail-order catalogs of the legendary fetish photographer Irving Klaw. Here she is in a couple of photos I have in an old directory:
As always with such multiply-copied artifacts, we could wish for better image quality. But this is what we have today, so it must serve.
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June 28th, 2025 -- by Bacchus
Honestly, you don’t probably need to be all that rich to buy this particular boat, but it fits with the general theme of the series, so:
Photo is from the July 1972 issue of Frivol magazine.
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June 26th, 2025 -- by Bacchus
When I lived in San Francisco in the early 1990s, there were still a lot of dusty musty bookstores to be explored in cheap buildings on dingy streets and in disreputable alleys. And every one of them had at least a few shelves of dirty books and magazines. I could, and quite often did, wile away an idle afternoon quite happily, by walking at random through the city, going into every bookstore I saw, and looking for “interesting” books.
An unexpected side effect of this hobby was that I would have “finding” dreams. Yup, I’d wake up from a dream of having found some sort of special erotica in a dusty bookstore. Usually it was large-format 11×17 looseleaf folios of black and white erotic “etchings” style drawings in a modern style, but of course as with all dream desiderata, I would remember it as exquisitely appealing, but I couldn’t ever remember exactly what it looked like, or where the damned bookstore was.
When I saw the social media account at the top of this post about a well-hidden library of gnomish erotica that a lucky adventurer visited in a D&D game, my first thought was “I’m pretty sure that I, too, visited that gnome smut library, in one of my finding dreams, these thirty-five years past…”
The gnomish erotica in this post is by Sorenuts.
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June 24th, 2025 -- by Bacchus
Explicitly blaming unspecified payment processors (which means Visa or Mastercard or their downstream agents), the fan/subscription platform Fansly (a large OnlyFans competitor that I don’t know much about) just banned furries “in adult contexts.” Specifically, according to 404 Media:
Fansly wrote:
“Anthropomorphic Content – Our payment processing partners classify some anthropomorphic content as simulated bestiality. As a general guideline, Kemonomimi (human-like characters with animal ears/tails) is permitted, but full fursonas, Kemono, and scalie content are prohibited in adult contexts.
Also hit by the recent pornocalypse ban-stick on Fansly were hypnosis and mind-control fetishists, catfight/wrestling enthusiasts, and public/outdoor/exhibitionist sex/nudity material.
Many Fansly users feel specifically betrayed by the promises they were made when they came to Fansly in the first place:
In 2021, OnlyFans announced that it would ban “sexually-explicit conduct” from the site, citing payment processor pressure. It reversed the decision days later, after widespread public backlash. Fansly said at the time that it was receiving “4,000 applications an hour” from creators looking to move to the site in the days after OnlyFans said it was banning sexually-explicit content.
“Thank you, we won’t let you down,” Fansly wrote on Twitter.
I’m sure that promise was sincerely meant at the time. But the pornocalypse comes for us all.
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