Prostate Milking: What It Feels Like
Every now and then, it’s my pleasure to find and share a piece of descriptive writing about one or another sexual practice that may not be an everyday experience for many ErosBlog readers. Such as this piece on prostate milking from JR, whose blog is mostly about the pleasures of life as a BDSM pornographer. JR writes:
She’d been wanting to stick her finger up my ass for some time. God only knows why. So, the other day, when I walked into the room, she patted my side of the bed and asked me, “you need to be milked?”
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This time when she asked if she could stick her finger up my ass I said, “sure”. She made some mention about whether I wanted her to go slow or fast and I just told her something. Did I say “surprise me?” That’s what I got. Surprised.
She was already stroking my cock in a way no woman has ever done before. I felt her finger meet my asshole and then suddenly, without any goddamn warning at all, she shoved it so far up my fucking ass I thought the top of my head was going to come off. I mean, it was like one quick, fluid motion. Wham. It was up there.
From this point forward it was all a blur. She was like an octopus. She overwhelmed my senses. Was I even in the same room at this point? I think so, ’cause there was one point, while she’s stroking my cock, she’s also searching for something with that other hand. And when she found it it was a really strange feeling.
How do you explain prostate milking? It was like she had some gland between her forefinger and index, and was rolling it in between the two. I suppose its akin to rolling your cock head between your lover’s two fingers. But that’s really a rather remote, vague way of describing it — because really it is so much more than that. When she massaged it I almost felt like I was undulating in a way. I’m here, now I’m not here. Swim-my. But then there’s the whole stroking the cock thing going on too. I’m reaching defcon one at this point and I feel like I’m on the tip of a Scud missile headed toward Jerusalem. There must have been a crease right under my butt cheeks where they grabbed the bed mattress and wouldn’t let go.
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While we haven’t done this (yet), some solo exploration of this area leads to some Very interesting sensations. I’m not always in the mood for some prostate stimulation, I would be very interested in finding out how it feels with a partner, sometimes a toy just doesn’t hit the spot like a lover’s finger does.
if you never milked a lover/partner…you have no idea what you are missing. it is a whole nother realm of intimacy, gratification, and bonding. You have your partner in a complete state of vulnerability and sexual freedom. “he” describes as a total other world….better than a high on drugs. slow, gentle and relax and trust your partner.
Unless I miss my guess, prostate milking is probably a bit unconventional for even most Erosblog readers.
I would call this post more of a “prostate massage” description, even though it included a “reach around” (Which by-the-way, if you’re the recipient of, is great work if you can get it!)
“Prostate MILKING” seems to be a term reserved more for the couples who are into “orgasm denial” play, which is commonly coupled with the use of male chastity devices. Skilled dominatrixes can handily empty the male of semen without allowing him to enjoy the normal explosion of a climax. Done “properly” the semen merely dribbles from the tip of the penis rather than “shooting” in the normal fashion.
Typical “milking” sessions may include a party-like gathering of two or more dominatrixes (or other females sometimes unknown to the male), where the male is sometimes physically restrained and may be gagged and blindfolded.
The object of which is usually “erotic humiliation” of the male, and may even include the employment of a professional “humilatrix”.
Other instances where actual “milking” is employed are in cases where the male is dominated by a female who openly cuckolds the male, in an ongoing relationship where the female enjoys orgasms with various virile males (or sometimes other females), often in the physical presence of the submissive or emasculated male, or sometimes he is forced to hear a rendition of her encounter which may have taken place out of his sight. The milking may be the only form of release in which his female partner will participate. This may be coupled with the above chastity and humiliation play for a more synergistic result.
The object of a true “milking’ is to decrease the males agressive nature, especially in regard to straying with other sex partners, and become a more docile creature, more dependant on the female partner for the satisfaction of his needs, and more pliable, more subservient and amenable to meeting her various desires which may or may not always be sexual in nature…
Ooops! I think I misspelled “humiliatrix”…
My wife did to me, while kneeling in the shower as I jacked off on her face. It was incredible and I loved it. We have not repeated that one… but I know we will get back to it.
It does feel good and I’ve had it done by several women. The first was most memorable mainly because it was done without asking and was a complete surprise. The young lady in question looked like she could teach Sunday school but turned out to be eager to please and willing to push boundaries. During our first sexual encounter she was giving me a great blow job when suddenly I felt her finger slide into my ass. I was shocked that she did it, shocked by how good it felt, and really shocked by the power of the orgasm that hit me a few minutes later. Ass play was a regular part of our activities from the gitgo.
“Prostate MILKING seems to be a term reserved…”
I disagree. Who made the reservation?
The post I quoted and comment #2 both suggest that in actual usage, the phrase has a broader meaning that you suggest.
I have a question? I thought index and fore finger are the same. Does this mean that she uses one finger on the outside another on the inside or is it that she uses index and middle finger?
Thanks
I don’t think that the index and middle finger would work very well with one on the inside and one on the outside. There’s no way to get a good pincer motion. For that I find that the index finger on the inside and thumb on the outside works great. I’ve tried ass play on a man without prompting once so far and it was a great hit, in fact I think the description in this post matches perfectly what I’ve been told it feels like. I highly recommend that all men at least give prostate stimulation a try on yourself!
I also was a little surprised at the use of the term “milking,” because previously I’ve only heard it used to refer to causing ejaculation without stimulation of the penis and often without a normal orgasm.
I didn’t mean for my post to have quite such an argumentative tone (else I would have left the word “more” out of the sentence, giving it a definite autocratic tone…) I feel as though Erosblog’s purpose is of a somewhat broadly educational nature, and that the use of “milking” as a part of the “orgasm denial” game, may be somewhat abstruse (Subjectively, I was sexually active for *ahem* let’s just say… decades before I even heard of this game), to most people. Perhaps my subjective assumption of the “occult” nature of this game, made me sound somewhat despotic, and set a negative tone…
At any rate, my driving motive was to share knowledge that I admittedly found personally hard to come by, not to sound erudite or bombastic…
I meant it as a purely subjective observation. Sometimes (especially for the sake of attempted brevity}, I’m not very articulate expressing myself over the web properly sans inflection of voice and facial expression…
I should have structured the statement better, and I apologize.
I merely wanted to point out that I’ve found that there’s the “milking” that includes a “happy ending” (usually with an accompanying reach-around or a blow-job, and seen as a great gift), and there’s a “milking” with perhaps a less happy ending, that’s often employed in order to control the male, or in some cases to supply a mutually felt “mental” pleasure more than a physical pleasure, as is often the case in certain BDSM practises. Very often in the latter (more obscure) uses, the goal is to “milk” him dry, and is often done on a regularly scheduled basis in order to achieve the ultimate goal of “orgasm denial”. Though JR is assumably a self-proclaimed BDSM practitioner, he appears to describe an orgasm in this case, whereas in the case of “orgasm denial” play, the goal is to drain the prostate without the benefit of the “Scud missile” ride…
Most surely you are right, that no one has the authority to reserve the use of a word especially in the case of sexual slang which is constantly changing, and I hope that in trying to retract my poorly chosen use of the word “reserved”, I haven’t come across as being additionally argumentative.
No worries, Dr. Whiplash. One of my own faults is being perhaps overly sensitive to people who want to use these blog comments to score “you’re wrong on the internet!” points; although I know that you’re a commenter of helpful good will, my reaction to the “seems to be reserved for” remark was somewhat knee-jerk because of this syndrome.
If I had been able to imagine you had written instead “Prostate milking is a term I have encountered being used more often to describe…” there would have been no issue. As it happens, in my internet ramblings I have stumbled across the usage (and the fetish practice) you and Krytella discuss; though, to be honest, I feel I’ve seen it used more often the way it was in this post.
Ultimately, like all language questions, there are no absolute meanings, just ever-changing useages.
I hope I’m not boring your readers via belaboring this issue (which I suspect is mostly semantic), but with yet even further musing (hindsight being more 20/20 as it were…), I have tried to return to my state of mind at the original posting, and decided that perhaps I was subconsciously trying to preserve the use of the term as I (subjectively) remember it from the past, in order to distinguish the two practices. To me, slang makes the English language more colorful, and promotes the expression of ideas, so I’m normally highly in favor of the “morphing” of terms over time, and the subsequent new uses of terms. This time I’m more resistant, because I (perhaps selfishly) fear that I’m losing a term that in my own subjective past, more narrowly descibed this practice, without having a satisfactory substitute term. This would explain why my mind plucked the term “reserved” out of my internal vocabulary, rather than expressing it as you (Bacchus) later suggested, which (in hindsight) would have been preferable.
I have no doubt that you are encountering more commonly the broader use of the term, in this present time (my guess is that this is partly due to prostate massage WITH an accompanying orgasm, being probably the more common of the two practices, and that would explain this phenomenon).
Conjecturing further (and assuming that the “orgasm denial” use of milking is more “fringe” behavior…), it seems likely that this term was co-opted by a larger population from a smaller one, as is often the case with new terms or new uses of old terms.
Also, my definition of the word is purely subjective, based on personal exposure to it in context, not from some dictionary or ultimate authority, and thereby colored by its use in wholly other subject matters, such as the milking of a poisonous snake, whereas often the goal is to render it harmless, or to extract every drop of its valuable venom, which pretty much means to milk it dry. Milking the prostate “dry” is (as I understand it), the preferable treatment for “orgasm denial” games, as it leads to a more easily subjugated submissive male.
In fact, I have read that there is an electronic cattleprod-like device (originally used in the practice of obtaining valuable semen from prize bulls and stallions), that is sometimes employed on human males which when properly inserted into his anus, will instantly empty the prostate without the benefit of orgasm.
Upon reflection, I suppose its equally correct to “milk” the prostate as one would a cow who had been separated from its calf, in order to relieve the painful condition of its full udder, which would be more similar to the use of the term by JR…
Again I’m not saying that JR or Bacchus shouldn’t use the term as they did, and surely Bacchus’s structuring of the sentence would have been a much better way to express my slant, so thanks Bacchus for the opportunity to perhaps not sound so much like a troll!
I had a great experience with an escort in Plymouth Meeting, PA, that specialized in prostate massage. OMG– I had no idea how good it would feel.
Anamara used her finger(s?) to massage my prostate during oral. Not only did it lead to a fantastic orgasm, I was quickly ready for round two (and then three). If only work took me there again….I’d be sure to try and look her up.
Not “best ever” but certainly top 10. I strongly recommend it.