Yesterday the big internet news was that IAC, the company behind Match.com and Chemistry.com (two of the bigger online paid dating sites) had purchased OkCupid, which is perhaps the biggest of the free dating sites, and is a company that was famous for interesting data-driven blog posts about its users and (notoriously) about the business models and advertising claims of its paid-dating competitors, specifically including Match.com.

[Disclosure: IAC owns a metric ton of sites in the paid dating space, and I’m fairly sure some of them have advertised on ErosBlog at one time or another.]

OKCupid’s price tag? Fifty million bucks. That’s a lot of clams for an advertising-supported company, especially in an internet economy where all the smart people say that advertising-supported business models are in decline.

My first thought when I heard the news was “Wow, OkCupid really must have been cutting into their sales if the paid boys were willing to pay that much to take them out.”

My second thought — and I tweeted a version of it — was “Damn, no more hilarious blog posts lampooning the ridiculous advertising claims of the big paid dating sites.”

So you can imagine my amusement this morning to discover Violet Blue’s collection of links about this, which included the it-shouldn’t-be-surprising-news that OkCupid has already taken down its most notorious blog post about Match.com, the one called “Why You Should Never Pay For Online Dating” (link is to cached version), the one that started “Today I’d like to show why the practice of paying for dates on sites like Match.com and eHarmony is fundamentally broken, and broken in ways that most people don’t realize…”

The most amusing of Violet Blue’s links, however, is this the-lady-protesteth-too-much link from the New York Observer: OKCupid: We Didn’t Censor Our Match.com-Bashing Blog Post. In which OkCupid says, of course, something that doesn’t perfectly match the headline. That blog post? That old thing? Not censored, no, of course not. But, uh, dudes, they paid us fifty million bucks, it wasn’t exactly a secret what they were buying, you expected us not to give it to them? They didn’t have to spell it out for us, no, that would be crass:

Match.com didn’t ask OKCupid to take down the post, CEO Sam Yagan told The Observer, it was just the “common sense thing to do.”

“I know everyone wants to make a big deal out of this,” he said. “They didn’t tell us take it down. I wanted to do it. … We obviously believe in a free model but there are also paid models and I didn’t think [the post’s] continued existence served much of a purpose. People will say, ‘Oh my God, they’ve sold out and they’re censoring it,’ that’s fine. When we put our next blog post next week and keep being awesome and the product keeps being awesome and free, people will just realize they’re overreacting.”

Furthermore, the data that OKCupid gathered from Match.com’s public filings and press kit were not completely accurate, he said, which he realized once he saw the real data.

“Upon having more knowledge as we’ve gone through the process of getting to know Match and them getting to know us, some of the conclusions we drew are not quite as exaggerated as we made them out to be,” he said.

Not quite? Well, that’s a relief, then.

It will be very interesting to see, in the coming months, what happens to the free dating experience on OkCupid, and I invite people who are familiar with it (I’m not) to post here in the comments as that develops. My suspicion is that they will develop the site to function as a feeder to the paid sites, making the free experience less and less functional and more and more annoying, slowly and incrementally over time. I’m basing that on a cynical reading of this language from the buyout press release:

“We know that many people who start out on advertising-based sites ultimately develop an appetite for the broader feature set and more committed community, which subscription sites like Match.com and Chemistry.com offer, creating a true complimentary relationship between our various business models.”

And if they don’t develop that appetite now, we’re pretty sure that once Tarzan comes swinging across the screen selling auto insurance for the nine hundredth time, they might start. And all you’ve got to do is get rid of that pesky little “show once” cookie on the advertisement! Easy peasy…

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A rare pre-20th-century image of condom use, courtesy of Wikimedia Commons:

Die vorsichtige Geliebte (“The Cautious Lover”) c. 1860 by Nicolas François Octave Tassaert.

There was a great era between the invention of photography and the time color photography came into its own after World War II, when fanciful pinup art might (rather than being hand-drawn in a lifelike style) start with a photograph (with or without extensive alterations of the negative) and then be modified with colored inks during the printing process or by hand afterward. There were endless varieties of these “hand-coloring” techniques and serious image collectors can discourse upon them at length. But in this digital age, there’s another common complication. If someone who encounters one of these fine old “hand-colored” images loves it enough to scan it for reproduction in the digital age, odds are they can’t resist “fixing” it a little bit, too. Everybody with a scanner does this. Remove a scratch here, crop away the mouse nibbles from the right edge, clean up a water spot, tweak the gamma a bit to account for fading, maybe adjust the color balance a bit. But what makes things really complicated is that in age of Photoshop, everybody is a potential colorist, too. Given the difficulty and expense of producing color artwork “back in the day”, a lot of stuff was done without coloring, and some people enjoy the challenge of what Ted Turner used to call “colorizing” it.

At its peak, this is an art form unto itself, creating new beauty where none existed before. And I’d have no word against it, except that I’d purely love to know what I’m looking at when I see it — and the way the web tends to strip images from their metadata and attributions, that can be a problem. If it’s done well, you won’t know unless you’re familiar with the uncolored source image. Done a little less well, the image will look “wrong” — the colors will seem inappropriate to the era. But all that does for a blogger like me is create stress — I’m always encountering wonderful vintage art that I’m amazed to discover existed in the era it came from. So when I see some wonderful colorful erotic thing that “looks wrong”, is it my knowledge that’s defective, or the color taste of some unknown photoshop wizard? There’s never a way to tell.

My own color taste is very poor; not only am I a man who never got the “goes with” briefing, but I’m one of the 10% or so of men whose color vision is nonstandard and thus unreliable. So when I’m “cleaning up” an image, I leave the colors the hell alone. But when I encounter an image where the colors “look wrong” to me, I face two choices … trust my gut and ignore the image, or share it anyway, hoping that it’s pretty (either “naturally” from its own era, or as the product of a modern improver) to people whose color taste is better than my own.

This mini essay is by way of explaining that I waffled long and hard over the harem girl image that follows. I suspect she’s been heavily “improved” by a Photoshop artist with a fairly heavy hand, but she’s still pretty, and in this case, I’m not actually certain:

Source, of course, is a Tumblr, meaning it’s the usual dead end where attribution and provenance is concerned.

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Oh, my, yes. I’m sure a little disturbance could be arranged:

Via Usenet.

Given that I’ve posted numerous times about the popularity of the Hitachi Magic Wand (and not for use as a “back massager”, either), it only seems fair to share this hilarious tweet from @Mollena, who is not numbered among those fans:

IMO the Hitachi’s like a Leprechaun doing “Riverdance” on my business. Too much. My DMZ is sensitive. I orgasm on bumpy bus rides.

Now THAT is an ominous shadow!

Artwork is by Otis Sweat, I believe.

This pretty blonde comes to us from the cover of a pulp novel called Naked and Alone, found at Deroli: